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👉 Lack of BOUNDARIES invites lack of respect. When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and MISTREATED.

Boundaries DEFINE us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, LEADING me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me FREEDOM .

Setting BOUNDARIES is a way of caring for yourself. It doesn’t make you mean, selfish, or uncaring. Rather, people who VIOLATE your boundaries are thieves. They steal time that doesn’t belong to them

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Good morning!

Here's a little sample of our RMO schedule! We're technically on day 17 of voluntary self-quarantine and have a little routine going-on which has been so pivotal to everyone's sanity!

Having a structure helps to manage expectations allowing for lots of freedom within boundaries, a key principle of Respectful Parenting. It helps everyone take ownership with a semblance of control over all the things we can't control!

One of the big things (that I highly recommend!) we did as a family when we knew we would have to potentially self-quarantine for 4-6 weeks with our family medical history as well as with my work travel was sit down as a family and talk about what was important to us.

We live in a 1500sqft apartment and haven't left these four walls. 😅😅❤️ We have a balcony but other than that, we've not gone to other public common areas which made it very important that we make our home, a safe, loving, fun, haven instead of prison walls.

The best way for success was for all of us to talk about what was important to us. What we needed on the schedule to find our happy.

For mama and daddy, it was making sure that we had set time for us to work and for Ella Grace, she wanted to have morning meetings and a few other special mentions like morning snuggles, cooking together, play time.

This is by no-means a be-all ends-all, it will look different for every family depending on what you and your littles find important. The key is just that with a structure and framework, it allows everyone to breathe and create, have fun and be present without worrying about what's happening next which is especially important for little ones.

This schedule while very thought out, is flexible. We don't micromanage at all and there are no set times where something has to be done at a specific time (outside of her medicine schedule!). Listen to your gut, mamas. It's your superpower!

Ps. Can you tell which part of the day this picture was taken?

I wrote it up on our "command center" which are these giant sliding glass doors that we have in our kitchen. We use chalk pens and write our favorite quotes, grocery list, schedule, family goals, etc and it's easily wipeable!

On the left are "special" things that we get to do by the day along with suggestions on play ideas if she's stumped and on the right, our running schedule that I want to reiterate again, looks very long and complicated but is just more of a loose framework and structure!

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RMO SCHEDULE

❤️ Morning snuggles
A loving quiet start for everyone, good morning hug or snuggles or just quiet time together as they wake up

❤️ Make breakfast with daddy
Ella Grace's favorite time w daddy - they make coffee and breakfast together. While not limited to this, because breakfast is usually her choice, I also list down some options to help her.

❤️ Medicine
Ella Grace has daily medicine that she has to take so putting it on the schedule helps her get a sense of what happens when since much of our routine has changed. It also helps everyone not forget!

❤️ PLAY!
Such an important part of her day, we allow for lots of time for free play and exploration. She plays independently and happily while daddy and mama work.

Her favorite options include dress-up, role-play, restaurant, construction, magnatiles, podcasts, games, art table, dancing, scooter, forts, obstacle course, sensory etc.

She has free run on our little apartment and her imagination is her limit. Freedom within boundaries!

❤️ Movement
We try to move together as a family everyday for at least 20-30mins of vigorous activity. Movement helps your brain get to a theta state which helps with focus and understanding new information which is great for both adults that need to work and littles that need to play and learn!

Movement when you're shut it also helps regulate your hormones and keeping your body active will not just help you feel good physically but also mentally.

Some of our favorite ways to move together are family yoga, dance party, zumba, workout video, HIIT circuit, etc

❤️ Morning snack
Studies have also shown that a good snack or meal after activity helps little ones to sustain this theta state longer.

Also, mama is hungry and doesn't want to be hangry!

❤️ Morning meeting
This was beautifully one of the biggest requests Ella Grace wanted when we asked what was important to her. It's a little circle time that she usually has at school and it gives everyone safe space to come together, talk about what's on their mind or what's happened, as well as sets up expectations for the day by going through what day it is, what our plans are, etc.

❤️ Play/work
Another space to independently work and play and using some key Respectful Parenting principles after connecting (morning meeting, family movement, snack etc) to disconnect.

Fueling up their love tanks allows this space to largely remain uninterrupted, productive, and happy!

❤️ Lunch
We usually have a simple lunch - sandwiches, wraps, leftovers, soup and rice, one-pot meals, etc

❤️ Nap
Ella Grace cleans up and changes into her pjs for a little nap after lunch. She has a little eye mask and sleeping bag that she drags out to the living room sometimes to be close to us while we work or she might take a nap in her room or our room.

Our boundary is just that her body has to rest so we are quite flexible and work with her so she feels like she has some amount of ownership in it which helps with cooperation!

❤️ Afternoon snack
We take a little break together and have an afternoon snack/tea/coffee and just check in with one another (there's that connect to disconnect again!)

❤️ Play/work
Ella Grace usually spends this time playing but mostly lots of movement-based play like dancing, scooting, rocking/jumping on her balance board, etc

❤️ Cooking/TV time
I start preparing dinner and Ella Grace usually will help me cut, wash, etc and when she's done helping, she gets a little tv time while I finish up. Her favorite shows currently are The Wiggles, Hi-5, Fireman Sam, Paw Patrol

❤️ Dinner
Mealtimes are special for our family. It's our chance to connect and eat together so we try to really be present. Put our phones away, sit down at the table or if we're having dinner outside, on the mat or bench together, set up and clean up together so it's a family activity.

❤️ 20-min shakedown
This is a fun clean-up game that we play at the end of the day. We set up a timer for 20mins and quickly try to clean up as much as we can.

The only rule is that at the end of 20mins we stop and walk away. It makes the clean-up less overwhelming and also elicits participation from everyone because there is a certain end time that doesn't get extended no matter what, making it much easier to get everyone to participate the next time too.

You'd be amazing how much we can get done in 20mins! In our little apartment, having free reign to play throughout the day allows us to not have to micromanage but also not go nuts from the mess. We pick up here and there throughout the day but the 20min gives us a nice reset for the next day while making it not feel like a big task.

❤️ Movement
We usually have some sort of movement - epic dance party is one of our very favorites. If it's been a very busy tiring day, we might play a song and stretch, meditate or do wind down yoga instead. There are no hard and fast rules, just again time to move and listen to our bodies.

❤️ Bath/Shower
Ella Grace takes her own shower and this is also usually when she brushes her teeth, takes her medicine, etc.

❤️ Night Meeting
Similar to morning meeting, it's a little circle to come together and debrief from our day together. We usually play Happy/Sad/Grateful which is the highlight for everyone. We do a little breathing and love shower after, read a few books then end with prayer before Ella Grace goes to bed and mama and daddy get some mama and daddy time!

Hope this helps!

Tips to deal with TOXIC RELATIONSHIP 🤸‍♂️

It will not be easy at the beginning because the first step is to admit the truth to yourself that this relationship does not work for you. How to tell? Listen to your gut, you can feel it whether you are in an abusive relationship. The signals are always there when you have to compromise your principles and values to be with that person.

Secondly, we ignore the bad behaviors of our lover for so long as it's hard to bring it up and talk about it. I know it as I used to be like that. When I tracked down the root cause of my painful relationships in the past, I saw the pattern when I closed my eyes whenever my boyfriend behaved in an unacceptable way and I told myself that I should understand for him as a nice girlfriend. But it was not, and actually, Tibetan Buddhism has a name for it - Compassionate Idiot. “Idiot compassion is the highly conceptualized idea that you want to do good to somebody. At this point, good is purely related to pleasure. Idiot compassion also stems from not have enough courage to say no.” It makes sense, right? Just because we cannot tell the truth that we cover it up under the name of compassion. The truth is that we just do not want to take the risk of losing that person if we speak out the uncomfortable matter.

Finally, the hard work will come back to you as you have to sit down with yourself and see where your boundary is. What is OK and what is NOT OK for you, let's be very clear with yourself first and then with others. To be able to say no when someone does something not ok to you. Write these things out, communicate them, stick to your boundary like the animals protect their place in nature.

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「封景．志異-臺南市美術館典藏主題展」精選60件本館典藏作品，分成兩個階段展出，將藝術家創作視為一種當代的志異實踐，一種探知世界、考掘社會文化、提陳徵候異樣、檢視物我關係的媒介，依展間區分成「人間」、「神境」、「自然」三個子題，訴說這些典藏風景，從覺知及揭露政治社會和日常生活中的闇影，藉由入景形見，指認出猶待感應和思忖的所在；或者深入民俗場域，呈現眾生與神交陪、祈求顯靈保佑的精神表現和影像歷史；再到移情入景、重返自然，為心靈找到安適棲居的歸處；再再點示出，人不斷經由掌握自我與周遭環境之牽涉，追問本身的存在如何與世界彼此相容相攝，採取適當回應或介入，進而開啟其經心所願的向度和形廓。另則，選件的題材紛陳，亦增添了風景圖像的意義、開擴了風景再現系統的邊界。



on view in this exhibition are 60 artworks selected from the collection of the Tainan Art Museum, with the artworks presented in two stages. The exhibition sees the artists’ practices as contemporary records of anomalies, which act as mediums for exploring the world, excavating social culture, proposing signs of irregularities, and examining the self-other relationship. The exhibition is divided into the following three sub-categories: “Mortal World”, “Mystic Realm”, and “Nature”, showing how these selected landscape artworks from the collection have evolved from a state of being aware to exposing the dark sides of politics, society, and also in everyday ordinary life, and then by immersing in the scenes and allowing them to manifest, they also point out places that still await to be experienced and contemplated. Some of the artworks have gone deep into places of folklore, showing historical images of people’s interactions with deities and their spiritual behaviors of praying for divine protection. Emotions are also transferred into the landscapes depicted, with a secure sense of spiritual belonging sought after by returning to the embrace of nature. These artworks suggest that through self-awareness and involvement with our surrounding environment, people are constantly questioning our own existence and our relationship with the world, with suitable responses or interferences conducted to open up dimensions or contours that we envision inside. Additionally, the themes presented by the selected artworks are diverse and different; they enhance the meaning embodied by images of landscape and push the boundary of landscape representation.




《封景．志異－臺南市美術館典藏主題展》
地點：南美館2館展覽間F-H
展期：2019.6.14(五)－2020.5.12(二)


Sealed Landscapes, Records of Anomalies - Selected Works from the TNAM Collection
Venue: Gallery F-H, TAM Building 2
Period: 2019.6.14(Fri)－2020.5.12(Tue)