這次邀請到直播訪問的特別來賓是 Joyce。 Joyce 是加州臨床心理學家、同時也是紐約醫學院線上課程兼任教授,這次的直播聚焦在現代科技人的心理健康、看心理醫生的一些迷思、及如何幫助自我達到好的心理狀態。
Joyce 先在紐約哥倫比亞大學拿到心理諮商碩士, 再到伊利諾大學香檳分校取得教育心理學系心理諮商博士,在台灣與美國的許多醫院及心理諮商中心有豐富的臨床經驗,並曾於國立高雄師範大學諮商心理與復健諮商研究所、及亞洲大學心理系擔任專任助理教授。
矽谷作為全球科技中心,是世界人才嚮往的工作及居住地點,路上名牌名車充斥,大公司裡高薪聘請的名校碩博士一堆,看起來十分光鮮亮麗、令人心生嚮往,但現實是工作競爭激烈、生活壓力非常大。在這次直播中 Joyce 會分享她從心理醫生的角度來觀察,科技人不為人知的 "後巷真實人生" 中,心理可能有面臨什麼樣的通病或現象、可以怎麼自我照顧以達到良好的心理狀態。也會討論 如果真的有需要看心理醫生了, 公司會知道嗎? 員工會不會因此被貼上標籤、被公司差別待遇? 最後,會系統性的介紹一些心理諮詢的種類。 直播前及過程中也歡迎大家提問討論。
為了這次直播, Joyce 做了超級充分的準備, 她還特別準備了投影片來輔助說明!如果你聽完後和我一樣覺得受益良多, 歡迎追蹤 Dr. Joyce Sun - CA Psychologist. 心理學家在矽谷 的頁面, 如果你聽完覺得想利用公司的 EAP 或是醫療保險來找 Joyce 諮詢, 直播中有談到她的執照是可以看加州及佛羅里達州的居民,美國其他州要再確認,台灣可能不行,中國可以,因為最近肺炎,她的諮詢都改為線上對談, 她的個案有人還是想要見面談,所以她有一兩個空缺出來, 機會難得, 如果你有興趣, Joyce 的心理所網頁是: https://www.peacefulsunshine.com/
以下是直播訪問的一些內容大綱、搭配 Joyce 推薦的資源連結
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矽谷灣區人的心理狀態
一般性常見的壓力:
Stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem/ self-image, career confusion, relationships, parenting issues, kids/teens (佼佼者父母的失落與不願面對);
正式的診斷 :
bipolar, OCD, psychosomatic symptoms, and other diagnoses
矽谷的公司文化 v.s. 亞洲教育的特質 (12:50)
Make impact & creative v.s. Being helpful and obedient
跟別人比 & 老是看自己的不足
移動的終點線 (高中要前三志願、大學要國立、研究所要...)
健康的心電圖與不健康的心 (加上內向敏感,在乎別人的看法,不想被看到)
沒有很謙虛 = 自大討人厭
集體主義 v.s. 個人主義 (要聽話/要得到認可,結構跟明確方向才有安全感)
破碎的蛋黃哥 (自我認同與核心價值) (26:30)
我可以! 我不需要”幫助”
對自己
對孩子 (青少年自殺等,錯失早療的介入)
什麼狀態建議諮詢 (36:45)
治療/復原模式、平時自我照顧模式、個人成長探詢模式
防疫期間的自我照顧 (40:26)
與現實接軌 (專家建議、合理的準備、不要過度幻想)
固定的新聞時間
運動
興趣、嗜好
朋友們互相支持
正念練習
身體照護: 泡澡、按摩、伸展、深呼吸
五感練習
意象練習
珍惜、祈禱
看心理醫生的感覺? 公司會知道嗎? 會不會被 fire ? (51:20)
不會,confidentiality,甚至不可能知道你是否有看心理師
唯一的例外: 被送來做工作適任評估,但公司只能拿到 yes or no 的回答
矽谷科技人的特殊性困擾 (58:40)
登山攻頂者
靈肉分離者
加州心理師執照種類 (1:01:00)
博士: Licensed Psychologist
碩士:
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
Licensed Marriage and Firmly Therapist (LMFT)
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)
精神科醫師 Psychiatrist: 開藥、部分的精神科醫生也提供心理諮商與治療
美國的心理服務資源 (1:04:00)
保險 (網絡內外)
EAP
公司的額外補助
disability/ unemployment
自費 (心理師搜尋網站 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us、低價網路諮商、open path)
社區資源 (冥想團體、正念中心、瑜珈 、breath work)
對策 (1:08:50)
平衡報導
肯定自己的每個小成就,內在歸因
不只是認知層面的肯定,還要情緒的回應
定義你專屬的蛋黃哥 (核心價值)
個性、優點、興趣、價值觀、哲學觀、可轉移性的技術、
他人對自己的整體印象等
用行為 (包括肢體語言/眼神) 改變感覺 fake it until you become it
Growth mindset v.s. fixed mindset
怎樣的心理治療才有效 (直播中沒時間講,但 Joyce 有準備的內容)
個案要負的責任
想改變的動機
準備度
願意分享的程度
回家功課的努力度
親朋好友的支持等
心理師的部分
專業認證或學有所長
感覺有安全感或至少不討厭
你的個性/思考模式與心理師採用的理論技術的相容性
你與心理師目標的一致性 (問題解決 v.s. 增加自我了解)
推薦的影片連結
TED Talk-Amy Cuddy: 肢體語言塑造你自己有中文字幕,尤其是 15:52 處的個人故事
https://youtu.be/v_vkoz1_nd8
婚姻及伴侶關係: Making Marriage Work | Dr. John Gottman,推薦 Gottman 的所有影片與書籍
https://youtu.be/AKTyPgwfPgg
推薦伴侶們讓關係更緊密的問題討論集- 201 Relationship Questions: The Couple's Guide to Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy:
Amazon 連結: https://amzn.to/2wHmzmY
博客來連結: http://bit.ly/2v4mlGn
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過283萬的網紅bubzbeauty,也在其Youtube影片中提到,Hello my cutie starfishies! I've just been uploading tutorials lately and to be honest- tutorials can be a bit boring right? At least I wanted to fee...
self-image and self-esteem 在 theurbanrhapsody.com Facebook 的精選貼文
Insecurity / low self-esteem is something that all of us experienced some time in our life. Some of us are still experiencing it. Personally, I am overcoming my insecurities of years - bit by bit. In the beginning, it felt like the most difficult thing to do because I never had the feeling inside of me to feel good about myself. Always wanting to be the better version of me, I neglect my responsibility to value the current me. This is the common mistake we all do. We are so indulged in between worrying what people think of us and wanting people to like us - we often refer to images that we believe is the best based on their popularity and slowly draw ourselves into the anxious zone.
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People that I thought accepted me for who I am had caused my insecurity to become worst. I am not blaming them for their words or action; the fault is definitely on my end for believing they are right when I should have utilized those comments as the pillar to become a more confident person.
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II am not the most secure person you know but I am working my way to be comfortable being myself. So here are some of the things you can do to overcome your insecurities as well.
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1. Real self-confidence and self-esteem are based on emotion and not self-image. The first core belief to change is to accept what is obvious. You are only not good enough when you compare yourself to others. No one is perfect and no one will be so don't chase after perfectionism. Focus on inner qualities like your character, sincerity, or good values, rather than just on what grades you get, how much you get paid, or how many people like you. 💕
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self-image and self-esteem 在 Charlotte In White 林偉欣 Facebook 的精選貼文
「有沒有化妝沒有很大分別啊!」
也許這是安慰我的說話,但男朋友一句安心的說話比什麼墨鏡口罩的來得更有安全感。我相信,在他眼中我仍是很美的,也不需要化妝才能讓自己感覺更自信。
這挑戰不化妝的一星期中,讓我有機會重新思考「自信」到底是什麼。化妝,其實是我讓自己感到安全的一種方式;我的外表,也直接影響我的自我認同感。
This little challenge of wearing no makeup actually make me rethink what confident is. Wearing makeup, hiding imperfections is a way of how I make myself feel safe - and how I look is directly affecting how I feel. My self-esteem pretty much depends on my self-image, too.
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self-image and self-esteem 在 bubzbeauty Youtube 的精選貼文
Hello my cutie starfishies!
I've just been uploading tutorials lately and to be honest- tutorials can be a bit boring right? At least I wanted to feel like doing something different anyways. I've been meaning to catch up with you all so here is a new ASK BUBZ video.
Your questions are very important to me. I asked you guys to send in your questions and instead of answering them randomly- I will segment them in videos so they relate to each other (e.g. Skincare, Makeup, Relationships, Random etc).
Today, I'm answering your UPCLOSE & PERSONAL questions ^.^
1. How do you deal with people judging you?
2. If you can change yourself physically, what would you change?
3. How do you get so confident?
4. Any advice for teen girls trying to achieve their dreams?
5. How do you deal with jealousy?
6. Any advice for somebody who's being bullied?
7. How do you deal with youtube fame & success?
The next ASK BUBZ video is going to be on BEAUTY so please ask your beauty related questions in the comment section. I'll pick out the most answered/thumbed up ones or ones that might be most helpful.
I get asked a lot of the same questions so its easiest to answer them in a form of a video. I hope you guys enjoyed catching up with little me. Maybe we can make it a Sunday thing?
I actually filmed this while I was doing my house chores so I really enjoyed it because I felt like I was just talking to an old friend whilst doing my errands.
Granny Bubz landed in Hong Kong today so I'll be spending some quality time with her in her village whilst catching up (on Bible reading) with Papa Lord. Have a wonderful week guys.
Much love,
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