THE TRAP OF COMPARISON
I remember one time when I was in first grade, my mother told me (jokingly, of course, but it still left a wound in my tender 6-year-old heart):
“The neighbor’s daughter has better grades than you. Maybe I should trade you for her instead.”
At that moment, my mind formed a limiting belief: If others are better than me, there will be less love for me.
In a desperate effort to get love, I subconsciously followed that belief for more than 20 years, trying to be an overachiever, all the time keeping vigilant watch at others’ achievement.
I was successful on the outside, but on the inside, I was a wreck. Worse, I was deeply lonely. (It’s hard to make friends when you’re so scared of their success!)
The more we think these thoughts, the smaller we feel.
This thought pattern might have been developed since your childhood, if your parents, like mine, often compared you with others.
What I learned, the hard way was that when you try to be better than others, you forget to be what you’re best at: yourself.
𝐄𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐧 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐪𝐮𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐮𝐬.
Some are lucky enough to identify it right away. Many take a bit longer to discover.
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