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Masa awal aku kahwin dengan isteri aku, aku dapat pakej 4 orang anak. Alhamdulillah. Yang mana 2 daripada 4 ni istimewa sikit. Dua-dua aspergers. Sorang ADD sorang lagi ADHD. Paling mencabar sekali tau tak apa? Anak-anak ni sebelum kehadiran aku, diorang ni di manjakan betul. Cukup manja! Semua nak, dapat. Tak boleh kena tegur, mesti menaangis dan membentak. 3 lelaki, sorang perempuan. Masa tu umur yang sulung 14 tahun. Yang second 12 tahun...
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When I married my wife, I got a package of 4 children. Thank God. Which 2 of the 4 is a little special. Both aspergers. Another ADD another ADHD. It's most challenging to know it's okay? These kids before my presence, they are being pampered right. Pretty spoiled! All want, got it. Can't be told, must cry and snap. 3 men, a woman. At that time the eldest was 14 years old. The second 12 years old. Third 9 years old. Fourth of 6 years old girl.
First time entering the family, I've had a meeting done. With gangster style, long hair braids. I'm doing a LIVE FB meeting with children. In the meeting, I just entered the family, so follow my rules. I don't follow their rules.
At the beginning, many people who are nearest have started tripping and spreading stories, not saying that I will hit the kids. The swing bowl is right who reads people from this person's use.
Remember the early marriage, my wife always reminds me of me. If these kids promise anything they need to be fulfilled, they will cry badly and scream. Hard to persuade. Sometimes I want to break my breath and cry. The other one is ADHD if he cries, he can't be angry, he has to say it carefully. Because later he will be raging and coming hyper. The one who added is his own attitude. It's just his problem that he doesn't take the port. The eldest is the most pamper. Ask for whatever the confirmation gets. After that it's urgent to work.
I really don't feel like I'm suitable at all. What should I do? Wash his mother first. My wife cried when she washed her first. I said it's simple. I don't want my son to grow up to die and get everything he wants to wear. Nothing, tomorrow won't be given, he rebel like going crazy.
Everything that my wife says can't do, I prove it to my wife, everything that she thinks is wrong. I made it. I didn't see anyone doing what my wife said. I just tried to bring MCD, then I parked at the Tomyam shop. Look at all the faces that are slammed. But no one is crying.
That's where it all started. Until one part I saw my wife still wrongly. I said it's simple.
′′ Want something big, need a big sacrifice. If you maintain like this, it's too wrong that you have to follow all your child's wishes, you're afraid to say NO and then you're crying and tired of your brother Trust me. Just like this, you'll lose your brother. Choose. ′′ ′′
Hah my wife was shaking at that time.
Yes, it's not easy to fight the mother's instinct. I really understand. But have to remember, you want to be sad until when you just want to entertain the extreme motherhood instincts? How do you want your child to grow up? What's he doing today, he's already big tomorrow. You're poor, he asks for something you can't fulfill. You think he got it? That's the wrong time he just said this sentence.
′′ Why is my mom not like someone else's mom. It's okay. I am not important ′′
Heart was shaking at that time. He didn't tell me 100 times, once didn't let him release such a painful sentence?
I'm nothing, kids like this even more men, have to grow up to be men. Not a bapok, not a Kpop. Man. The world will come far more evil. Responsibility is far bigger. It is compulsory to grow up to be a man. I repeat.
MEN.
That's when my wife slowly became a mad mother. Kah kah kah. The kids were shocked at that time. Suddenly mom is good at screaming? Suddenly mom is good at tunjal head? Suddenly mom is good at slapping? Suddenly mom dares to throw her phone against the wall?
Most power if a child I say near her mother,
′′ Mom doesn't love me, I hate mom.."
If my wife used to hear this verse, she will feel sinful and crying. Now you know what my wife answer?
′′ Once you hate me, 100 times I hate you.."
Stunned again child. Feels like the tactical of playing sentiment is not going to be. Continue to continue doing homework.
After that the scene of running away from the middle of the night, haa my wife is already cuak. Look for me to tell my child to run home. Cleaning up the bag. If you're as a mother, are you rocking? 10-year-olds when they were running home. Other siblings are busy trying not to run away, they insist on running.
I told my wife I'm happy je.
′′ Do not persuade. Just ask him to run the house faster. Go help her pack the bag. Do not worry. I used to threaten my mother like this when I was small. When my mother is stupid, I stay outside for a while and then I will go home because it's scary outside the dark.. if you persuade, don't run away, believe Tomorrow he's busy threatening to run again."
My wife went down and asked her to leave her house faster. This kid won't go out after opening the door. Look at the dark outside. He immediately opened the saji headscarf, making him hungry. It's so hard to look at it.
Want to turn into a Lion, it looks evil. Many will talk about this. You say you don't love your children. If this part is not strong, it will be stupid to be eaten by these words. But you have to believe one thing. This mother and father knows her child better than all of you. He knows so much. Know which limit he can make or not. We who watch from outside don't pretend to teach other people's children, teach our own children first to let go. Look at our children today he appreciate us how.
I was worst being criticized at that time.
He said since my wife married me, my wife's attitude has changed. Getting harder. Fierce with the kids. And many more lah. I'm lazy to take a port. The one who speaks is a woman who has never tasted anything. Work is great. So bored listening to it. But I'm cooking so much, it's normal that the sound of this person's confirmation since childhood has never lived hard, the child and the one that is like diva is usually the same. Just deaf the ear. Focus on the mission for the good of the child to come.
After 3 years, I recently had a meeting with all my children. I ask, did you notice that mom used to be different from now?
All bobbing. Getting more ferocious and crazy people say.
I'm so happy to hear. Let go of that I said.
′′ Try all of you to look back at this day. What's the difference? Neno 8 years old can be brushed by school clothes. Already able to wipe Ayra out. Luth 10 years can wash everyone's dishes. Hoze is the most improvement. From my own world today, you are the most helping to work in your house. 13 years old, washing clothes, hanging clothes, sleeping ayraa, bathing ayraa. And many more. Anish, you are the eldest brother. Thank God. No more pushy. See you already understand the reality of being a brother. Every morning sitting in the kitchen helping mom cook.. that's okay. Proud for a while Dedi. Dedi is nothing, you ask Dedi's siblings if they are rude to his mother, what happens to them. Must eat Dedi's feet. You become a son, you have to be a protector to your mother. Don't make it a slave mother."
All sighs. I'm connecting again.
′′ Do you know why this Seremban house Dedi doesn't install air conditioner near Indeed Dedi doesn't let mom install air conditioner. Let me sleep hot. Learning how to use a fan. Dedi used to grow up but never sleeps in air conditioner, thank God I grew up healthy. Dedi wants anything can't just get like that. So men have to learn how to feel hard. So that tomorrow, you will learn to be grateful. I will remember your parents when they are happy. You'll be close to siblings, tomorrow this is what you'll laugh back when you tell the story. Trust me. All of these are the sweetest memories. Mother and father don't know when will die. Maybe tomorrow we die, at least Anish can take care of the younger siblings."
Everyone was laughing at that time. My eldest child will interrupt in a while.
′′ Dedi, but honestly Anish likes the current mother from mother before. Even though it's fierce, but it's true when I remember it again. All of us are good at all. I just noticed that someone else is 8 years old but doesn't even know how to take care of the baby who is a year old and shower and defecate. Luth has changed a lot. No more crying. Hardworking. Hoze has changed a lot of crazy. Playing with the phone. There's only one problem, when you have a relative, you can come, don't sit in the Just sit down once. Anyway, I swear, Anish loves the mother who was now from the old times. Even though the current mother is crazy saiko! Haha. Mom, you are Queen Of My Heart! Mother is crazy, before Anish didn't understand a lot. When Anish sees mom struggle, Anish becomes a pity. Just saw all the sacrifices of the mother for all of us."
Others bobbing heads agree and laugh with what brother anish he said.
All impressed when I remember back. Until neno's turn, she keeps crying. She really apologizes near her mom.
The most powerful, they are siblings when their aunt wants to ask them to come out. Each one has completed the job of who managed his / her sister's clothes this year, who will beat his / her younger sibling's pampers, who will manage his / her sister's pampers. All of them think for themselves. Talk to each other and manage the equipment of his little brother who is a year old. No need to have a mother with her dedi.
Power, isn't it? Two Aspergers, an ordinary person. The eldest has entered MRSM. It means that the number two child of ADD is taking over.
Even when I'm going back to hometown, my wife just gave me an order. They all clean up their own bags. My wife doesn't even mix a single dust. My wife looks like a big boss today. All homeworks are managed by the child. My wife's duty is to cook. Wash clothes, dry clothes, wash dishes, wash toilets, throw away garbage, shower ayra for a year, all the kids who manage it.
If I don't move, I won't let my wife shout out to other children. But mad at the eldest child. Let the eldest child be stressed. Whatever happened to the younger siblings, I told her mother to kill her eldest child. So when the younger siblings aren't working, fighting, the eldest brother already knows that he needs to be tiaw with his mother later. Didn't say much, he just settled his younger siblings. That's it brother!
Thank God. The story is only one. Our children, we know each other. There's a part of being fierce, there's a part that needs to be There's a part that can laugh. This mother has one veto power, but many are afraid to use it because she is not in other s' language and is so afraid that her child will hate It doesn't mean anything! It's boring to entertain the sentiment of pity that is extreme. You used to be your mother who hit your face, do you hate your mother to big? Nothing. We're fierce because we just want to educate. Not fierce all the time. More than firm. When you see your child hardworking, listen to it, there's a day that will give you a surprise Chocolate or what? Taking a walk to the park. Time with family has to be there.
If you're too spoiled, you can make your child become responsible and the person who will defend your family, I think that the Malay soldiers won't even be training hard as hard as possible. It's better for them to just pray for all the new soldiers. What do you want, everything is given. Wake up late, swipe your hair and then kiss your forehead. Even eating time is delicious. Sleeping at night comfortably, installing air conditioner. Put on the wifi.
What was it?
Before you want to say this person, ask ourselves first. Our 7-year-old child eats, is he good at washing his own dishes? Do you know how to follow your time schedule? Can you brush your own school clothes?
If you're not good at anything, don't make me feel bad about the way other father's mother educate someone's child.
The hardest episode in educating children at this age. Believe me, this will all be a longing for the kids when they leave the house later. And this also makes them siblings get closer.
Patience, victory day is coming! Early sacrifice is the most important. Fight all the wrong feelings that always play in the soul. Only one thing you have to remember, as long as you don't fight with religion. Mom is never wrong! Angry, fierce lah. Do not worry. Continue to educate our ways. Don't forget the power of Veto!
Eh forgot, waimah is a special child. What the doctor said put number two. Accompanying kids like normal kids before but there's a limit. Don't teach him to be a special child since you were young. We know our children again, right? Because I always believe, crazy people when we clap their hands twice when they want to take our food, the third time they will understand and won't take it anymore. That's the crazy person. So, Don't let the child know he's special. Don't disturb her brain. Just entertaining the same thing.
Everyone is like that. If he feels like there are advantages, there is someone who defends more, he will start to get a chance. Can't believe it? You try to pamper your child crazy. Let go of the try in front of you, someone tease him less, you see how he has torn to tears later he will get your attention.
Anyway..
Only one thing I'm still failing. Failed to change their name call among siblings. No call Along, Angah, Bangde. I feel strongly, calling this name also has a certain advantage to put the difference between the younger brother and brother. There is a family aura.
Don't forget, Father's role in psychology is important to be crazy. Because with this mother, no matter how fierce it is, the child is brave to fight. Dad must be good at playing roles. No need to touch, you need to know when you want to have a high voice. When you want to call your child, sit down and talk about others.
Become a child idol.
Trust me, step child and biological child two things that are impossible. Because the power of VETO only exists in biological children. This step child has a risk that you need to face. What happened to them, people will say that you don't love them because it's not your biological child. Painful and sad that sentence is for me. Allah knows how I love them.
I wrote it,
Mr Amir Lake
P / s: In the past my wife was criticized by the Aspie group when my wife said she educated her aspie's child in the way she was a little firm. All sorts of people are teasing, he said that this aspie child will take revenge and kill him. Have to be teased every day. Poor. My wife doesn't agree with my actions early because she holds the doctor's order. Today, I'm asking my child aspie. Tomorrow if mom gets disturbed by someone else in front of you what will you do? What did he answer? I'll hit him enough! And I asked my wife, how about the person who teased her child? He said his child is under control but sometimes he's raging badly until he's about to breath. At the same time today my child aspie is good at cooking, can do all homework and love his siblings so much.
Mr. Amir Lake creditTranslated
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Dear Fans and Friends,
How R all of U? I hope U R all doing Ok at this difficult period in our lives. Many people are steeped in sadness, anxiety and panic. I realize there is so much negativity and strife happening all around us, as our health and world is in crisis, but it’s times like these.. that we must work harder to find the inner stillness in the midst of the storm to steady our minds and our hearts, so we can carry on, as this is the necessity of life. Sometimes it is needed to accept what it is & take this time to help ourselves and extend a helping hand to others. I know it is hard to see the POSITIVE in this situation, but we are always given 2 choices. If we don’t see the positive, we are left with the negative, and how is negative going to help? It will bring us deeper into misery and leave no room to prosper. Positive thinking, can shine a light to whatever darkness is on the horizon, and give a smile to our faces, for all things will have dark and light. I believe this is where ThinkACTPOSITVE (TAP❣️) can apply in the best way possible❣️ We can take this time to think positively, do something positive, think more deeply, and creatively, in a positive manner.
Although with thought for your health and well-being, I hope you will try to alleviate your fear, find the JOY & LOVE in this moment for someone, or something which U R so blessed with. We sometimes think of all that we lack, yet forget what we so abundantly have in our own hearts & homes❣️ I feel so blessed just to have a beating heart, two hands and legs, a thinking MIND, that we can DO something GOOD with it❣️ We can find the SILVER LINING in every single day❣️ Just realize that you are so “BLESSED”, and there is always going to be night and DAY, dark & LIGHT, rain & SHINE, moon & SUN, clouds & BLUE SKY, YOU AND ME❣️❣️❣️ We all have a CHOICE❣️❣️ Choose to TAP❣️❣️ ThinkACTPOSITVE❣️ EVERYDAY❣️❣️ FIND it in your HEART to BLESS, & LOVE EVERYONE❣️❣️❣️
In our now warm, cocooned homes, we can learn to be creative, clean out and organize our homes to put everything in an organized manner, learn something new, educate ourselves on a new skill which you can use in your future like I’ve been studying about the immune system and how to build a strong one. Research & create simple, interesting dishes at home to eat & have a cooking show with your family. Take up a sport, go out to have a wonderful walk in the colder weather, there are so many walking places in HK, enjoy nature, biking, hiking, listen to music, reading, anything which can keep us calm, serene and keeping yourself healthy if you have the extra time on your hands. It’s important to build a STRONG BODY and mind.. that is one that can get through challenges in life as there will always be ups and downs❣️
I also wanted to share that I recycle my own masks. I don’t know if it is the right way, but it seems very wasteful to use the mask just once. I put a thick tissue or hand towel paper folded into ¼ to put inside the mask so when I only need to throw the paper inside away and can save the mask in a reusable Ziploc bag and keep the mask clean by either using a hot blow dryer to blow dry the inside of the mask, and keeping the mask safely wrapped in a hand paper towel b4 using again. I have been using mine for over 1 week now❣️ I’m not asking everyone to use this method but I also feel we can try to save and recycle otherwise there will be so much more discarded masks and even the hospital does not give out masks anymore and the prices are raised too high outside for normal purchase. I also want to share that white vinegar can also be used as a disinfectant and we use a few parts vinegar and water at home to clean our floors for many years now. It is not known to kill germs, but is a good disinfectant, cleaner, biodegradable and has no smell.
Let’s try to take this time to do whatever we can think of for the HIGHEST & GREATEST GOOD and for ourselves, our family & each other❣️ Take good good care everyone❣️❣️❣️
I’m sharing a recording of a song & the beautiful scenery of the beauty we can always see if we choose to.. Pls excuse the awful jittery camera job I did.. hahaha..
Final note to all: I really hope we can be a UNITED COLLECTIVE of Individual Human beings, who can have the WHOLE HEART and GRACE to PRAY and THANK ALL those Authorities, Professionals, Big and Small, Doctors, Nurses, healthcare workers, volunteers whom leave their families behind in different cities to HELP, whom R working 24 hours a day to sheer exhaustion at the front lines in the hospitals and anywhere else to help save all those whom have been infected and fighting so hard to protect the rest of us, Globally, from being infected as well. Let's also PRAY FOR those whom have fallen sick and struggling thru the quarantines & illness. This is really a wakeup call to be compassionate to ourselves and our FELLOW MAN. No matter what we are living on this Planet together and really have to SO KIND to ourselves and all others by being GOOD to each other❣️❣️❣️❣️ Thank you all for reading and let's PRAY TOGETHER FOR THE GREATER GOOD❣️❣️❣️❣️
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYONE, LOVE ALL THOSE AROUND YOU❣️❣️🙏🙏😇 I HAVE YOU IN MY HEART TOO❣️❣️❣️🙏🙏😇😇
Sally
親愛的粉絲和朋友們,
大家好嗎?我希望大家在這段困難的時間都有照顧好自己。許多人沉浸在悲傷,焦慮和恐慌中。我明白現在很多人周圍可能到處都充斥著消極情緒和衝突,因為我們的健康和世界正在經歷考驗。但也正是在現在這樣的時刻,我們反而更需要努力地在暴風雨中尋找內心的平靜來穩定自己的心緒,從而得以繼續堅持下去,因為這是生活的必要功課。有的時候世事中我們不可避免會有這樣的經歷,這時候更要花點時間幫助自己,並向他人伸出援助之手。我理解在這種情況下很難看到陽光,但無論如何我們總是有兩個選擇。如果我們看不到積極的一面,那剩下就只有消極的一面了,而消極對我們又能有什麼幫助呢?這將使我們更加陷入苦惱,沒有改善和精進的餘地。積極思考,可以照亮地平線上的黑暗,在臉上重新點亮微笑,因為所有事物都會有黑暗和光明的兩面。我相信這樣的時刻正是可以運用ThinkACTPOSITVE(TAP❣️)的地方❣️我們可以花時間去積極思考,做一些正面有益的事情,以積極的方式更深入地,更有創造性地去思考。
我當然很關心大家的健康和福祉,但同時我也希望大家能減輕恐懼,在當下的此刻找到身邊的某人或某事正在帶來的喜悅和愛。有的時候我們想著的都是自己所缺少的一切,卻忘記了在各自的心中和家中其實都充滿著豐盈❣️僅僅擁有一顆跳動的心,兩隻手和兩隻腿,一個能思考的頭腦,我已經感到如此幸運,因為擁有這一切已經足夠我們去做好事,把愛傳出去❣️每天都能找到一線希望❣️人生中總會有夜晚和白天,黑暗與光明,雨和陽光,月亮和太陽,雲和藍天,你與我❣️只要意識到其實我們都是如此幸運,每個人都有選擇❣️選擇TAP❣️ ThinkACTPOSITVE❣️每天❣️❣️在你的心中找到去祝福和愛所有人的動力❣️❣️❣️
在我們如今溫暖舒適的房間裡,我們可以學習去有創造力的度過,打掃衛生並整理房屋,有條理的安置所有物品,學習新東西,自我學習掌握可以在未來用得到的知識和新技能,例如最近我就一直在研究免疫系統以及如何使自己的免疫系統更強大。在家中研究和製作簡單有趣的菜餚,並與家人一起來一場烹飪秀。從事一項運動,在寒冷的天氣中出外散散步。香港有很多適合散步的地方。享受大自然,騎單車,徒步,聽音樂,讀書… 如果你有多餘的時間,任何可以使自己保持冷靜,平靜,健康的事都是好的。擁有強壯的身體和頭腦很重要。這是可以克服生活中挑戰的一種方法,因為人生總會有起起伏伏❣️
我也想分享我是如何重複使用口罩的。我不知道這是不是正確的方法,但是只使用一次口罩就扔掉似乎很浪費。我將厚紙巾或廚房紙巾折疊,¼放入口罩內,這樣用過後我只需要將紙巾丟掉,之後將口罩保存在可重複使用的Ziploc密封袋中,並可以使用熱吹風機吹乾口罩的內部保持清潔,之後將口罩安全地包裹在擦紙巾中直到下次使用。我的口罩已經使用超過1週了❣️我並不是要每個人都使用這種方法,但我也覺得我們可以嘗試節省和回收利用,否則太多的口罩被丟掉,甚至醫院也不再分發口罩了,外面的價格相比於正常價格也提高了很多。我也想分享一下白醋也可以用作消毒劑。我們使用白醋和水加在一起在家中清潔地板已有很多年了。沒有證明說它能殺死細菌,但它是一種很好的消毒劑,清潔劑,可生物降解且沒有氣味。
讓我們嘗試利用這段時間去做我們能想到的,可以為所有人都帶來美好的事—— 為自己,為家人,為彼此❣️大家好好照顧自己❣️❣️❣️
我想分享一首歌曲的錄音,以及只要我們選擇,就可以隨時看到的美麗風景。請原諒我糟糕的攝影作品.. 哈哈哈。
最後還想和大家說:我真的希望我們可以每個人都團結在一起,可以全心全意地祈禱和感謝所有權威,專業人士,醫生們,護士們,全體醫護人員,以及志願者們 —— 他們將自己的家人留在不同的城市而去幫助他人,他們全天24小時工作,在醫院和其他任何地方的前線精疲力盡地努力工作,以挽救所有感染者,並為保護世界上所有的其他人不被感染而持續奮鬥。我們還要為那些因生病而被隔離並在掙扎著和疾病頑強抗爭的人祈禱。這是一個警鐘,提醒我們對自己和同胞抱持同情心。無論如何,我們共同生活在這個星球上,真的必須對自己和他人盡力友好善待❣️❣️❣️❣️ 謝謝大家的閱讀,讓我們一起為更大的美好祈禱❣️❣️❣️
大家情人節快樂,愛你們身邊的人們❣️❣️🙏🙏😇 你們也在我心裡❣️❣️❣️🙏🙏😇😇
Sally
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leave someone high and dry 在 KaKi Sham 岑珈其 Facebook 的最佳解答
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《非同凡響》的延伸閱讀 —— 《寂靜無光的地方》
電影《非同凡響》正在上映,題材牽涉特殊教育、學習壓力、父母對青少年成長的影響。其中林嘉華、劉玉翠、岑珈其和小演員珈朗一家人的關係,令人想看更多,貨車司機爸爸一直迴避面對兒子和常人不同,最後爸爸向老師問了一句話:「其實我有什麼可以做?」(我打從心底喜歡林嘉華並不是今天的事,即使出現的時數很短,這位爸爸將自己縮到最小、最卑微的身姿,非常好看);雖然接續戲份安排了爸爸參觀音樂劇的排練,和在席間支持兒子,「接納」和「理解」的訊息都收到,而這是我們每個人各自的修行。但「有什麼可以做?」,隨電影完結,這是在電影和現實中,我們都還沒有得到答案的提問。或者下一步可以做的,是更深化地去理解。
看過《 #非同凡響 》後,一直想寫點關於《#寂靜無光的地方》;然後碰巧明天晚上就有個放映了。或者該這麼說,如果看了《非同凡響》,想對高功能自閉症/阿氏保加症學童更進一步了解,懇請明天晚上,到藝術中心看一遍《寂靜無光的地方》。 《非同凡響》的確引發了對特殊教育的討論,我提議看《寂靜無光的地方》也並非要將兩者比較,而是希望,這些討論不停留於感動,感動過後,對於高功能自閉症/阿氏保加症,甚或教育制度,我們需要花力氣去正視問題所在,理解問題的本質。 《寂靜無光的地方》說的,是在不完善制度下,人被遺忘的實況。
這兩套電影並不構成對立,甚至談不上競爭;《寂靜無光的地方》是個30分鐘的 Fresh Wave International Short Film Festival #鮮浪潮 短片,不會正式上映,只會在電影節、藝術中心或社區放映。
電影有很多種,即使是接近的元素和題目,甚至同一個演員,在不同導演和編劇的手中,我們會看到截然不同的處理。
取材和議題也不一樣,這裡說的是融合教育;說的是高功能自閉症/阿氏保加症學童的家長、在一般學校實踐「融合教育」的教師,當前面對的困局和心理狀態。
現實中的難題不會突然解決;莫論解決問題,也許連理解問題也有困難。所以有另一種電影,是負責以另一個角度去協助我們去理解。這種電影需求觀眾更多的耐性,觀映感受會更艱澀,但相對的,提供了另一個凝視社會議題和自身關係的視點。
黃飛鵬導演擅長搜尋實証,以邏輯去思考問題,以挖心掏肺的方式,去理解和掌握人物的心理狀況,去塑造每個他選擇呈現的人物。這種「理解」,是深度和知性的;他選擇訴說的部分,是殘酷而誠實的;他選擇呈現的手法,是寫實卻詩意的。
我最初對高功能自閉症/阿氏保加症、特殊教育、融合教育,並沒有非常深入的理解,是從2014年《寂靜無光的地方》的放映後,我才認真細讀關於這題目的資訊和書籍。
理解實相對現實有什麼幫助?也許沒有,但把近在身邊的實相略過,並沒有更好。於我而言,僅希望在懷著基礎理解的時候,更能辨認正在說的「同理心」,指的其實是什麼,而不僅僅懷著可憐可惜的心情,輕易放過自己;提醒自己,理解什麼也好,創作什麼也好,哪怕是寫一段文字覆述什麼、傳遞什麼也好,都不能輕易地選擇輕易的方法。 《寂靜無光的地方》的英文片名是 Leave Them High and Dry ,導演給我的解釋是一條字典的連結: "leave (someone) high and dry"
1. (idiomatic) To abandon somebody; to stop providing assistance at a crucial moment.
但他說:"2. To leave one in a situation in which one has little chance of escaping or improving." 去形容比較準確。
看見和歌頌人性美好並不困難,為何偏要把身在狹縫中的人看成身在狹縫中的人?因為的確有人身在狹縫中,不會因為幾個人想通了或親人之間有愛,制度就會突然改變,突然獲得資源和關注至可以改變原本受壓的生活的程度,他們仍然身在狹縫之中。
我們不難理解,為何《寂靜無光的地方》相較難進入主流觀眾的視線,就像你隨手拿起手機,嘗試向漆黑中對焦,很難,對吧?但這電影的作者黃飛鵬,擅長探究我們明明看見卻無人頓足注視的事情,把鏡頭對準無比陰暗、寂靜無光的地方。
leave someone high and dry 在 Is "leave out to dry" an accepted variation of "hang out to dry"? 的推薦與評價
I think you might be amalgamating with "leaving someone high and dry." I'm not saying that in the right context you would not be understood ... ... <看更多>
leave someone high and dry 在 Gjun-就愛嗑英文吐司- [每日片語]leave (someone) high and dry ... 的推薦與評價
high and dry 原指船隻觸礁或擱淺,引申為「一籌莫展的困境;孤立無援的困境」的意思,leave (someone) high and dry 便指「丟下某人,使其陷入困境」。 ... <看更多>