https://www.compassionintherapy.com/stream/ron-siegel/
我覺得這兩天裡的這一堂課最精彩。
我做了一些些的筆錄,和大家分享。
Ronald Siegel, PsyD
Personal Mindfulness Practice: Letting Go of Self-Preoccupation to Deepen Connection with Clients
1. Scott Miller, clients, questionnaire (Session Rating Scale), “did you feel your therapist was present?”, “did you feel that session was useful?”, “did you feel that the therapist were understanding?”, and 讓個案感覺到治療師是 warm, empathyc and understanding. Scott Miller 注重四個elements: relationship, goals and topics, approach or method, overall.
https://www.scottdmiller.com/wp-content/uploads/documents/SessionRatingScale-JBTv3n1.pdf
2. Dan Siegel’s phrase, “feel, felt, client improves.” Dan Siegel 說過“feel felt” 很重要。According to Siegel, “feeling felt” is characteristic of secure infant-parent relationships: the more infants “feel felt”, the better their attachment and the sounder their development pathway.
https://centerforinterculturaldialogue.org/2014/01/17/feeling-felt-the-heart-of-the-dialogic-moment/
https://www.mannaz.com/en/articles/personal-growth/the-importance-of-feeling-felt/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sv2bu2KqoyI
3. Empathy, Carl Rogers so brilliantly defined empathy as “to feel the feeling of another, as if it were one’s own, but without losing perspective of ‘as if’”
4. 所以 Attument 調和 變為重要。Mindfulness 變為重要。覺察自己的身體(body)、想法(mind)、以及感受(emotion)。所以我不用太擔心我自己運用什麼學派、什麼技巧,我需要和自己有一個好好的連結。直接的,我連結好我自己,我更加比較容易開放,也更加比較感受到“對方”的感受,讓對方有一種“feeling felt”(我的感受被感受)。
5. The more we practice mindfulness, the more we’re wholeheartedly present, the more we can open our hearts, the more we can lower our defenses.
6. Be present 是 keyword.
7. 很多助人者都在一種狀態:“me (therapist) worrying about me, seeing you (client) worrying you, and judging each other.” 其實我們可以擁有另外一種角度,“me feel connected, me feel a sense of being part of a “we” with you (patient).”
8. So often make us to disconnect in therapy is we’re shutting down because it’s hard to empathically attune to others’ pain. And particularly if clients’ pain resonates with our issues, our vulnerabilities, with our unresolved small or large T trauma, then we tend to shut down when the person is talking about something that we tend to shut down on ourselves. So To the extend to which these practices allow us to open to our own broken hearts, we are able to open the broken heart of our patients.
以上這一句話,句句精准。精彩!看的很過癮。
9. Mindfulness 不僅只要我們減低壓力或者帶來生活上的舒適。反而mindfulness 引導我們去思考佛教裏所說的三法印。
第一個:Annica, 沒有永恆,無常。念頭一直改變。
第二個:Dukkha (life is suffering, the mind is frequently complaining). (if it’s not one thing, it is another. ) 講師覺得 roseanne roseannadanna 如此說是最精彩來形容 Dukkha的。 就是你的念頭一直不滿足於一個狀況,這稱為 dukkha。並非這世間充滿困難,而是你內心的不滿足製造苦難。 Your mind is always complaining about something. 即便是好的事物,我們想要它停留。壞的事物,我們想要它快點離去。 這些都是 + or - dukkha.
第三個:Anatta. (沒有一個固定的我存在著。(no solid me))。無我就是這麼解釋。 “我”會因不同的人時空不停調整、改變。 我們對自己會有不同的描述。例如“我是輔導員、我是爸爸、我是兒子、我畫畫很差“等等。 拿走了這些形容,你會發現我一直在改變中。
10. 為甚麼覺察三法印的存在如此重要?
能洞察人事物一直在變化。
能減少我執。
能看見比自己更大的脈絡。
11. 助人者知道了三法印了,可是不代表是由助人者去把三法印解釋給個案聽。不是這樣的。
(待續)
(還有三天的課程。)
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A Short Guide to the 3 New Active Items by J Team Coach Aydan
As there have been increasingly more people asking me how to use a certain active item or which hero can use which active item, I decided to write a brief analysis on this topic, so you will have an overall concept of the new items. I’ll rate the 3 items on a scale of 5 stars subjectively, as listed below:
1⃣ Arctic Orb ⭐⭐⭐⭐
The recently introduced Arctic Orb is worth a 4-star rating! This is also the item everyone most frequently asks after since the Talent - Endurance was removed from the game. The Arctic Orb affects the whole AOV balance with its low cost, easiness to assemble and pretty good item abilities. It is most often compared with Hecate’s Diadem, which lost its magic piece ability after the last patch. The Diadem, which used to be a general item used by most mages in the mid game, has now become a not so necessary item bought in the late game to maximize ability damage.
Furthermore, with the removal of the Diadem’s magic pierce, that leaves only Spoopy’s Mask and the Staff of Nuul with magic pierce boosts. I personally think very high of Spoopy’s Mask, because it provides not only 100 ability power but also 75 magic pierce for only 960 gold. In the early and mid game, when the tanks only have a pair of Gilded Greaves and Belt of Clarity to shield themselves, a mage can cause an impressive amount of damage using Spoopy’s Mask if armed with suitable Arcanas.
I could go through even more details on these items, but I’d rather list the item builds in this patch for a few popular mages for your reference. Please take note that these item builds are tailored to my game style and personal opinions, I would strongly recommend you to adjust them to suit your play style and habits to better meet your needs.
✔ Lauriel: Orb of the Magi, Gilded Greaves, The Aegis, Arctic Orb, Holy of Holies, Hecate’s Diadem
✔ Tulen: Orb of the Magi, Gilded Greaves, Rhea’s Blessing, Spoopy’s Mask, Arctic Orb, Hecate’s Diadem (Upgrade Spoopy’s Mask to Staff of Nuul in late game)
✔ Liliana: Orb of the Magi, Enchanted Kicks, Boomstick, Spoopy’s Mask, Rhea’s Blessing, Hecate’s Diadem (Upgrade Spoopy’s Mask to Staff of Nuul in late game)
✔ The Flash: Orb of the Magi, Enchanted Kicks, Spoopy’s Mask, Apocalypse, Rhea’s Blessing, Hecate’s Diadem (Upgrade Spoopy’s Mask to Staff of Nuul in late game)
✔ Preyta: Orb of the Magi, Enchanted Kicks, Boomstick, Spoopy’s Mask, Rhea’s Blessing, Hecate’s Diadem (Upgrade Spoopy’s Mask to Staff of Nuul in late game)
✔ Raz: Gilded Greaves, Boomstick, Spoopy’s Mask, Rhea’s Blessing, Hecate’s Diadem, Holy of Holies (Upgrade Spoopy’s Mask to Staff of Nuul in late game)
2⃣ Rock Shield ⭐⭐⭐ ~ ⭐⭐⭐⭐
The side effects of this item is that it reduces damage when activated, but it also allows some heroes to become extremely hard to take down. Although its assembling route is unnecessarily complicated, it can greatly increase some heroes’ survival rates. I rate this item 3.5 stars, and I’ll also list some item builds that are acceptable with this item.
✔ Taara: Leviathan, Gilded Greaves, Mantle of Ra, Medallion of Troy, Mail of Pain, Rock Shield
✔ Arum: Gilded Greaves, Knight’s Plate, Gaia’s Standard, Mail of Pain, Rock Shield, Amulet of Longevity (Upgrade Knight’s Plate to Shield of the Lost in the late game)
✔ Teemee: Gilded Greaves, Knight’s Plate, Gaia’s Standard, Asterion’s Buckler, Rock Shield, Mail of Pain (Upgrade Knight’s Plate to Shield of the Lost when you get Gaia’s Standard or in the late game)
3⃣ Bow of Slaughter ⭐⭐
For this item, I think it’s only worth 2 stars. The reason for this is that although it gives a high life steal rate, you can only use normal attacks to activate it. From another aspect, let’s look among the most popular marksmen in the current build: The Joker, Violet and Lindis. The Joker relies on his skill damage, not his normal attacks, which is obviously not suitable with this item. Violet also relies more on her skill damage and needs to stack up CD reduction and items in order to poke tons of damage with her first skill. She also doesn’t need the Bow of Slaughter. Lindis, on the other hand, can active the Bow with her ultimate, making her the only one among the 3 most popular marksmen who can use the new active item.
Other heroes who can utilize the abilities of the Bow include Yorn, Slimz, Tel’Annas, Wisp and Moren. However, these heroes lack escape skills and ability damage instead of life steal.
The above is my two cents on the 3 new active items, I encourage you to leave your thoughts below in the comments and I’ll try to reply all of you!