We are in the 3rd month of social unrest in Hong Kong. What started as a protest about a single issue--the extradition bill--has rapidly evolved into a massive movement that some have gone so far to describe as a revolution, or terrorism--depending on where you get your news.
In its initial weeks, the street protests were contained in several locations and took place over the weekends. But more recently, we’ve seen them expand to multiple districts, including the blockade of the city’s international airport, which is one of the busiest in the world. While the events are largely peaceful, we’ve also seen many nights of violent clashes between the police and protesters, as well as between protesters and alleged gang members.
The crisis is political first and foremost but along the way we’ve witnessed many psychological processes that have contributed to its evolution. I’ll just highlight a few here.
1) polarisation/dehumanisation
First, we’ve seen rapid polarisation and escalation in both physical force and in the rhetoric used by both the police and the protestors.
The polarisation is seen in police vs. protesters, blue-ribbon vs. yellow-ribbon in political spectrum (a legacy of the 2014 UM), black shirts vs. white shirts etc. The ingroup-outgroup dynamics are similar to those seen in other intergroup conflicts, including viewing outgroup members as homogenous; that problematic behaviors of a few are generalised to represent the entire group.
We are also seeing ingroup favoritism; that my fellow protestors or police officers cannot be wrong, no matter what they do. What is particularly troubling is the ethos of no condemnation and no ostracization within each of the two camps. That is, protesters will condone all forms and all means of protest and the police are allowing each other to deviate from protocol and to use excessive force. This in effect is reinforcing the radicalization of behaviors within the two opposing groups.
We’ve also seen increasing pressure to declare one’s allegiance, from celebrities and large corporations to friends and family members. People are quick to label each other as yellow or blue. This George W. Bush-style you are either with us or against us mentality is not conducive to dialogue. This is further exacerbated by the echo-chamber of social media, where most people seem to get their news from.
In its extreme form, group conflict can breed dehumanisation. We see protesters calling police officers dogs and police officers describing protesters as cockroaches. Dehumanization helps justify the use of violence against each other.
2) Hopelessness
Many have commented that the radicalisation we are seeing is driven by a pervasive sense of hopelessness, especially among young people. It is probably true that our youth do see that their future is not as bright as their predecessors. Hong Kong’s housing remains the most unaffordable on the planet, and this limits the perceived career options among young people. But we argue that those participating in the movement and those who are sympathetic to their cause remain somewhat hopeful. They are hopeful that their action--if only pervasive enough and persistent enough--can still bring upon changes. What I fear, however, is that when the movement ends and the result of it falls short of the protester’s expectations, which is very likely, true hopelessness will emerge. I don’t want to imagine what young people would resort to then.
3) Mental health
Several researchers have noted the deterioration of mental health in the past several months, even though HK as a whole is still largely safe and most people have not directly experienced violence. Pretty much everyone has seen footage of very disturbing scenes. After 9/11, it is quite clear that exposure to gruesome footage alone can have negative consequences to one’s mental health, especially among those who are particularly vulnerable to begin with.
Another factor hurting our mental health is our sleep deprivation. Most of the more attention-catching events have been unfolding in the evenings. It is difficult to switch off the tv or put down the phone when clashes between police and protesters are still ongoing. And it is understandably very difficult to sleep when these images are still fresh in our minds.
Our Chief Executive Carrie Lam has openly and quite proudly confessed that she does not need much sleep. Four to five hours, she said. Likewise, protesters and police officers have also been sleep deprived. Sleep deprivation affects our cognition and ability to regulate emotions. I’m not saying the fiasco we are in is due to our city’s pervasive lack of sleep, but it might be exacerbating our reactions to recent events.
Suggestions:
Many have offered different advice and solutions to help de-escalate the current crisis. I’m going to throw in a few more as a clinical psychologist and as a researcher.
First and foremost, a one-week truce is much needed. Everyone is exhausted. A truce will allow us to get some rest and gradually move away from a reactive, emotion-driven mode. Fear and anger--the two emotions that seem to be most pervasive in the city--can prompt us to make decisions that we might regret. With some time to rest and reflect, hopefully all parties can start to make more rational and balanced decisions.
Second, I think it is appropriate to see this crisis as a disaster. Using a disaster framework will allow us to mobilize humanitarian efforts and deploy health and mental health professionals accordingly. Importantly, under this framework, survivors need to feel safe and their feelings validated. Now might not be the right time to count scores and lay blame. That can come later. Protesters and, dare I say, frontline police officers need to be heard, regardless of how we view their politics and tactics.
Third, we need to launch a campaign to remind ourselves of our common identities--as HKers and human beings. What is particularly heartbreaking is that all parties--the protesters, the police, Ms Carrie Lam, and perhaps even the triad members--believe that they are doing the right thing to protect Hong Kong, their home.
I suggest we turn to humor and the arts. This is not to diminish our pain and suffering; it is also not to trivialize the politics. Rather, humor, theatre, poetry, sports etc. are non-destructive ways to express ourselves. They help us rehumanise one another and recognize our common humanity.
When a young lady had her right eye severely injured by a shot of bean bag earlier this week, an-eye-for-an-eye became a popular slogan. But to stop the city’s implosion, perhaps we also need to chant, let’s strive to see each other eye-to-eye.
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Have you heard about rote learning vs meaningful learning?
It’s the idea that you don’t need flash cards, abcs, “learning” drills or exercises or scheduled time for your little one but instead allow them the space to take in their rich environment and explore.
Instead of memorizing, kids learn to grasp and understand concepts fully by being given the freedom to experiment and soak in.
We have never taught my daughter abcs, no worksheet, no flash cards, no “abc” time at home or at school.
Instead we read a lot by interest, or in school, she sees her name on lots of things, asks questions, copies, follows, explores and learns at her own pace and understanding.
This last week, she pleasantly surprised us when at a restaurant, she started writing her full name. She also wrote my husband’s name, Joe, even though she had never seen it on paper (it’s usually Joseph on paper but we call him Joe for short) but knew that it was spelled J-O-E so she experimented and tried it on her own. She also asked me how to spell mama.
Notice the extra squiggles between of her practicing new letters and trying to figure it out on her own. G’s and M’s are really tricky! It’s also very common for little ones to transpose opposite (go from left to right), write in mirror image (b looks like d) or confuse their upper case and lower case letters.
Just give them time, I promise they will come around and when it clicks, oh how they will get it.
This route may be slower but so pivotal to a life long love of learning and if the schools aren’t focused on rudimentary rote learning concepts, they have more time to build the foundation for bigger things like feelings and emotions, communication and social skills, confidence and movement.
It really works, guys! 😂❤️
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《病態與變態》State of Illness vs Abnormality
(English version below)
當妳你發覺,身體某部份,或某處不舒服,且在外表上「一覽無遺」的話,那就是一種病態。那病如何來?一般的說法是,因細菌感染,又或是平日沒有把身體給照顧好。這兩種說法,都能夠理解亦沒錯。但,更細更有深度的說法是,妳你體內的陰陽失去了協調,身體就有了違和。人由陰陽二氣而生,死也由陰陽二氣而定奪。陰氣重者往三惡道。陽氣重者則昇天。這點大家不可不知啊!
當妳你有了不正的起心動念,行爲異於往常及自然,這就是變態。變態的最初,是與人的七情六慾有關。妳你祇要懂得妥善控制或打理妳你的喜、怒、憂、思、悲、恐、驚,不讓它任意奔馳的話,照理來說妳你就不是,也不算是變態。陰陽的失調,若不適時而調勻,變態更是會「搶先登場」。還有一點是不在話下的,那就是飲食。飲食得當,開心、快樂、成功、得意,等等,均呈現於臉上。是臉上不是臉書哦!(一笑)飲食是一門不簡單的學問。慶幸吾已得之。
吾,玳瑚師父,「行走江湖」已超越一個成年人的歲數矣,測過、撰過的姓名與商號,勘察過的大大小小建築物及民宅,批過的八字大運及流年,等等,實不知凡幾。閱歷過的男女老少有情中,很多都有潛伏著的病態,與即將演變成的變態。但,這些男女老少有情,始終是幸運的一群。何以見得?能得到吾,玳瑚師父,認真、正知正見的望、聞、問、切,不是幸運是什麼?尤其這幾年吾已不常見客。正所謂,行家一出手,便知有沒有。這些都是在在的幸運啊!
無論病態還或變態,都同樣是苦。而這兩種苦,也會殃及我們身邊與周圍的親人友人。也就是說,這兩種狀態會蔓延開來,傷及無辜也。若妳你覺得或認爲,妳你是具有愛心、良心的人,又怎麼捨得她他們,爲妳你而有此苦受呢?在文章的開頭,至第二段落裡,吾已簡單清楚地闡釋,何爲病態與變態。接下來就教授大家,如何對治病態與變態。有佛名「東方琉璃世界南無藥師琉璃光王佛」。另有佛名「西方極樂世界南無阿彌陀佛」。找真修行人爲祂們的金身,或法相卡開光點眼,每天向她他們真心披露懺悔,竭力持誦其聖號,迴向於自己面對的障礙。
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When you discover discomfort in some part of your body, and your outward appearance rightly reflect so, it is a state of illness.
What is the origin of illness? Typically, illnesses are caused by bacterial infection, or the lack of caring for your body. These 2 hypothesis are both comprehenable and there is nothing wrong with them. But a more detailed and deeper explanation will be, the Yin and Yang energies in your body are out of balance, causing a violation in your body system.
The human life is born from the fusion of the Yin and Yang energies, and likewise, one’s death is decided by these energies. A person with dominant Yin energies will gravitate to the lower Three Evil Paths while a person with dominant Yang energies will ascend the Heavens. This is something that all of you cannot not know!
When a non-virtuous thought arises in your mind, and your behaviour deviates from the usual normality, this is a state of abnormality. The beginning of abnormality is linked to the seven emotions and six desires in human. If you can properly manage and control your emotions of joy, anger, worry, contemplation, sadness, fear and fright, and not let them run wild, then reasonably speaking, you are not considered abnormal.
An imbalance of the Yin and Yang, when not harmonised in time, then abnormality will be the first to debut on stage. And not to mention another important factor, that is our diet. With a proper diet, feelings of happiness, joy, success and being pleased with oneself can be clearly seen on the face. It's your face that I'm talking about, not Facebook! (laughs) The knowledge of diet is not a simple one and I am fortunate that I have acquired it.
I, Master Dai Hu, have been in this line longer than the number of years a young adult has lived. I have analysed and selected names for people and businesses, audited the Feng Shui of properties and residences of various sizes, analysed the Bazi and annual luck cycles of countless people.
In the people I have read, male, female, old and young, many of them have hidden illnesses and emerging state of abnormality. But these male and female, old and young sentient beings are a fortunate bunch as well. Why so?
To be able to get me, Master Dai Hu, to look, listen, ask and feel the pulse of their issues with seriousness, right knowledge and view. If this isn't good fortune, then what is it? Even more so given that I do not see many clients these few years.
As the saying going, when the pro makes his move, difficult problems get solved easily. They are truly indeed fortunate!
Be it illness or abnormality, they are all sufferings. These two types of sufferings will bring trouble to our family and friends around us. Simply put, these two conditions will sprawl out to hurt innocent ones. If you consider yourself a loving and kind-hearted person, how can you bear to be the root cause of such sufferings in others ?
In the beginning of this article and second paragraph, I have elaborated on what illness and abnormality are in simple and clear terms.
Now, I will teach everybody how to treat them. There is a Buddha named Medicine Buddha of the Eastern Pure Land, and another named Amitabha Buddha of the Western Pure Land. Get an accomplished
Look for an accomplished master to consecrate their statues, or thangkas. Everyday, confess your misdeeds to Them and repent sincerely and honestly. Do your utmost to recite Their holy names daily, and dedicate the merits to removing the obstacles you face.