Hi everyone 👋🏻 Happy July! How’re you guys doing so far? Good news💥💥💥 Our zumba class Thursday 8:45pm are finally backkkkkkkk
大家早安!7月份快乐哟~大家都怎样啦?好消息,我们的尊巴课每个星期四,晚上8:45回来啦🔥🤤
DancePot will *resume back starting this July 1* with safety SOPs in place.
Even though we're excited to 𝗿𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 back this 𝗝𝘂𝗹𝘆, there will be some strict 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲𝘁𝘆 𝗦𝗢𝗣𝘀 in place for DancePot. Everyone plays a part; parents, students, teachers and staffs. Together, we'll be able to create a safe learning environment for everyone!
▪️If you have 🤧🤒 flu, fever, cough or not feeling well, please do not turn up for class to avoid infecting others.
▪️Arrive and Depart with your dance attire 🩱 to avoid overcrowding of the common areas. Changing rooms will be temporary disabled.
▪️No waiting policy. 👩👧𝗢𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝟭 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟳 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄 is allowed to wait in to avoid overcrowding of the space. If possible, we'd recommend to drop-and-pickup instead. Please cooperate 🙏🏻
▪️Face mask 😷 is required before and after class. You may take it off during high-intensity class as the chances of you fainting due to lack of oxygen will be higher than contracting coronavirus.
▪️Temperature🌡️ screening is required upon entering. If your temperature > 37.5°C please u-turn back home.
▪️Sanitize your hands 🤲 upon entry and whenever necessary.
▪️Check in 📲 with MySejahtera app for fast access. Only for non-registered students and visitors as we do keep track of daily attendance.
▪️For classes using shoes 👟, please 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗘𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗧𝗘𝗟𝗬 a clean indoor pair of shoes. 𝗗𝗢 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝘄𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲! Please pity your dance teachers for mopping the floor. You will also need to disinfect your shoes before going in to your class.
▪️All windows will be opened for natural air ventilation. It could reduce transmission rate up to 72%.
▪️Maintain social distance 👬🏻 with at least 1-1.5 m apart while you're in the common areas and studios. There are markers everywhere to guide you. Please follow!
▪️We already anticipate that you may not follow social distance 100%. Hence, our teachers and staffs are prepared to nag 🤬 and remind you to keep a safe distance from each other. Parents, please please help us to educate your child to maintain social distance as well.
▪️Most classes may end 5 mins earlier 🕐 so that our hard-working teachers can perform basic cleaning/disinfection.
▪️No waiting 🚷 at the common areas for > 15 mins before/after class to avoid overcrowding. Please arrive and depart on time.
▪️Our hardworking teachers will perform a quick disinfecting mop 🧼 around the studio after their class. These classes will be zumba, yoga, street dance, latin, salsa, contemporary.
▪️Aerial yoga hammocks will be sprayed with safe-to-human water 💦 based disinfectant by our aerial teachers at the end of their class.
▪️Ballet barre will be wiped 🧽 with safe-to-human disinfectant by our ballet teachers at the end of their class.
▪️High-touch areas like door knobs, taps, switches, railings, tables and benches will be cleaned and disinfected 🧽 by our staffs every day.
▪️All dance studios will be fogged with safe-to-human water 💧 based disinfectant at the end of the day.
If you have any doubts or questions, feel free to message us. Do not keep it to yourself, communication is the key!
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整理資料發現近兩年前去某國際研討會分享 #手天使 心得時的講稿,當時把我知道的議題面向都寫進去了。貼上來給有興趣的朋友。
[[slide page 1]]
Thank you for attending this part.
I'm from Hand Angel, a non-profit organization of Taiwan.
The title of my presentation is "As a sex worker and a sex volunteer",
since I'm both a sex worker, and also attending Hand Angel as a sex volunteer.
[[slide page 2]]
Allow me to introduce my organization more,
though you may know some from what Vincent has said in the morning.
Our main tenet is sexual rights to people with disabilities.
[[slide page 3]]
This includes not only orgasm, but also the right to control one's sexuality with autonomy and without discrimination.
People know us usually because we provide limited sexual service for servere physical or visual disabilities, including females.
Hand Angel is not a registered organization in Taiwan,
since we literally provide sexual service, which is considered against public order and morals.
However, we are still able to initiative our idea on the table
because our service are free, which means we actually do not violate any law.
[[slide page 4]]
In Taiwan, the definition of "sexual transaction" includes obscene acts in exchange for monetary,
which means it's considered transactional sex even there is no sexual intercourse.
And since transactional sex is technically illegal in Taiwan,
there's no legal way for us to charge anything by providing any service which may be considered obscenity.
This is much different in other countries.
In Japan, the law prohibiting sexual transaction only applies to intercourse between one male and one female. That's why White Hands and NOIR are able to provide paid handjob. The other reason is that they seem do not locate their service as sexual transaction. We can talk about this difference later.
And in Hong Kong, there's some way for sex workers not to be punished, which is called "one-woman brothel". So the difficulty for people with disabilities to satisfy their sexual desire would be different.
I, who has been a sex worker for years -- under the table, of course -- was invited to join Hand Angel at its very beginning.
[[slide page 5]]
People keep asking me that how a sex worker would think about a free sexual service.
But before that question, I think it's more important for us to know the difference other than money.
What's the difference between a classical transactional sex and our service?
As a sex worker, I hope my customers will come back to me more and more, as many times as they can pay.
But as a member of Hand Angel, I hope the servees would not need us anymore.
In fact, I hope they don't have to come to us at the very beginning.
The reason why people with disabilities may need sexual service, is the absence of sexual resource, the resource to fulfill one's sexual desire.
This is just like other issues of disabilities.
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Just providing a service would not resolve the structural problem.
For example, if you give food to the poor without changing their situation, you would end up finding out that they're still poor.
Now change the "food" to "sex".
If we just give our own sex to those who barely have sexual resource, we'll end up exploiting ourselves, and their bad situation still remains.
The problem is, disabled people are considered abnormal, and they have been treated as no unnecessary needs.
But what is necessary for a person to live her own life instead of just survive?
In our issue, disabled people are usually considered asexual, and seldom sexy. That's the stigma we're going to break down.
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There are some textures talking about disabled people in love and having sex, such as "Scarlet Road", "Sex on Wheels", and "The Sessions".
However, the narrative are usually based on ableism.
Viewers usually focus on how can the service provider "bear" to have sex with disabled people, instead of seeing the obstacles disabled people encounter.
[[slide page 8]]
A feminist has said that the relationship a disabled person has is considered depending on the compassion of the other person. People think their sexuality is disgusting and only saints are able to tolerate it.
So we can see the problem is not only physical obstacles, but also how we think about intimate relationship a disabled person deserves.
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Does Hand Angel care about intimate issue? The answer is yes.
In our service, we provide not only sexual service. Our target is not the physical orgasm, but the infinite opportunity of their own lives.
Here are two examples.
[[slide page 10]] Little Prince
Since this servee can sense nothing below his waist, a classical handjob would be meaningless.
Fortunately, we have a BDSM queen in our team.
She thought of techniques in SM to check how pain it is to the slave, and use the same trick to check how the servee's body can feel.
I have to emphasize: that was not a medical treatment, that was about communication with each other.
They were talking about the feeling of two people, instead of the body of one person.
The whole process relies on the intimacy between the sex volunteer and the servee.
[[slide page 11]] ND
"Strolling" for him was from his room to the front door of his home.
Uh, I'm not talking about he lives in a big house.
Though using an electric wheelchair, ND's finger was not powerful enough to control the device for more than 10 minutes,
which means going out alone is not possible for him.
But after applying for our service, he trained himself to "walk" longer.
Even after our service, we were told that he kept trying to leave home and meet other friends.
Another servee has tried other entertainment such as snorkeling and paragliding after our service.
He's having a more plentiful life than before, and even than me.
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In these cases, we can see that:
First, physical orgasm is not the only purpose of a sexual service.
Secondly, libido, or desire for sexual activity, is a strong energy for people to live.
There's a continuing question for us: People can still live without sex.
[[slide page 13]]
What's so important for disabled people to have sex?
Well, I think sex is probably not important for those who can have sex easily, but the impossibility to sex or intimacy may deny the self-esteem of a person.
Sex is an important reason for most people to make friends. So on the other hand, once a person is forced to abandon the opportunity to have sex, she (or he) might lose the energy to social activities. And that's not good for mental health.
[[slide page 14]] The 3 aspects we care about
First, physical orgasm. This is not only about sex organ, but also those come from your erogenous zone.
The problem is not only that people don't know how to interact with disabled people during sex,
but also that people do not want to know how the sex would be for people with different disabilities.
Second, intimacy. The right to have a satisfying date is also important.
Let's imagine, what if a couple of lovers want to kiss each other while seeing movie in a theater, but one of them is in wheelchair so their positions are actually separated?
Third, social integration. Many people with disabilities don't have enough opportunity to make close friends. One of the reasons is that other people usually don't know how to react with disabled people. Therefore, education is important.
[[slide page 15]] Gender Equity Education
In Taiwan, gender equity education comprises 3 parts: affective education, sex education, and gay and lesbian education.
Though I also want to introduce the situation that the conservative group is raising a proposal of referendum to forbid gay and lesbian education, but that's not the issue here so I have to skip that. I hope people who are interested in Taiwan may notice that same-sex marriage is not the only issue about gender equity.
Uh, back to disability rights movement.
As an organization which cares both gender issue and disability issue, we note that even open-minded gender activists may ignore the existence of people with disabilities.
Gender equity education is never designed or applied in the point of view of the disabled.
For example, there are some materials for teaching safe sex, but people seldom think about how a blind person should know before she (or he) masturbate or have sex.
We have a servee who once masturbated in the bathroom of his home, but couldn't clean up since not knowing where his semen reached during ejaculation, and therefore shocked his sister who later used the bathroom.
And another friend bought an artificial vagina in a sex toy store. But he didn't even know he have to erect before insertion.
[[slide page 16]] female servee
People caring about gender equity keep question us: why is there only one female servee during these 5 years after our foundation?
Well, we think the answer is complicated. But the most important one is: how difficult for a female to "confess" she has sexual desire?
We all know about "slut shaming", and those terms to humiliate females by their sexuality -- such as "bitch" and "whore".
It's difficult even for able-bodied females to state their sex experience and preference.
Then it's even more difficult for disabled females to think what she herself wants.
But before sexual activity with other people, disabled females don't even know their body well.
The only female servee we have, told us she has never seen or touched her own vagina.
So we also hosted some conferences and speeches to discuss about such situation of disabled females.
[[slide page 17]] Androcentrism
This is an important issue for us. And I think it's important for those who care about sexual health of disabled people.
Though there are some textures talking about sexual desires of disabled females. To provide sexual service or even sex education to them is barely seen.
I have to admit that, even though there are more and more female members joining us, androcentrism is still not easy to get over.
[[slide page 18]] limitations
Hand Angel provides service to those with servere physical or visual disabilities.
So here comes a frequently asked question: what about others?
The main difficulty for us is that we don't know enough about the situation of other disabilities.
Of course we know that people with other disabilities also don't have enough sexual resources,
but we ourselves do not have enough resources to share, either.
That's why we also hope other people to compose other similar organization.
Meanwhile, there are some people we cannot help because of law.
Adolescents are the ones I myself care about most,
since male teenagers have overwhelming sexual desire, and that would be hell for those with upper limb disability.
However, there are always laws prohibiting youths to have sex in every country.
[[slide page 19]]
In Taiwan, it is legal to have sexual activity after 16. No matter it's intercourse or not.
But even for an organization providing free service like us, the member who communicate with sex volunteer and the servee would be punished as a broker if the servee is younger than 18.
Actually, we do have an applier who mailed us about his desire when he was 15. What we can do is tell him to wait 3 more years.
Unfortunately, being an adult does not mean your right to sex is permitted.
[[slide page 20]]
People with intellectual disability or mental disorder are also infantilized, treated as babies or angels, and considered asexual.
The dilemma is similar to what teenagers have. Their consents are not considered valid.
That is frustrating. The law to protect them from sexual violence also tortures them.
[[slide page 21]] Acrotomophilia and devotees
While talking about disabled people in love or having sex, this is also an issue we should mention.
Some people worry about that devotees are just trying to dominate or take control of the disabled people.
This is similar to MacKinnon's dominance theory and male supremacy.
Devotees are considered to have more power in the relationship, and thus disabled people have a lack of autonomy.
I think that's a stigma, too.
The dominance theory does not deny free love. It focuses on the power issue.
Thus, the problem lies still on the absence of resources disabled people deserve.
Slanders on devotees are based on the prejudice that disabled people are never sexy,
and that denies the possibility for disabled people to have plentiful sexual activity.
The whole society shall support disabled people to have their own autonomy in their relationship.
[[slide page 22]] Difficulties
Usually, people would understand sexual desire of disabled people.
But to support it publicly is another story, especially for the organizations relying on donations.
There are some social workers and parents telling us that they want to do something to help their cases and family,
but it is still an issue which could not be spoken.
It's never been easy for us to talk about sex on the table, but it should be done.
Even for those who don't agree with the idea of sexual service, I do hope you could at least support disabled people to talk about their sex and romance.
[[slide page 23]]
This ends my report. Thank you for listening.
I'm Kong, a sex volunteer of Hand Angel from Taiwan.
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【玳瑚師父課室】《第41場回顧:旺得福大肥年餐會》
41st Learning Session Recap: A Wonderful Year of Abundance
(English version below)
玳瑚師父於2018年1月6日舉辦了2018年裡的首場餐會,《旺得福大肥年餐會》,教導如何在新春佳節間,養精蓄銳,過個旺得富的大肥年。
餐會開始時,當每個人都點了自己的晚餐後,師父隨即問出席者們,可否注意到負責點菜的侍應生,臉上有何特徵?
出席者說出各自答案後,師父便說大家的答案都錯了。
師父說出正確答案後,便說當大家看到一位侍應生有這樣的特徵時,最好就不要跟他點菜,因為祇會受氣。 眾人笑著點頭。
接著,師父請出席者們給自己掌聲,說今天是她們在2018年裡的大好日子。
春天,是大地復甦的季節。夏天,是百花爭豔的時候。在秋天,人會比較容易憂愁, 而在冬天, 會不想做工。
有人問:「那不是和動物一樣嗎?」
師父笑答:「人的欲望不除,和動物又有何不一樣呢?」
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餐會回顧:
一、每一年的開始,都是我們可以爲自己的運氣『進補』的時候。
二、見到師父時,向他合掌,有何寓意?
三、師父問一位出席者,難得見到師父,爲何苦著臉?
四、孝順,不是每個月給她他們家用而已,而是每次見到父母時,也要保持笑臉。
五、過年期間,不要做的三件事。
六、身體裡也會出現的四季, 如何能夠看出,及對個人運程的影響?
七、哪些年菜一定要烹調?
八、哪七道年菜能爲一家人大增運?
九、過年擺八寶盒,是吉還是凶?
十、過年期間,哪些飲料不能少?
十一、新年時,如何能接到財神、喜神、福神和貴神,並讓祂們在妳你家呆久一點?
十二、爲何吃飯不要坐在底處吃?
十三、想要功名利祿,除夕夜,千萬別吃哪種食物?
十四、餐桌,哪個形狀最佳?
十五、家中常有爭執,不吉利之事發生,原來就是因爲餐桌擺在這!
十六、玳瑚師父舉例說明,這家中的方位,如何讓身體健康亮紅燈?
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餐會進行時,玳瑚師父注意到一位出席者將所有的碗盤都往自己哪兒堆。
師父便說,看妳們怎樣排碗盤,就知道妳們現在被什麼困住。前方還有位,爲何不要擺出來,給自己多一點空間?做人,不要把自己逼得無路可退。
不要把自己鎖在一個角落頭,沒有人會可憐妳你的。富裕,也不會找上門。
有位出席者先前爲自己的禮儀不足,而發了道歉的簡訊。師父提點她,禮貌的重要。道歉,應該是親自撥電向師父說,而不是一則短訊就了事,況且眾人皆知,玳瑚師父不回覆短訊。網路上的溝通,是由弟子代師處理。
師父解釋,這顯示她個人的我執很重,及誠心不足,因此在日常生活中,必有讓家人覺得不舒服的時候,祇是沒有人願意告訴她罷了。
師父通過她們的八字,也應證她們都曾有婦女健康的問題。師父進而提醒她們要如何保養自己的婦女健康,以免血光之災。
接著,玳瑚師父也帶著出席者們一同到樟宜機場的最新航廈。他說,這新的地方,有新的旺氣。師父帶著眾人遊走時,也一一指出機場內的風水密碼,讓眾人獲益匪淺。
師父提醒大家,風水是入世的,能夠補助修行一點點,比方說,一個修行人想要有個好地方打坐,需用風水來幫他,讓他的禪定功力能突飛猛進。但風水畢竟不是究竟。
活著,就一定會有不開心的時候,所以人要常看佛菩薩,學習祂們的寬心和自在。如果看自己多了,會變自戀。看老公,越看越生氣,便「憤怒鳥」。(眾笑)還是看佛菩薩好,要不然就到臉書,一邊看玳瑚師父的「玉照」尋個開心,一邊增長智慧也不錯!
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Master Dai Hu held the 1st Learning Session of 2018 on 6th January 2018, imparting knowledge on how to preserve and build up our energy during the Chinese New Year period, in order to enjoy a successful year ahead.
As the session commenced, after everyone had ordered their dinner, Master Dai Hu asked the participants if they had noticed any special facial feature of the waiter taking their orders.
Every participant gave their answers, all of which were incorrect.
Master Dai Hu told them the correct observation, and recommended the participants to best avoid waiters with such facial feature, so as not to feel frustrated. Everyone laughed and nodded their heads.
Following that, Master asked everybody to give themselves some appaluse, citing that that day was a hugely auspicious day in 2018 for them.
Spring is the time of renewal for the Earth. Summer is the time where all flowers bloom. In the Autumn, people becomes moody easily, and in Winter, we becomes lazy to work.
Someone asked: "Doesn't that make us similar to animals?"
Master laugh: "When Man does not eliminate his desires, how is he different from animals?"
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Learning Session Highlights:
1. The start of every year is the time when we can "take in tonic" for our personal luck.
2. What is the significance of greeting Master Dai Hu with your palms together?
3. "It is rare that you get to meet me. Why are you pulling such a long face?" Master Dai Hu asked one lady participant.
4. Filial piety does not only mean providing monthly allowances to your parents, but to put on a genuine smile every time you see them.
5. Avoid doing these 3 things during the Chinese New Year.
6. There are also four seasons in your body. How can you tell, and what are their effects on your own fortunes?
7. Which are the mandatory Chinese New Year dishes?
8. Which are the 7 Chinese New Year dishes, that will boost the fortunes of your family members?
9. Is it auspicious (or otherwise) to display a Eight Treasure Box at home during Chinese New Year?
10. Which beverages are mandatory during the Chinese New Year period?
11. How do you welcome the Gods of Wealth, Happiness, Fortune, and Nobility, into your home, and make Them stay for a while longer?
12. Why is it inauspicious to eat sitting at low levels?
13. Avoid these foods on Chinese New Year's Eve, if you wish for success and fame.
14. What is the best shape for the dining table?
15. The position of the dining table in this house is the CAUSE of the frequent quarrels and misfortunes.
16. Master Dai Hu illustrated with an example, how a certain position in a house can adversely affect the health of its occupants.
In the midst of the session, Master Dai Hu noticed that one participant stacked up all the plates in front of her.
Master spoke, "I can tell what obstacles you are facing now, from the way you stacked and arranged those empty plates in front of you.
There are plenty of space in front of you, and you should afford yourself more space. We should not set up ourselves for a dead end road in life."
No one would sympathize with you if you trap yourself in a dead corner. Abundance will not come knocking.
One participant sent an apology SMS to Master to apologise for her lack of manners towards him on a previous occasion. Master reminded her that manners are important. Apology should be conveyed at least with a personal phone call, and not via a text message. Furthermore, most people, including her, were aware that Master Dai Hu did not respond to SMS. All communication via the Internet is handled by his disciple.
Master explained that this behaviour showed that she had a strong attachment to self, and a lack of sincerity. Therefore, in her daily life, she must have made her family members feel uncomfortable, just that no one told her so.
Through an analysis of their Bazi, Master was able to tell that they had female health problems. He further reminded them on how to take care of their female health, in order to avoid any form of bloodshed.
Master Dai Hu later brought everyone to the new Terminal 4 of Changi Airport. He said that the new terminal had very auspicious energies. Master pointed out the various Feng Shui applications at the new terminal as they strolled about, making it a very beneficial trip for all.
Master reminded them that Feng Shui is still confined to this material world, and it can help one on the road of spiritual practice. For example, a spiritual practitioner can make use of Feng Shui to improve his cultivation environment, helping him attain incredible progress in his meditation. However, Feng Shui will not lead one to Enlightenment.
There is bound to be sadness in life, thus we should all look at the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas often, to learn Their magnanimity and ease.
Looking at yourself excessively will turn you into a narcissistic person, while looking at your spouse will turn you into an "Angry Bird" (laughter from all). So, it is better to look at the Buddhas and the Bodhisattvas. Another alternative is to visit the Facebook page of Master Dai Hu, and be happy looking at his photos, while learning wisdom at the same time!
http://www.masterdaihu.com/第41場回顧:旺得福大肥年餐會/