THE TRUTH ABOUT HAPPINESS
I was on a road trip to the forest with my friend Becky, when she told me something she’d recently learned.
“We often think that we’re happy when we relax, like watching a favorite TV show, for example,” Becky said, her hands steady on the steering wheels, eyes fixed on the road ahead.
“But research shows that we’re most happy when we’re working on something meaningful to us, when we’re in flow.”
I think that’s why so many of us are feeling unhappy. Despite our nice apartment and our good salary, we feel “something is missing.”
Barbara Sher, the most candid self-help author I know, advised:
“Don’t fool yourself by making lists in your head of all the great things in your life. Happy people don’t have to make lists.”
I remember laughing out loud when I read this.
This advice is controversial. Every guru is telling us to practice gratitude. “Make a list of 10 things you’re grateful for every day!”
While I believe there is a virtue in this practice, I also see the truth in Barbara Sher’s advice.
The discontent you feel is valid. You’re not being difficult, spoiled, or ungrateful. This pain is your soul calling you to where you were born for.
My coach Bev Barnes, founder of the Soul’s Calling Academy, calls this Divine Discontent.
Don’t let gratitude practice, or any other spiritual practice, to numb this pain, to muffle this call.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞.
Be honest with yourself and admit what isn’t working.
So stop running away. Feel the angst, the emptiness, the frustration.
Then ask your heart:
“What is the one tiny thing I can do to start finding the work I belong?”
And listen when it whispers the answer.
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愛情36「題」❤️
讓陌生人迅速相愛的36個問題
Time to fall in love?
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《紐約時報》報導:
曼迪·萊恩·卡特隆(Mandy Len Catron)為「現代愛情」專欄寫了一篇文章《如何快速與陌生人相愛》,她在文中提到心理學家阿瑟·亞倫(Arthur Aron)等人的研究成果:兩個陌生人之間的親密關係或許可以通過彼此詢問一些特別的個人化問題而快速升溫。這36個問題分為三組,一組比一組來得尋根究底。
這個理論的核心是,共同的脆弱能促進親近感。這項研究的作者們稱:「同伴之間發展親密關係的關鍵模式在於持續、逐步升級、相互且個人化的袒露自我。」允許自己和另一個人共享脆弱可能非常困難,下面這個練習能迫使你做到這一點。
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Set I 第一組 ❤️
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
如果可以在世界上所有人中任意選擇,你想邀請誰共進晚餐?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
你想成名嗎?想以什麼方式成名?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
打電話之前你會先排練一下要說什麼嗎,為什麼?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
對你來說,「完美」的一天是什麼樣的?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
你上次自己唱起歌來是在什麼時候,給別人唱呢?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
如果你能活到90歲,同時可以一直保持30歲時的心智或身體,你會選擇保持哪一種呢,心智還是身體?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
你是否曾經秘密地預感到自己會以怎樣的方式死去?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
說出三件你和你的伴侶看上去相同的特徵。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
人生中的什麼東西最令你感激?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
如果你能改變被撫養成人過程中的一件事,會是哪一件。
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
花四分鐘時間,儘可能詳細告訴伴侶你的人生經歷。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
如果你明天一覺醒來就能擁有某種才能或能力,你希望那會是什麼能力呢?
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Set II 第二組 ❤️❤️
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
如果有一個水晶球可以告訴你關於自己、人生,未來乃至任何事情的真相,你會想知道嗎?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
有沒有什麼事是你一直夢想去做而沒有去做的,為什麼沒有做?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
你人生中最大的成就是什麼?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
在一段友誼之中你最珍視的是什麼?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
你最寶貴的記憶是什麼?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
你最糟糕的記憶是什麼?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
假如你知道自己在一年內就會突然死去,你會改變現在的生活方式嗎?為什麼?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
友誼對於你來說意味着什麼?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
愛與情感在你生活中扮演着什麼樣的角色?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
和你的伴侶輪流說出心目中對方的一個好品質,每人說五條。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
你的家人之間關係是否親密而溫暖,你覺得自己的童年比其他人更快樂嗎?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
你和母親之間的關係是怎樣的?
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Set III 第三組 ❤️❤️❤️
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
每人用「我們」造三個句子,並含有實際情況,比如「我們倆在屋子裡,感覺……」
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
補完這個句子:「我希望和某人在一起,分享……」
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
如果你想和對方成為親近的朋友,請告訴對方有什麼重要的事情是他或她需要知道的。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
告訴對方你喜歡他或她身上的什麼東西,要非常誠實,說些你不會對萍水之交說的東西。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
和對方分享生命中那些尷尬的時刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
你上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候?自己哭呢?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
告訴對方,你已經喜歡上了他或她身上的什麼品質。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
你覺得什麼東西是嚴肅到不能開玩笑的,假如有的話。
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
如果你今晚就將死去,而且沒有機會同任何人聯絡,你會因為之前沒有對別人說什麼話而感到遺憾,你為什麼到現在都沒有對他們說這些話呢?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
假設你擁有的全部東西都在你的房子里,現在房子着了火,救出家人和寵物之後,你還有機會安全地衝進去最後一次,取出最後一件東西,你會拿什麼,為什麼?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
你的家人中,誰去世了會令你最難過,為什麼?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
說出一件你的個人問題,問對方如果遇到此事要如何解決。另外,也要讓對方如實告訴你,在他或她眼中,你對於這個問題的感受是怎樣的。
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Tag someone who needs these questions~
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3 months ago, I was on a road trip with my friend Becky, when she told me something new she’d learned.
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“We often think that we’re happy when we relax, like watching a favorite TV show, for example,” Becky said, her hands steady on the steering wheels, eyes fixed on the road ahead.
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“But research shows that we’re most happy when we’re working on something meaningful to us, when we’re in flow.”
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I think that’s why so many of us are feeling unhappy, despite our nice apartment and our good salary.
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We notice in our body a quiet discontent, a deep longing to wake up doing what we are born to do, instead of what we’re supposed to do.
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Barbara Sher, probably the most candid self-help author I know, wrote: “Don’t fool yourself by making lists in your head of all the great things in your life. Happy people don’t have to make lists.”
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I remember laughing out loud when I read this.
This advice can be controversial since every gurus are telling us to practice gratitude. “Make a list of 10 things you’re grateful for!”
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While I believe there is virtue in this practice, I also see the truth in Barbara Sher’s advice.
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You need to let yourself feel the discontent of not following your purpose. Be honest with yourself and admit what isn’t working.
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The discontent you feel is valid. You’re not being difficult, spoiled or ungrateful. The pain is your soul calling you to go where you were born for.
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Don’t let gratitude practice, or any spiritual practice, be an anesthesia for this pain, to muffle this call.
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Stop running away. Feel the angst, the emptiness, the frustration.
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Then ask your heart: “What is the one tiny thing I can do to start finding the work I belong?”
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And listen when it whispers the answer.
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IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: Some people may see my video titles as click-bait. YouTubers optimise their video's meta data for discovery due to how the algorithm is like. This isn't anything new. Most people who've been watching YouTube for years would understand this. If you're unhappy and get triggered by this, well, this channel isn't for you then. I’ve provided free workout schedules and programs since day 1 and have always optimised my meta data as such so that's not going to change.
Having said that, it doesn't mean the workout do not work. You will still see results by following a suitable program schedule, watching your diet, being in a deficit or surplus (based on your goals), doing exercises in good form, etc. These are all equally important factors. You're not going to get abs, grow a booty, grow biceps magically from 1 or 2 videos, in 1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks cause everyone is different. I've explain multiple times throughout videos throughout my channel over years that it takes time and lots of factors, so don't take a video title out of context. Targetting fat loss is not scientifically proven. Everyone is different and it takes time.
When doing any home workouts, do take precaution to exercise in a safe environment, and if you need help or you're not seeing results, I suggest seeing a health and fitness professional to give you tailored advice on your exercise form and dietary needs. I am not a medical professional and what I share on my channel are my views and what has worked for myself. Your health and safety is the utmost importance so find out what works for you.
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#MackyQuotes
Live to me is more spontaneous and I'm able to show my real feelings without editing it or worrying about commiting mistakes, any words at all. "
"Recording makes me feel I have to be perfect."
Yana Sy "I'm always thankful and happy that I'm back in the field and I'm always grateful about that one."
"It's not about passing. I'm able to do things that I'm supposed to do."
"I'm just happy,blessed,and grateful about it."
"I was focused on people giving pieces of advice and helping people on Facebook, appears it from prizes, gcash and load. I'm happy doing that. "
"I was really happy doing that sense I believe it became my therapy."
"I'm also grateful that I have my Macky Agents on my group, on my Facebook page because they are the one to make someone friend. "
"I thanking them and I was grateful. The help, support and love they show me even though they don't know me at all. "
"Things that happened to me in the past when I was young. Things that I think no one should feel it. "
"Things happen in the past are worthy in the past."
"Though I look back to the past sometimes, it doesn't necessarily that it contributed to my depressive episode that I have. "
"Im recovering very well and thanks God everything is really really well."
"I'm just thanking God for me giving me a chance to go back to field because that's the only thing that will solve my problem. "
"I'm just thanking God for me giving me a chance to go back to field because that's the only thing that will solve my problem. "
"I'm able to balance my life a lot easier now. My time management go a lot better."
"One of the things that I love to myself is I dont believe to myself but some just one.
"I believe that there is always in this everything like motivational speaking, dancing, and singing. "
"Grew up as a Filipino having nothing at all, I've just wanted to try everything what I could. "
"I've been doing all the things that I love in the past few years."
"Thanks God for my work and thanks God for the blessings that I've been receiving from him. "
"I know that I don't deserved it all that's why I'm sharing."
Be grateful, count your blessings."
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"Do what you love, sharing is happiness."
"Dancing is expression, express yourself."
"Happiness should be our priority."
"Happiness and recovery is still your main goal and priority."
"If I don't like things that I'm not comfortable with or I'm not happy with, I will make sure that I will not do it unless I will prioritize the things that will makes me happy."
"I will just follow what my guts are telling."
"Trust your instinct, science cannot explain it."
"I'm more rational in making decisions. I always counting it weighing things. "
"The process, and the consequences of the things that I will do."
"Making decisions is never gonna be easy. And I'm getting back on it."
"Im getting good on it again. I would say that those are the things I say. I am recovering well. "
"Trust but verify it."
"Trusting but verifying your clients especially when your client is overwhelmingly. Change a lot in just a short time. "
"Your will is stronger than any medications."
"I've change a lot in short time because my will to move on, my will to recover, and to fight are so strong. "
"I'm so strong that's the reason I recovered well."
"Great support system contributes to fast recovery."
The medications, and the prayers that I've got from my Macky Agents, from my friends and my family members, from everyone, and the support of God, and the love I felt from them. Those are the things that contributed me a lot to a fast recovery. "
Knowing and talking to people I don't know. And being able to interact with them and let them understand my situation, at the same time connecting to them, giving them pieces of advice. Knowing that there are people who reach out to me, who have problems not just financially but as well as depression, family problems, love problems, it makes me happy."
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IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: Some people may see my video titles as click-bait. YouTubers optimise their video's meta data for discovery due to how the algorithm is like. This isn't anything new. Most people who've been watching YouTube for years would understand this. If you're unhappy and get triggered by this, well, this channel isn't for you then. I’ve provided free workout schedules and programs since day 1 and have always optimised my meta data as such so that's not going to change.
Having said that, it doesn't mean the workout do not work. You will still see results by following a suitable program schedule, watching your diet, being in a deficit or surplus (based on your goals), doing exercises in good form, etc. These are all equally important factors. You're not going to get abs, grow a booty, grow biceps magically from 1 or 2 videos, in 1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks cause everyone is different. A title may come close to suggesting that, but I've explain multiple times throughout videos throughout my channel over years that it takes time and lots of factors, so don't take a video title out of context. Targetting fat loss is also not scientifically proven. Everyone is different and it takes time.
When doing any home workouts, do take precaution to exercise in a safe environment, and if you need help or you're not seeing results, I suggest seeing a health and fitness professional to give you tailored advice on your exercise form and dietary needs. I am not a medical professional and what I share on my channel are my views and what has worked for myself. Your health and safety is the utmost importance so find out what works for you.