昨天跟Patrick在電話裡聊了四五個小時,其實之前也常常講電話,網內互打免費,但是昨天是很深入的聊。
我前陣子一直在生Patrick的氣。
原因很多,都混在一起,比如說他一直說要學中文,但是根本沒在學,導致我每次都要當他的翻譯,很累,他來兩個月,每次認識新朋友我就要把同樣的話再翻一次;比如說他一直說他很想在台灣留久一點,要在台灣找工作,但是又不認真找;比如說明明知道明天約早上的時間,前一天又會看美劇到四五點才睡,然後隔天喊累;比如說他會看到什麼就想做什麼,一下子要當離岸的風力發電工程師,一下子說要當空服員,一下子又說可以找看看當英文老師或德語老師的工作,然後一個月之後就說不想了;比如說不夠獨立 (在台北住了兩個月還不會倒垃圾、要去哪裡搭客運搭火車都要先問我.... );比如說要去日本徒步旅行、要在台灣單車環島、要在東南亞大健行 blah blah blah,然後根本沒有在準備,只是三不五十想到就講一下 "Do you think I can....?" "Do you think it's possible...?";比如說一直在靠北錢不夠用又一直亂花錢...
我真的覺得很煩!真的很煩,就是只要聽到他說話就會覺得很煩想翻白眼的狀態。
他就是聽到什麼那種一下子就很興奮,然後什麼是都講的很確定,過分樂觀,別人跟他說什麼他都聽不進去就是要做,然後我就是很容易把這些他說要做的事放在心上的人。
到後來我真的很難去拿捏到底什麼話我要放在心上,什麼話我要忘記,導致後來只要他又提出什麼新的點子,我都會不置可否的說"你高興就好",或是舊事重提,但他都沒有真的去做,我也會忍不住酸他一下,回話口氣容易變得很差,也會語帶諷刺。
然後他就會很不爽的說 :
"Why don't you just shut up..."
"I don't like the way you are talking."
(有時候半開玩笑,但換我不爽)
然後就會搞得有點僵。
反正有一陣子我們都知道我們都還是很在意彼此,很愛彼此,可是在一起都有點壓力跟怨懟,那一陣子我也氣到一直在跟朋友說他的壞話。
直到有一次他要到桃園機場送兩位沙發客的機,所以放我跟Mateja鴿子 (那時候我跟M都超氣他的,因為M當晚要離台,他已經說好要跟M見面,但是後來決定跟剛見面的沙發客去喝酒),然後,居然還傳訊息來問我知不知道從板橋要怎麼坐車到機場。
"你下次可不可以自己先google後再問我,我沒住過板橋,我真的不知道!"
那一次之後我就刻意的疏離他,不主動打電話傳訊息給他,也不會去哪裡都約他,他也知道我在生他的氣,所以也不太敢找我。
但是這樣的疏離,兩個也找到了一個比較舒服的距離,所以一個禮拜之後又好了。只是我們一直都沒聊這一段。
我在沉澱的那一個禮拜,一直在反省自己,在想我是不是太想控制他人了,是不是我的耐心太低,是不是期望太高,還是怎樣。我要怎麼樣抓到一個最適當的距離,讓自己不要試圖去干涉他人的生活,學習放下,let go of control。真的超難!
昨天我們不知道聊到什麼,就把這些都說開了,是很理性聊天的方式,沒有怒罵也沒有意圖控制,就是說話。
他跟我道歉,說他知道自己很善變,很容易euphoric,也不讓人家管,聽不進人家的話,但卻很依賴我,常常只選擇看正面忽略事情的全貌,只尋求短暫享樂因為他真的不知道他未來可以做什麼....
我也跟他道歉,說我不該把我的期待放在他身上,不應該認為他應該要怎麼樣,不應該常常用passive aggressive 的態度跟他說話,我說,他有自己的歷程要走,他有自己的方式,這些都是他自己的選擇,我要學習給他自由跟空間和時間。
(講的一付我們好像母子一樣,不過說真的,在他來台灣的這段時間,我就是一直在練習"分離課題",因為真的很像親子關係。他初來乍到一個全新的環境,而我是一個偏照顧者的角色。)
anyway...
最後,我跟他都同意,反正只剩下一個半月,從現在開始,不要再執著要學中文了,不要再執著要找工作了,也不要想說要回來了,就是只能待到四月中,就是這樣。
「你就當作上飛機的那一刻,就是要死了,我去機場送機的時候,就當作是你的喪禮!你就只能再活一個半月,我們就好好享受你在台灣的最後時間吧!」
「哈哈哈,你剛剛說的這句話,很適合當某航空公司的slogan喔!因為有很大的機率會成真喔~~」
噗!
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我是苡絃,這裡是人助旅行
同時也有2部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過11萬的網紅Lukas Engström,也在其Youtube影片中提到,Against better judgment and all possible safety regulations, I once again got tricked into checking out an extremely dangerous mountain hike in Taiwan...
i m possible 中文 在 提提研 Facebook 的最佳貼文
Hello TT handsome boss,
我是從香港來的,小姓王,現在是TT 的小FANS,高中起在英國攻讀心理學和人力資源&管理。我對美容充滿熱誠,至十六歲起不斷自費試用新產品,努力看工具書吸收更多美容知識。幾月前妹妹向我大大力推介TT 的生物纖維面膜天山雪蓮,當時我這個從外國回流的研究生卻忙著試用各國新產品(當時在驚訝意大利百年藥廠產品),所以直到上個月才用了人生第的第一塊TT!!(但我的第一塊是HA不是天山雪蓮XD 因為我一直都慣性使用自購品,好朋友送的可以插隊)脫下面膜的一刻簡直令我立即跌入愛河。And.... O-M-G! I want to cry!! This is just so goodd!!! 比起所用過的面膜,好用的程度會令人尖叫!所以!!!我泛起了一直想用下去的決心,而且不斷推介身邊朋友去買哦!
加上我,其實呢,原本也已有成立網站或從事美容行業的熱心,可是有感香港美容界這年太過泡沫化,小店水貨店一直冒起,我一直還在想新Marketing Strategy, 等待新的機會,加上局勢香港的局勢還有點亂,覺得還未到時候。但用TT後驚為天人後的程度令我覺得機會來了!好想好想把TT 傳開去。同一時間,身邊有朋友在成立網上商店測試水溫。Sadly, 我知道 colourmix HK 是獨家代理,可以請問一下,我還有沒有機會把TT 再擴大市場,作為網上的小代理,在網上開通更多的販賣通道(全中國及會郵全球的網站)嗎?(誠實地加上,我真的私心想把一大堆好用的TT扛回家慢慢用~)
請原諒我文筆不夠腦闆你清晰有力(話說我好久未有打一大篇中文,文法可能還有錯),不過我知道你們不會介意的啦!你們的美德我都聽說過了,哈哈!!最後,請問香港美容展會可以買到TT Mask 嗎?希望下星期美容展會見到你們囉!到時見!亦希望有合作的機會吧!謝謝 ^^
Have a nice day!
Best Regards,
Kathy
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二天後來香港展位買了很多貨回去又寫了第二封信
Dear TT team,
It doesn't matter how others people treated you if the world has judge you wrong. I am so excited to see you all today in HK and I wish I have the chance to meet everyone of you! Thanks for creating the brand and let every possible women in the world to live in the timeless beauty. I am very contended and have a great day today just by making the visiting and purchasing all these brilliant face masks 💓 I want to share the joy and happiness to you all and I hope you feel the same too. 😊 Thankyou xxx
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腦闆:「Kathy妳跟我們業務一哥Andy很配啊,在一起!在一起!在一起!」
i m possible 中文 在 Lukas Engström Youtube 的最佳貼文
Against better judgment and all possible safety regulations, I once again got tricked into checking out an extremely dangerous mountain hike in Taiwan. This time it was New Taipei City's Sanxia Wu Liao Jian (五寮尖).
Although I do NOT recommend anyone to actually check out this hike, I recommend EVERYONE to check out this video and the drone footage in the end which shows the insane climb down after spending around 2 hours climbing up the mountain using nothing but ropes, blood, sweat and tears.
Please share this video with everyone you think should check out the beautiful nature of Taiwan, and please let me know what you think we should check out next!
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i m possible 中文 在 Lukas Engström Youtube 的精選貼文
(English below!)
我們今天去一日旅行到烏來瀑布!我帶了一些朋友還有借一台空拍機第一次去烏來瀑布!超漂亮!
我們也搭一個很特別的小火車從烏來站直接到瀑布!超推薦的!
很可惜今天外面的溫泉為了安全休業,瀑布空中纜車也為了修理休業。但是我們還有一個真的不錯的一天,也希望你還喜歡看這個影片!
其實,有一些人已經跟我聯絡,想請我來特別的地方,飯館這類的拍一下。如果你也想請我來哪裡,可以用[email protected]寄給我資料什麼的!
最後,請你訂閱還有幫我分享這段影片!幫我得到1萬人,就馬上會買自己的空拍機給你們看台灣每一個漂亮的地方!
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One of many possible one day trips from Taipei: Wulai waterfall! I brought some friends and borrowed a drone to check out the Wulai waterfall for the first time! Truly beautiful!
Also had an amazing train ride from Wulai station directly to the waterfall! Highly recommend it! Sadly the outdoor hot springs were closed down due to safety reasons, and the cable cars up to the top of the waterfall were closed due to maintenance as well.
We still had a great time though and I hope you still enjoy watching the video!
I'm starting to get some proposals and offers to check out some new places! If you have any ideas or offers for me, please feel free to send them to [email protected] and I'll get back to you right away!
Also, please share this video and help me reach 10 000 subscribers so I can buy my own drone and provide epic nature drone footage from all over Taiwan!
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