Happy mid autumn festival to all my followers and friends I have yet to meet! 🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕This year we are enjoying a very different celebration as we are in quarantine! But we r so thankful for everyone that’s been sending us gifts, it’s making our stay much more enjoyable! You wouldn’t know champagne goes well with poon choi until u try it 😂
On another note, we have been trying to keep fit because… we are going to 補擺our wedding banquet this year on 7th November 2021 on our first anniversary! I’m so looking forward to celebrating with all my friends this time! #nov7 #stillmarried #1year
同時也有16部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過643的網紅Dickson Chai,也在其Youtube影片中提到,[ 10年感情的道别 | Goodbye My 10 Years Relationship ] 10年真的不短,很遗憾无法一起走到最后。 求婚了,却早已错过应该发生的时间点。 面对瓶颈考验的爱情在挽救期中感性被理性打败了,写下句号。 我们分了。我们都很不舍,但确实分了。 很抱歉,令所有期待的家人...
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【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
happy anniversary to us 在 Tiny Urban Kitchen Facebook 的最佳解答
Whaaaaa??! Cannot believe it, but we are celebrating 20 YEARS of marriage today. Photos shown: 1) Us walking to MIT from @crossbridgebos in Lexington in 1998 2) Wedding Day 2001 3) 10-year anniversary shoot with @emilyku 4) last week celebrating with @sushishikon @kaki_sashimi 5) @wagyumafiahk 6) @ando.hkg @agux1988 7) @mott32hk 8) heh heh HK waffles! 😆 @mammypancake.hk From college sweethearts not knowing where we were going to lifelong partners navigating crazy world events together in HK, life has certainly been a ride I never expected. A full reflection of our celebrations these past 20 years are on the blog. #linkinprofile #ontheblog Happy 20th! ❤️ #anniversary #tinyurbanhk #tinyurbankitchen #hkiger https://instagr.am/p/CTSTSFxJ3Ei/
happy anniversary to us 在 Dickson Chai Youtube 的最佳貼文
[ 10年感情的道别 | Goodbye My 10 Years Relationship ]
10年真的不短,很遗憾无法一起走到最后。
求婚了,却早已错过应该发生的时间点。
面对瓶颈考验的爱情在挽救期中感性被理性打败了,写下句号。
我们分了。我们都很不舍,但确实分了。
很抱歉,令所有期待的家人朋友失望了。
这10年里她对我很好,无可挑剔;而我做不好的我全都承认,是我的理所当然及舒适心态导致了今天的所有,我诚心道歉。
对于一直关心我俩的亲朋好友,感恩过去所有的祝福,也谢谢这些年的见证。
对于曾煽动我们分手的朋友们,抱歉拖了那么久,往后不需煽动了。
我特别要感谢彼此的家人、爱我们的家人们。这些年让大家心中累计的担忧及不满实在不应该,让大家操心了,诚恳地鞠躬致歉。谢谢这些年的爱与包容,打从心里的感恩,谢谢。
在这里,至这位10年前为我化妆而邂逅的,10年来风雨不改以我为先的,让我在爱情里一夜长大的她 – Mey ,谢谢你一切付出、包容、体谅及信任,完整了我生活许多的缺失区块,也为我生命彩出了鲜艳的色彩。谢谢你总无条件地支持我每个决定,即使以世界为敌你还是站在我身旁。谢谢你无限的精神鼓励,让我即使在烂透的状态下也努力撑过去,因为我知道至少还有你这位铁粉的守候。万语千言在心中说不尽,我想你知道的。谢谢你,真心真心地谢谢你。正如我十年前为你写的歌 – “美丽意外“里的歌词,至今,我仍觉得遇见你是个美丽的意外,真的。
容我忍泪再次公开说,Mey, 我爱你。
面对10年感情的结束,难过是肯定的。
即使平时爱笑的我们,也为这次的句号流了好多公升的泪。但我们答应彼此会带着所有开心的记忆把对方放在心中一个特别的位置。换了身份,没了昵称,不管未来缘分如何,我们都会是彼此继续珍惜的那位。
最后,公开这首十年前写给她的歌,也是十年后我重新录制十周年版本向她求婚的作品。MV里记录了过去十年的精选画面,婚没求得成,但我们都认为这首歌是纪念这10年的最初;10年的最终,最佳的礼物,也要谢谢歌曲的幕后团队 :佳旺 (金马旺) 的 编曲 / 制作 / 录音 /配唱 ,沁嘉 的 合音编写 / 合音 , 文浩 的混音。他们是少数知道我求婚计划也期待着好消息的朋友。。。可惜让你们失望了,谢谢你们的一切付出与耐心,我都真心感激。
爱情其实只有你和我,但考虑到彼此有太多共同朋友,为了避免揣测还是决定做个交代。谢谢大家这十年的祝福。当你看到这贴文时我俩的脸书感情状态应该已经更新。
是很意外,连我俩都为这样的今天感到意外,如果是注定意外,至少让它是个 [美丽意外],好吗?
爱要及时,记得好好珍惜依然在你身边的那位,衷心祝福大家。
缘起缘灭感恩一切,合十。
10 years, regret that we couldn’t make it till the end.
I proposed, but had missed the right timing to do it right.
After went through the consideration period, rational beat sentimental, it ended.
Yes, we broke up. It’s really hard to accept, but yes, we broke up.
Truly regret to all friends and families’ members who had expectation on us.For the past 10 years, she’s perfect. For all the wrong which I made, I’ll take all the blame. I’m truly sorry, for the relationship which I care so much.
To all friends who care about both of us throughout these 10 years, thanks for witnessing us.
To those who didn’t expect good ending, sorry for the long waiting.
I would like to specially thank both of our family’s members. I can understand all the worries and dissatisfactions throughout the years. Really shouldn’t allow those to happen. I Sincerely apologize. Sorry.
Hereby, I would like to thank her, the girl I crushed into when she did make up for me 10 years ago, the girl who always put me as priority for the past 10 years, the girl who used 10 years’ time to grew me up in the world of love – Mey , Thank you for everything, you completed a lot of my missing part in life and had brighten up my days with different colours. Thanks for always standing by my side although when the world disagree on me. Thanks for your bottomless mental support which let me went through lots of down time as I always know there’ll at least be a super fans forever, it’s you. As of now, I still feel like knowing you is 1 of the most beautiful accident in life, and you able to calmed me down whenever and wherever you were around. It’s more than words, I’m sure you knew it, thank you so much, sincerely.
Allow me to hold my tears and say this 1 more time openly, Mey, I love you, as always.
10 years long run coming to an end, for sure it’s really hurt and sad.
But we’ll promise to bring along all happy memories and place each other at a special point in our heart. You will always be a person that I care about.
Lastly, sharing out the song I wrote for her 10 years ago, and it’s being re-produced again into a 10th year anniversary version for my proposal purpose. The MV are made by all key moments we been through together. Although my proposal failed, but we do think it’s a best way to conclude and remember those 10 years, from the beginning to the end. Thanks to the song production team : Keon Chia (Golden Horse Award Winner 2020) for Music Arrangement, Produce, Recording, Vocal Guide. Thanks to Isabell Jia Jia for the background Vocal & Background Vocal Arrangement. Thanks to Haw Vee for the Mixing. They were the few who knew my proposal plan and awaiting the good news …. However, sorry to let you all down. Thanks to all the effort, it’s my honor to have you guys in this important journey and I deeply appreciate it in heart.
Love actually is just you & me, but we decided to explain about this to avoid any assumptions as we got too many mutual friends. Thanks to all lovely wishes for the past 10 years. When you see this post, I believe our relationship status on FB had changed.
Yes it’s really an accident to our relationship, even to ourselves. If it’s meant to be an accident, at least let it be a “Beautiful Accident”.
Always express your LOVE before too late and appreciate he/her who still together with you. Best wishes to everyone.
With Love, Sorry and Thanks.
#美丽意外 #BeautifulAccident #ThanksForEverything #LOVE
Music Production Team
美丽意外 (2020十周年版)
OP :Musictoxin Productions
SP: Universal Music Publishing Sdn. Bhd.
词Lyrics : Dickson蔡迪伸
曲Composer : Dickson蔡迪伸
编Arranged by : Keon Chia谢佳旺 @Burger Music Studio
制作Produced by : Keon Chia谢佳旺 / Dickson蔡迪伸
混音 Mixed by : Haw Vee魏文浩 @musicHaws Production
和音编写Back up vocal arranged by : Isabell潘沁珈
和音Back up vocal by : Isabell潘沁珈
录音室Recording Studio : Tutti Studio
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happy anniversary to us 在 Chanwon Youtube 的最讚貼文
Hello Sweeties fam! Thank you for checking my video this week and so happy to share this video with you. I thought of getting you guys to know more about my life and few days ago, we just celebrated our one decade journey, yeah!! OUR 10TH ANNIVERSARY 我還真不敢相信竟然那麼久了! Time flies and to celebrate this special day I have decided to bring Smelly out for a weekend staycation in the city of KL.
We also spent our day with delicious food and a great shopping time. Bought so many new clothes for both of us! Hope you enjoy this little vlog video 十年了可以公開灑狗糧了 哈哈!!
See you on every Thursday at 9pm!
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happy anniversary to us 在 Ghost Island Media 鬼島之音 Youtube 的最佳解答
It’s our one-year anniversary! Hurray! We were launched last year on Earth Day as a sarcastic podcast fighting against greenwashing. The show has since become so much more.
For this special episode, Nature N8 looks back on his journey with our new production assistant, Yu-Chen. They interview almost everyone who had a hand in creating Waste Not Why Not, and find out what it really means to work on a science podcast.
SHOW NOTES
Chris Lo created the theme song for the Waste Not Why Not — thanks Chris!
Other sounds include:
“Iyvantha from Public Domain Soundtrack Music Album One” by John_Bartmann: https://freemusicarchive.org/music/John_Bartmann/Public_Domain_Soundtrack_Music_Album_One/iyanetha
“Party Pack, Horn Coil 01, Long, 01.wav” by Inspector with CC0 1.0 Universal (CC0 1.0) Public Domain Dedication: https://freesound.org/people/InspectorJ/sounds/484267/
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SHOW CREDIT
Emily Y. Wu (Producer / Editing)
https://twitter.com/emilyywu
Nate Maynard (Producer)
https://twitter.com/N8MAY
Yu-Chen Lai (Production Assistant)
https://twitter.com/aGuavaEmoji
Thomas Lee (Brand Design)
Ghost Island Media (Production Company)
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www.ghostisland.media
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