【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
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❤️We believe a person seeking support is not weak. People who are willing to ask for help are truly strong and courageous.
小叮噹常用圓手取出法寶救人
你我身上也總有些獨特的法寶
有人把白旗🏳️舉高而獲得援救
但那些沒辦法用白旗尋求的事呢?
有人已在恐懼面前下跪求饒
有人持續和不安的情緒對抗
疫情幾時結束沒人知道 但
你多久沒有聯絡你的好友知己了
打個電話 傳個簡訊 細膩聆聽 投食送暖 隔空擁抱
只要你想到的 做就對了
像小叮噹一樣用圓手把你的法寶 拿出來吧!
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📮為何計劃名稱是伸出「圓手」,
這啓發自小叮噹 (哆啦A夢)
我們應該向小叮噹學習的除了撒嬌的語氣之外,更該學習他每次在大雄需要幫忙時, 總會伸出他的圓手義不容辭地拿出很多法寶幫助他,他甚至犧牲自己去救人一命, 我們除了可以學習他捨己救人的精神, 同時也希望此刻需要幫忙的你不要害羞地把手高舉讓我們看見你,讓我們助你一把, 因為我們也走過這一段,或許我們給不到你任意門, 但至少能借你竹蜻蜓來渡過難關。
我們相信
尋求幫助的人不是弱者
願意放下身段的人才是真正最勇敢的強者 !
你 #伸出圓手 讓我們伸出援手 !
#ReachoutNGive
#伸出圆手
#树仁培训
♥️這一次我不孤獨 我找到了 树仁培训 Giving Tree Global
陪我一起伸出圓手! 謝謝你們每一位用心付出!
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🧲Join us to【ReachoutNGive】
Why have we named the campaign Reach-Out with "round hands"? This is inspired by Doraemon!
What we learnt from Doraemon is not only his coquettish tone, but also when Nobita asks, "I’m in need of help!", he always stretches out his round hand and obliges, by taking out his array of tools to help him.
Similarly, we also hope If you need help at this moment, don’t be shy to raise your hand high to let us see you, let us help you because we have walked through this path. Maybe we can't give you magic or an Anywhere-door, but at least we can lend you a bamboo-dragonfly to overcome the difficulties.
☎️ We believe a person seeking support is not weak. People who are willing to ask for help are truly strong and courageous.
#ReachoutNGive
#GivingtreeGlobal
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你好吗?
即使你一个人,但你并不孤单。
🌸🌸🌸
如果你愿意,我们邀请您一同参与
【伸出圆手,帮助5个朋友 】企划
用任何方式帮助身边的五位朋友
记得Hashtag, 我们去为您的post 加油
谢谢 Dennis 颜小丹 号召大家 🥰
也谢谢 树仁培训 Giving Tree Global 陪我们一起响应这企划 😚
#ReachoutNGive
#伸出圆手
#树仁培训
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為何計劃名稱會是伸出「圓手」,
這啓發自小叮噹 (哆啦A夢)
我們應該向小叮噹學習的除了撒嬌的語氣之外,更該學習他每次在大雄需要幫忙時, 總會伸出他的圓手義不容辭地拿出很多法寶幫助他, 在漫畫中,同時也希望此刻需要幫忙的你不要害羞地把手高舉讓我們看見你,讓我們助你一把, 因為我們也走過這一段,或許我們給不到你任意門, 但至少能借你竹蜻蜓來渡過難關。
我們相信
尋求幫助的人不是弱者
願意放下身段的人才是真正有勇氣的強者
你 #伸出圓手 讓我們伸出援手 !
Join us to【ReachoutNGive】
Why have we named the campaign Reach-Out with "round hands"? This is inspired by Doraemon!
What we learnt from Doraemon is not only his coquettish tone, but also when Nobita asks, "I’m in need of help!", he always stretches out his round hand and obliges, by taking out his array of tools to help him.
Similarly, we also hope if you need help at this moment, don’t be shy to raise your hand high to let us see you, let us help you because we have walked through this path. Maybe we can't give you magic or an Anywhere-door, but at least we can lend you a bamboo-dragonfly to overcome the difficulties.
☎️ We believe a person seeking support is not weak. People who are willing to ask for help are truly strong and courageous.
#ReachoutNGive
#GivingtreeGlobal
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HI,同學們好,大家可能會有疑惑,網路上的木工視頻這麼多,為什麼還需要花錢購買線上木工課程呢?
第一點
木工是很專業的一門技術,要做好榫卯家具,有非常多的技巧與細節要注重,如果要在Youtube這樣的平台拍攝很詳細的教學影片,那麼影片的時數將會非常的壟長,長時間的影片就會影響觀看者的意願,會間接導致影片的推播率下降,導致拍攝者花了大量時間心力拍攝的影片無法有效地轉化成實質回饋,講白點就是廣告費極低,所以沒什麼人會願意這麼做的。因此多數的木工影片都是草草帶過有看沒有懂。
第二點
免費的線上影片沒有完整的課程規劃、內容零散,讓有心學習木工的同學,難以全面的學習,間接浪費了寶貴時間與多走不少冤枉路。
第三點
木匠養成學院在100%完成後,仍會繼續更新新課程,通過學員的回饋新增課程內容,當然在屆時課程費用勢必會再調漲,但已經購買的同學是可免費觀看,不會在額外收費,這也是為了感謝同學的支持。
第四點
我遇過不少同學,曾上過各個木工房的木工課程後,過不久就將學習過的木工知識與技巧忘的一乾二淨。如果是線上課程就可重複觀看吸收,不會有學習時限的問題。
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In this, a bit different video I'm building a drawing board, or more exactly, converting a painting board into one.
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加入木工線上課程等候名單:https://woodenren.com/b2f7
HI,同學們好,大家可能會有疑惑,網路上的木工視頻這麼多,為什麼還需要花錢購買線上木工課程呢?
第一點
木工是很專業的一門技術,要做好榫卯家具,有非常多的技巧與細節要注重,如果要在Youtube這樣的平台拍攝很詳細的教學影片,那麼影片的時數將會非常的壟長,長時間的影片就會影響觀看者的意願,會間接導致影片的推播率下降,導致拍攝者花了大量時間心力拍攝的影片無法有效地轉化成實質回饋,講白點就是廣告費極低,所以沒什麼人會願意這麼做的。因此多數的木工影片都是草草帶過有看沒有懂。
第二點
免費的線上影片沒有完整的課程規劃、內容零散,讓有心學習木工的同學,難以全面的學習,間接浪費了寶貴時間與多走不少冤枉路。
第三點
木匠養成學院在100%完成後,仍會繼續更新新課程,通過學員的回饋新增課程內容,當然在屆時課程費用勢必會再調漲,但已經購買的同學是可免費觀看,不會在額外收費,這也是為了感謝同學的支持。
第四點
我遇過不少同學,曾上過各個木工房的木工課程後,過不久就將學習過的木工知識與技巧忘的一乾二淨。如果是線上課程就可重複觀看吸收,不會有學習時限的問題。
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