▍同情疲乏
人的大腦內建同理與同情的機制,所以旁人的創傷才會如此深刻地影響我們,這是一部分的原因。不過,如同其他的生理或心理能力,過度使用同情心會導致能力上的耗盡,彈性疲乏。
想像一下,一大早就聽女兒抱怨上學有多糟,接著上班花了兩個小時調解意見嚴重分歧的下屬,開車回家的路上又要聽朋友講她最近離婚離得很難看……一整天下來,會發現自己已經很難再同理另一半—但他也只不過想發洩一下生活上的不如意—不是說你不再關心他們了,只是就像是上健身房鍛鍊之後,腿部肌肉會變得又累又抖,大腦的同情神經迴路在重度使用過後也同樣需要休息。
同情疲乏(compassion fatique,亦譯「憐憫耗竭」)的症狀不只是同理失靈,還可能伴隨漠不關心、注意渙散、完美主義、死板固執、負面思考、暴躁易怒、自尊低落等,還可能會讓你工作起來不那麼得心應手,這點在需要發揮同理心的職務上會特別有感。書中提到許多好發創傷的工作,都比較容易會出現同情疲乏,畢竟治療師、照顧者、警察等在專業上都需要具備同情心,使用過度的風險也比較高。
■ 同情充實(compassion satisfaction)
用意義穩固工作的基礎,來抵銷同情疲乏。
進入同情充實的狀態之後,你會聚焦在自己做對的地方,重新灌注同情能量,慶賀自己對他人生活與整體社群的貢獻。同情充實著重力量和成長,包括你自己和曾幫助的對象都是,而不是強調工作痛苦的那一面。與同事分享成功故事、閱讀患者寄來的感謝紙條或電子郵件,或是拜訪曾陪伴其度過難過,並且現在過得很好的親戚,這些都是在透過同情充實來善待自己,也是在幫自己打個同情疲乏的預防針。
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以上文字摘自
《#療癒次級創傷》
助人工作者的自我療癒指南
Healing secondary trauma : proven strategies for caregivers and professionals to manage stress,anxiety,and compassion fatigue
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作者:楚蒂‧吉伯特—艾略特 博士(Trudy Gilbert-Eliot PhD)
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各位朋友好:
這是今天(9/19)晚上9點半贈書直播我要討論的書,抽書三本,歡迎參與。
同情疲乏的處境,我們可以想像成情緒過勞。陪伴一個受傷的人,其實是一種情緒勞動,而這種勞動如果之後沒有適當的休息,一樣會疲乏。
所以除了吃好睡好,去外面走走、適當運動,這篇摘文所說的「同情充實」也是好辦法。我們平常就可以多回想自己的成功經驗,跟重要的人連結,而不是非得要等到情緒過勞了,才想到要開始過平衡與健康的生活。
祝願您,能適量使用自己的同理心,知道接收他人的負能量,會耗損自己的身心!
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JOBBIE GOING BANKRUPT VERY SOON💸💸💸…(A gift at the end for you)
In the midst of all the incoming covid-19☢ chaos, many of you would be wondering how is a small Malaysian peanut butter🥜 brand like us doing. Frankly and thankfully we’re doing much better than a lot of other businesses. We have support from many many many kind Malaysians capable of loving like mother Theresa.👩❤👨🙏😇
⛈SAD NEWS : WE’RE RUNNING OUT OF STOCK, OPTIONS & RESOURCES…
Due to the lockdown, all of our suppliers have closed down. Suppliers for the raw peanuts, glass bottles, label stickers, boxes, you named it they closed it. We tried many options and wanted to collaborate and help out all the other desperate SME’s like us. Unfortunately, despair was the only thing we saw in their eyes 👀as some silently count the days to their demise…It made us think, ARE WE NEXT? 💔☠🙈
🗣(MUSIC) IT’S THE FINAL COUNTDOWNNNNN 🎶🎶🎶
In all desperation we have come up with a solution, a last resort, the season finale. We will be running a pre-order only for all our peanut butter for the next 45 days 📆
CRAZY, YOU’RE SELLING SOMETHING YOU DON’T HAVE RIGHT NOW AND I HAVE TO PREORDER IT FOR 45DAYS!?!”😡
That’s true and we perfectly understand by now if you wish to stop reading and leave, but if you have not…the reason is very simple. As greedy as a fat-well-suited-capitalistic-businessman🐖, we need sales aka money💰 more than ever before. Every dollar and every cent we will have to find a way to get it from anyone we can find. By doing a 45 days preorder it'll help us keep afloat and negotiate better ways to deliver and fulfilling orders faster before we "meet our maker"!
Madihah, Lucas, Hanz, Victor, Debbie, Joseph🧕🧔👱♂🤵🙋♀🙋♂
These 6 people are as human as you are. They…like you go to work every day, punch their cards, finish their jobs, go back home 🏠 to their families 👪, sleep 😴and repeat. You guessed it right, these are the people working in a small company called Jobbie. They; like you, have dreams and fears of their own, they pay their taxes and bills, like you they need money to survive (sorry for being so realistic and materialistic but that’s the brutal truth 😢).
WE GENUINELY NEED ALL OF YOUR SUPPORT! 😭❤️
We do not want to 🔥 any of our employees, we do not want to leave this beautiful home of ours called Jobbie. As selfish as it sounds we really need all the help YOU can provide… 🙏
“WELL WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME”? You might ask…💁♀
Sadly speaking were not a big corporation🏢 yet, we can’t give big promos, or raise funds like a IPO company and give you our company shares because it might not be worth anything much at the moment (we don’t even know if we’ll survive the next few weeks). What we can do is provide our most sincerest gratitude and make sure we produce the best high quality peanut butter to you once all these lockdown is over! (Also a small gift from us right at the end of this post) So if you’re up for it, read on!
“WHAT IF YOU CAN’T DELIVER WITHIN 45 DAYS”?🙅♂
No matter how many loansharks🦈 the founders have to seek, we’ll definitely return and refund your payment in cash 🤑(online bank transfer) if we can’t fulfill your orders within a maximum wait time of 45days from the time you placed your orders, we’ll refund everything. Your trust and satisfaction is our top priority🙇♂🙇♀, even if we have to lose everything we’ll never betray your faith and compassion for us! In 45 days time.
If you’re not wearing your sarong, eating your freshly ground 100% all-natural peanut butter and watching Netflix in a maximum of 45days, your money will be transferred back to your bank account safely!
“WHAT IF IT ALL WENT SOUTH???”💩💩💩
If everything ends differently from what we have planned so far and we could not rise from this battle…🔫⚔💪
This year 2020 marks the 6th year since Jobbie was born, we started from 0 selling in a mall that organised weekly small bazaars, stationed in a small booth right in-front of a public toilet🚽 (because the rental for that location was the cheapest). With a humble beginning starting from a 600sf flat, to a 900sf condo, to a 2000sf shop lot.🍻🎉🎊
The point is we do not blame any MakCik Kiah, Doreamon or government bodies. We started this with eyes wide open🤓, understanding its great potential to serve all Malaysian 🇲🇾with the most healthy and delicious peanut butter, together with all the risk and danger that came along with it! If this beautiful dream ends in the next few weeks, the only thing we want to tell you is…
“It has been an amazing ride serving many wonderful people like you (That’s if you’re still listening to our grandpa story up till now) for the past 6 years, we are immensely thankful for each and every one of our customers whom had been with us, allowing us to grow and learn while we improve by making many many mistakes 😄.” Even if you have bought a single bottle from us, we want to say “THANK YOU"! 💞💓
“LAST BUT NOT LEAST, A BRIGHT FUTURE AHEAD!”🌞🌈🌟
After the MCO, if we survive this you’ll definitely see us using the money you supported us with and putting it back in the product to provide you with the best quality while keeping it as affordable as we can. It will be the best peanut butter ever! #MakePeanutButterGreatAgain
You won’t see any of us driving a big BMW 🚘or wearing a expensive AF Rolex ⌚watches anytime soon. Heck even now the 3 founders are driving a 20 year old proudly made in Malaysia Proton Waja 🐅and a car that makes all dream possible-Myvi ✈️🚀🚢!
Many of you have told us you noticed our peanut butter tastes more potent/rich, our glass jars are getting thicker/heavier, our packaging looks more cantik as the years passed by. It’s all only possible because we reinvested every dime 💰back to thinking ways to make your lives better.
5 years from now we’ll definitely redefine natural 🍃peanut butter together and make our healthy PB that you chose the preferred choice. And commercial peanut butter that are injected💉 full with artificial BS that are harmful will be something everyone should avoid. All these would be possible with the warm hands you have so kindly reached out to us during these cold and unforgiving times! It’s us versus the world and all its cruel odds now! 🇲🇾⚔️🌎
As promise here is the gift 🎁
Promo code : LASTJOBBIE
Discount : RM10 off store-wide (no minimum order)
Period : 7/4/2020- 30/6/2020
Website : www.jobbienutbutter.com
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Sometimes to say something nice, to do something nice for others, gives you a beautiful satisfaction that money cannot buy. 做好事說好話。。。這就是一個美麗的你。這個美麗的feel..是買不到的! Kindness and compassion are free, why not share it...