【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
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Grief.
It's something no one wishes to experience. Yet, it happens to everyone at one point or another in our lives. Actually, it doesn't happen just once. The older we get, grief will come knocking on our doors every once in a while because that is just how life works .While I've always tried to look on the bright side of life, July was truly a turbulent and depressing month for me.
You see, while still dealing with the shocking local news regarding mental health issues and trying my best to have an open discussion with the kids as we head into the exam period, my own world fell apart when I was informed that my beloved grandma was hospitalised and in a coma.
For the next two weeks, it was terribly dreadful that we couldn't visit her due to the pandemic restrictions. We had video calls with her almost every day to tell her we love her and gently urge her to wake up but I wanted to be by her side so, so badly. My spirits were lifted when my Mum told me she opened her eyes and we even heard her saying "Bye bye". Surely that is a good sign and she is getting better, right?
Alas, things deteriorated swiftly and by the end of that fortnight, she decided to leave this world. I can't go into details now without being a wreck because I just miss her so much and have so many regrets. For now, I am working on gathering her photos and making a video so that my kids will always remember her. I guess when I am ready, I will dedicate a post to her and pour my feelings out. But for now, I'm just not brave enough to do it yet. In this post of "Happiness is...", I've realised it's okay to sometimes be a little lost and a little sad.
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Translation
Cannot escape from my destiny
So I pursue salvation
Where I’m alone in the dark
Seeing someone new
Accepting gift and not knowing what they truly are
It stays in the back of my head
Curiosity turns into regret
Why does it have to be me?
There’s the answer in front of you
Because you’re special, I gotta protect you
So I accept the salvation
We gotta escape from this suffering
Now I’m awake from this long dream I had
Far away you are, I think of you
Where the end of the light is
Someday I got out of this room
I have to see so I took a step
Repaint my anxiety. Don’t look back, keep moving
Not thinking of consequences of opening this door
Why is this happening?
Hello? Please someone answer me
Why are we getting hurt?
Open your eyes and grab my hand
From now on you’re not alone
Cannot resist from my destiny
Even I wish to change
I need a reason to live
Because you’re special, I gotta protect you
So I accept the salvation
We gotta escape from this suffering
Now I’m awake from this long dream I had
Far away you are, I think of you
Wipe the deep darkness in me
Where the end of the light is
Will you be there and waiting for me?
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EKABO
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クレイユーキーズの9thシングル。クレイ勇輝、Kafu Sato、Martin(OAU)、杉本雄治(WEAVER)、
真船勝博が参加し、ボーカリストはファーストシングル以来再びDAZBEEを迎えた。
淡々と日々が過ぎて中、突然死んでしまう主人公と置いてかれてしまう彼女の話。
MV、ジャケットのアートワークはイラストレーター、アニメーション作家として活躍し、自主制作アニメーション「片道切符の夢」ではASIAGRAPH 2018年度 第2部門で最優秀賞を受賞したbanishment(@yokaibanish)が手がけた。
The 9th Release for the Kureiyuki's Band!!
"EKABO with DAZBEE"
This will be the second time we release a song together!
The story of a girl being left behind by her boyfriends sudden death?
As always, banishment has done all the artwork?
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作曲 Kafu Sato/クレイ勇輝
作詞 クレイ勇輝
編曲 クレイユーキーズ
Vocal:DAZBEE/クレイ勇輝
Chorus:Kafu Sato/杉本雄治(WEAVER)
Guitar:Kafu Sato
KeyBoard:杉本雄治(WEAVER)
Bass:真船勝博
Violin:Martin(OAU)
Programming:福島貴夫
Engineer:馬場毅
ArtWork:banishment(FLAT STUDIO)
『EKABO』
あれは確か よく晴れた日 風が強すぎて 家を出る時
勢い付けて 玄関の扉開けた 外に出ると 眩しすぎる日差しが
うん、いい日になりそうだ
こないだ彼女と喧嘩してさ 些細な事 どうでもいい事さって
そんな事言ってるから 怒られるんだろうね
駅までの道 ふと考える のらりくらり生きてきた
俺の人生きっと明日から変わるのさって 毎日言ってる
明日からきっとって
駅前の横断歩道 赤信号 隣に親子 母の手繋ぐ女の子
目が合う 手を振られる 微笑み返す 俺もいつか
携帯取り出して 彼女に連絡「こないだはごめん 今夜話そう」
見上げると 眩しい日差し 信号が変わって 歩き出す
振り返ると車の影 とっさに
夜空に浮かんで消えた あなたは勝手に星になった
悲しいはずなのに 泣けないのは まだ側にいる気がしてさ
When you feel like you can’t take anymore
When you lose all your fate HEY!
When you think it’s so FU**ED UP
When you can’t stand living another day
I FEEL THE SAME
When you can’t feel the love anymore
When you had just enough HEY!
When you think it’s SO DAMN WRONG
When you can’t stand living another day
I FEEL THE SAME
横断歩 人だかり それを見下ろす自分
何で見下ろしてるんだ?
あそこにいるのは俺 もしかして死んだ?
明日から変わるのさって言ってたばかりなのに
いくら何でもあっけなさすぎる
ってか彼女とも話せてないし
妹は結婚したばかり 親は?仕事は?全部中途半端
まだ何も始まってないのに 終わるのか?
そういえばとっさにかばった女の子 良かった無事か
一つぐらい胸を張れる事が出来てよかった
彼女にも一言謝りたかった くだらない事で喧嘩なんかしなきゃよかった
ずっと側にいるからねって 伝えたかった
もし最後に声が届くなら ごめんね どうか 幸せに
夜空を見上げたらいつでも あなたが見守ってくれてる
悲しいはずなのに そう思えば 大丈夫 歩いてゆける
When you feel like you can’t take anymore
When you lose all your fate HEY!
When you think it’s so FU**ED UP
When you can’t stand living another day
I FEEL THE SAME
When you can’t feel the love anymore
When you had just enough HEY!
When you think it’s SO DAMN WRONG
When you can’t stand living another day
I FEEL THE SAME
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『EKABO』
One windy day, I put my weight on the door to leave
As I opened the door, the dazzling sunshine made me squint
Yeah, it's gonna be a good day
The other day I had a fight with my GF, not a big deal, she was just being picky
Well I guess she’s annoyed of me not taking it serious
Thoughts just bouncing around in my mind on the way to the station
Nothing big in my life, so ordinary, but my life will surely change from tomorrow
I'm sure from tomorrow
Crossroad in front of the station, Red light, a girl holding her mothers hand
eyes meet, she waves at me, I smile back, maybe someday I might become...
Take out my cell phone and text my GF "I'm sorry about the other day, lets talk tonight"
I look up to squint at the sunshine, lights change and I start to walk,
I Look back, shadow of a car heading for the little girl
You floated into the night sky and disappeared, leaving me behind you chose to become a star
I know I should be bursting out in to tears, but I still feel you right next to me
もう我慢できない時
もう何も信じられなくなった時
もう全て壊したくなった時
もう一日たりとも生きていたくないと思う日があるとして
安心して 一人じゃないから
もう愛に触れられなくなった時
もう大概にしろよと心で叫んだ時
全てが間違ってるはずなのに頷いた時
もう一日たりとも生きていたくないと思う日があるとして
安心して 一人じゃないから
Looking down at a cross road
Looking down? Is that me down there?
Sh*t, did I die?
I just was saying that my life is going to change from tomorrow
Did it end that easily?
I haven’t even talked to my GF yet,
My sister just got married and am I leaving behind my parents? How about my job?
Is it gonna end this easily, with nothing started yet?
Wait, what happened to the girl I tried to save, thank god she’s safe
I'm glad I have at least one thing to be proud about
I wanted to apologize to my Girlfriend about the fight we had
I wanted to tell you that I’ll always be there for you
If my voice will reach you for one last time
I want to tell you that I’m sorry and I wish for your happiness
When I look up in the night sky, I see you looking out for me
I know I should be bursting out in to tears, but I know you are still here with me
もう我慢できない時
もう何も信じられなくなった時
もう全て壊したくなった時
もう一日たりとも生きていたくないと思う日があるとして
安心して 一人じゃないから
もう愛に触れられなくなった時
もう大概にしろよと心で叫んだ時
全てが間違ってるはずなのに首を縦に振った時
もう一日たりとも生きていたくないと思う日があるとして
安心して 私が側にいるから
#クレイユーキーズ
#kureiyukis
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LYRICS:
Long days into hard nights, the rain keeps coming
You bought a knife to a gun fight, you can't keep running
I know when you're hurt cos I call you and there's nobody there, yeah
I know you'll be alright
You can lay it all on me, cos it's you I see
When you're fine in front of strangers
But inside you're black and blue
When you're tired of hiding waterfalls
Cos the tears just won't come through
When there's no one there to look at you
The way that I do
The way that I do
I see you
I see you
Your words sell a white lie but your eyes stay honest
And I know that your heart aches, it will heal I promise
Oh the story can change but you need to keep on turning the pages, yes
And I know you'll be alright
You can lay it all on me, cos it's you I see
When you're fine in front of strangers
But inside you're black and blue
When you're tired of hiding waterfalls
Cos the tears just won't come through
When there's no one there to look at you
The way that I do
The way that I do
I see you
I see you
You can let the curtain fall cos I've see it all
You already know I'm all in
When you're fine in front of strangers
But inside you're black and blue
When you're tired of hiding waterfalls
Cos the tears just won't come through
When there's no one there to look at you
The way that I do
The way that I do
I see you
I see you
I see you
I see you
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