This was #FatimahOmarMukhlis exactly 2 years ago, on 18th July 2019 - 2 months after her beloved Mamajee @adamdidam passed away. The photos were taken at 2.16 in the morning. These are the raw images of pain. These are the proof of love.
I have never shared these photos before plus many other photos too. So why am I sharing it now then?
Well, when my sisters lost our brother @adamdidam and my parents lost their son, I lost my daughter too. Yes, my old Fatimah was lost when her Mamajee passed away. It was too painful to watch her suffering. And I know many of you were worried and concerned about her too but some just simply refused to understand and preferred to keep on being insensitive, ignorant, judgmental and whatnot.
And the reason why I chose to share it today is because…when I woke up this morning, these photos popped up in the phone memory. As soon as I saw them, I cried. And I’ve decided to share them with all of you. Not so you can cry too but so you know the truth. So you know the pain. So you know that grief is real. So you know that it is not attention seeking. So you know that kids grieve too.
But why do they grieve? Aren’t they too young to understand? How can they grieve? Do the parents force them to grieve? No, because they are just normal human beings like all of us adults too. Yes, simply because they are human too, you know.
Kids have feelings too. They were born with a heart that can feel the exact same things that we feel. They can feel happiness and they too can feel the sadness. And our role as adults is to treat them like a real ‘human’ - be understanding, caring, nurturing, sensitive, supportive and guide them. Don’t just treat them like a joke or a laughing stock! Don’t belittle their feelings. Acknowledge their feelings. Allow them to be happy. Allow them to be sad.
And I’m glad that I kept Fatimah away so she can fully grieve. And I’m beyond blessed that we are surrounded by supportive family and friends who not only acknowledge Fatimah’s grief but also fully supported her to get back up and wake up from her deep wound…Alhamdulillah, she has come back stronger! 💪🏻
It’s ok to grieve,
Mrs Mom
#wisemomsays
#GRIEFAWARENESS 🤍
