關於 take me hand 出處 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

翻轉視界 18 Changing Perspective

There's not just one road to the destination, but many roads. You just need to take the little step that’s right in front of you, and then the next one, and a few years down the track, they will seem like massive achievements.

通往目的地的路不止一條，有很多路可走。你只需要邁出眼前這一小步，然後再邁出下一步，幾年下來，將會成為巨大成就。

文章來自於New Humans of Australia (有取得授權)

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I didn’t meet my father until I was 6 years old. My parents had a comfortable, middle-class life in Shanghai, or as close as you could get under communism. But they always wanted to live overseas, and just before I was born, my dad came to Sydney to set things up. I don’t know why, but in the end, my mother and I didn’t join him until I was 6.

•a middle-class life 中產階級生活
•set things up 打點一切
•live overseas 往海外生活
•in the end 最後 (表達在經過一段時間或一連串事件之後的結果)

直到六歲前我都未曾見過父親。我的雙親在上海過著舒適的中產階級生活，或著說，在共產階級下所能得到的最接近的生活。他們一直響往海外生活，就在我出生前，我父親來到雪梨打點一切。但不知何故，直到六歲那年我與母親才終於與父親團聚。

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Unfortunately, half a year after we arrived, he left us. That was a huge shock. Our transition had already been quite difficult, as we both didn't speak English. Also, as Shanghai was such a big bustling city, Sydney felt a bit like the countryside, especially on the weekends, as no shops were open back then!

•shock 令人震驚的事件（或經歷）；驚愕，震驚 (come as a great shock 讓人倍感震驚)
•transition 轉變；過渡
•a bustling city 繁華都會

不幸的是，就在我跟母親抵達半年後，父親離開了我們。這是個巨大的打擊，因爲我們不會說英文，在適應過渡期本就已過得相當艱辛。此外，不同於上海的繁華都會，雪梨更像鄉下，尤其在週末，那時連商店都不開門。

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We were very much reliant on my dad, not only financially, but also as a conduit into the wider community. So to have that broken was quite distressing. I remember Mum crying a lot. As we had become socially isolated, we didn’t find out anything about Centrelink, so we survived on her savings for a while, and then got some help from her family back in China.

•be reliant on… 依賴...
•a conduit into 進入...的渠道
•distressing (adj.) 令人苦惱的,令人擔憂的
•become socially isolated 變得孤立於社會
•survive on her savings 僅靠的她積蓄過日子

我們相當依賴我父親，不僅是經濟，他也是我們進入更廣泛社區的渠道。因此，當局面被打破時令人相當痛苦，我還記得母親時常哭泣。由於我們孤立於社會，所以我們並不知道澳洲社會福利聯絡中心 （Centrelink）的任何資訊，僅靠母親的積蓄支撐了一段時間，然後從母親在中國的娘家得到一些幫助。

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Eventually, Mum moved us down to Melbourne, where we were able to make some new networks and family friendships. But I was bullied a bit at school about things like my food and clothing! Whenever someone bullied me, I would defend myself, but because I didn’t have the language skills to explain to the teacher why, I got in trouble quite a bit. I ended up having to move school 3 times before I came to Balwyn Primary School, which was relatively multicultural.

•be able to 能夠
•make new networks 建立新的人脈，關係網
•be bullied 被霸凌
•language skills 語言能力
•get in trouble 惹上麻煩
•end up 最後處於；最後成爲；以…告終
•relatively 相對地
•multicultural 多元文化的

最後，母親帶著我搬遷到墨爾本，在那我們能夠建立起新的網絡與家庭情誼。然而。我在學校飽受霸凌，例如我的食物及衣物。每當有人霸凌我，我會自我防衛，但我的語言技巧不足以向老師解釋事發原因，因此常常陷入麻煩。後來我不得不再三轉學，直到就讀相對多元文化的博文小學（Balwyn Primary School）。

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After that, I did alright. Music featured very prominently in my life. I had started learning the violin from the age of 2.5 years old and even with all the troubles that were going on in my life, had somehow still kept up with it. As a result, I got a music scholarship to Trinity Grammar School. But even there I used to get into quite a lot of mischief, and would often skip school to go to the movies.

•do alight 過得不錯，做的不錯
•feature (v.) 以…為特色；給…以顯著的地位
•prominently 重要地；著名地；突出地，顯眼地

之後，我便過得不錯。音樂在我生活中佔有重要的一席之地，我從兩歲半開始學習小提琴，儘管生活中事事不如意，我依然堅持不輟。因此，我獲得三一文法學校（ Trinity Grammar School）的音樂獎學金。但即使在那，我也常惡作劇、逃學看電影。

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By the end of year 11, I was told I would have to either repeat the year, or consider going to another school, which was quite humiliating for my mum. I decided to move school and surprisingly, I ended up doing quite well in year 12! As a result, I ended up getting into a double degree in Law and Music at Monash.

•repeat the year 留級 ; 重唸一年
•humiliating 令人感到恥辱的，丟臉的

11年級結束時，我被告知要麽被留級，要麼考慮轉學，這對我母親來說相當丟人。我決定轉學，而令人驚訝的是，我在12年級的時候表現優異，最後錄取蒙納士大學法律與音樂雙學位。

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When I started, my first thought was that I didn’t belong because I had done so badly in school up to year 11 and everyone else seemed so smart. But I put my head down, got through it, and ended up getting a job in the legal department of a major manufacturing company, which was a different approach to what most law students do.

•do not belong 不屬於這
•put my head down 埋頭苦幹
•the legal department of ...的法律部門
•a different approach 不同途徑
•approach （思考問題的）方式，方法，態度

當我開始進入大學，最初的想法是我不屬於這，因為我在11年級前都表現不佳，而這裡的人似乎都聰明絕頂。但我埋頭苦幹，咬牙撐過，最後在一家大型製造公司的法律部門找到工作，這與多數法律系學生的途徑不同。

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I really enjoyed it. It was hard work, but I learned a lot of foundational business, legal and corporate communication skills. After that I worked in corporate governance in RMIT, then started to moonlight as a lecturer in the Law Faculty. Eventually, they asked me if I wanted to do a PhD and I blindly said yes! I next worked at Swinburne University, and then was head-hunted to lead the corporate legal team at the Commercial Passenger Vehicles Commission.

•foundational 基礎的
•communication skills 溝通技巧
•corporate governance
•moonlight (v.) （尤指瞞著僱主）從事第二職業，兼職
•headhunt (v.) 物色（人才）； 挖角
•legal team 法律團隊

我非常喜歡這份工作，這是份辛苦的工作，但我學習了很多基礎商業、法律以及公司溝通技巧。之後我在皇家墨爾本理工大學（ RMIT）從事公司治理工作，並開始兼職擔任法律系講師。後來他們問我是否想要讀博士，我便盲目地答應了。接下來，我在斯威本大學（Swinburne University）工作，再被挖角到商用小客車委員會領導法律團隊。

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I had a good life, but after a while, I realised I wanted a different kind of job. I could see my seniors were making a lot of money but that their family life was not that good. And looking at my own upbringing, I wanted to be the kind of father who could be present in my own kids’ lives. So I decided on dentistry. It would not only allow me to use the hand skills that I had developed from playing the violin, but also the analytical and reasoning skills that I'd developed in law. Plus it would be flexible, and offer me a stable income and the chance to meet different people every day!

•upbringing 教養
•decide on sth 決定某事或東西
•analytical and reasoning skills 分析和推理能力
•offer a stable income 提供穩定收入

我的生活很不錯，但一段時間後，我意識到自己想要一份不同的工作。我知道前輩們賺了很多錢，但他們的家庭生活並不美滿。看著自己的成長經歷，我想要成為可以在孩子生活中出席的父親，所以我決定改行當牙醫。這項職業能讓我使用從拉小提琴中發展出的手部技巧，也能運用我在法律中發展出的分析與推理技能。此外，這個職業相當靈活，能為我提供穩定收入，並有機會每天與不同的人見面。

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My now fiancée, who was my girlfriend at the time, was also applying for further study, and coincidentally we both got into university in South Australia, so we moved to Adelaide together a few years ago.

•fiancée 未婚妻
•at the time 當時
•apply for 申請
•further study 繼續教育，進修；進一步研究；深造
•coincidentally 碰巧地；巧合地

我的未婚妻，當時的女友，也申請繼續深造，巧的是我們都考上南澳大學（University of South Australia)，所以幾年前一起搬到阿得雷德（ Adelaide）。

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I was lucky to get a university job at Flinders University. Initially, I started out as a casual lecturer in the law school, but I’ve since transitioned into teaching health law and research, and I’m currently writing a few books on the intersection between law and medicine. And also, obviously, trying to finish my dentistry degree!

•start out as… 起初擔任...
•transition into… 轉變到...

我很幸運的在福林德斯大學（Flinders University）找到工作，起初我在法學院擔任臨時講師，但我後來轉換到醫事法教學及研究。目前我正撰寫幾本關於法律與醫學相接的書籍，並努力完成我的牙醫學位。

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Mum eventually retrained as a Chinese high school teacher, and she’s still teaching to this day. Like most first generation migrants, she struggled quite a lot, and invested heavily in my success. After we’re married, my fiancée and I are planning to have children, and I’m sure they will have it much easier than I did.

•retrain 重新培養；再培訓；再訓練
•to this day 至今
•first generation migrants 第一代移民
•struggle a lot 掙扎奮鬥許久
•have it much easier 過的比較輕鬆

我的母親最終重新接受培訓，成為一名中文高中老師並執教至今。如同大多數第一代移民，她掙扎奮鬥許久，並為我的成功投資甚多。我與未婚妻打算婚後生孩子，我確信孩子會過的比我輕鬆得多。

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Still, a lot of the failures that I’ve had in my life have really informed a lot of my successes. Looking back, I wouldn't really want to change that to have a smoother life.

•inform [正式] 影響某人的態度或意見
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•have a smoother life 有一個更順遂的人生

我的生活中的種種失敗確實為我的成功提供借鑑。回首過去，我不會想要改變那些坎坷經歷去擁有一個更順遂的人生。

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Over the years, I've learned that perseverance is very important. I hope that through telling my story, I can be an example to others who might be in a similar position as I was: to show that there's not just one road to the destination, but many roads. You just need to take the little step that’s right in front of you, and then the next one, and a few years down the track, they will seem like massive achievements.

•over the years 多年來
•perseverance 不屈不撓，堅持不懈
•be an example 成為榜樣
•be in a similar position 處於相似的處境
•down the road/line/track 將來(的路)

多年來，我學到堅持不懈是至關重要的。我希望透過講述自己的故事，能成為其他可能與我有相似處境的人的榜樣：向他們展示通往目的地的路不止一條，有很多路可走。你只需要邁出眼前這一小步，然後再邁出下一步，幾年下來，將會成為巨大成就。

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[翻轉視界] 台灣國際勞工協會成員陳秀蓮

All persons, regardless of their nationality, race, legal or other status, are entitled to fundamental human rights and basic labor protections, including migrant workers and their families.

所有人，不論其國籍，種族，法律或其他地位，均享有基本人權和基本的勞動保障，包括移工與其家庭。

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原文及圖片授權來自於Humans of Taipei和TIWA台灣國際勞工協會

我家是做香燭批發的，從小我就穿著四個口袋的圍裙幫忙賣金紙。以前生意很好，每逢過年都有百萬進帳，爸爸常帶我們去各國旅行，日本、韓國、東南亞。中國剛開放觀光，我家也是第一批去玩的。爸媽不太管我們念書，媽媽覺得女生就去學個美容美髮好了。我出社會第一份工作，就是當化妝品牌的櫃姐。後來離職，當了一陣子書店員，因為對台灣有使命感，想為社會做點事，立志成為記者，所以插班考上文化新聞系。

My family was in the candle wholesale business, and since I was little, I would wear an apron with four pockets to sell joss paper with my family. Business was good back then, and we would make millions of NT$ each Lunar New Year. My father would take us everywhere—Japan, South Korea, Southeast Asia. When China lifted its travel ban on Taiwan, my family was one of the first groups to go. My parents never cared much about our education, and my mother thought girls ought to work in beauty salons. My first job was a sales clerk at a cosmetics and beauty shop. I left my job later and became a bookstore clerk. Because I felt a calling and wanted to contribute to Taiwanese society, I set my sights on becoming a reporter. I switched majors and was accepted into Chinese Culture University’s Journalism and Communications College.

1. joss paper 金紙
2. lift the ban on travel 解除觀光禁令
3. never care much about 從不太在意
4. beauty salon 美容院
5. sales clerk 櫃姐、售貨員
6. cosmetics shop 美妝店
7. a calling 使命感、強烈願望
8. set your sights on sth 決心；立志*

*https://bit.ly/2zBVu6m

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念到社會學和馬克思，學到階級、勞動這些概念，開始對世界產生疑問；上楊祖珺的文化研究課，她帶我們去關心白米炸彈客楊儒門。以前覺得好人壞人的界線很清楚，會被警察抓的就是壞人，但旁聽開庭發現，楊儒門不像壞人，而且他的很多說詞都沒有被採納，例如他的炸彈即使「引爆」，也只會發熱冒煙；他說和警察約在警局外自首，但檢方認為他沒進派出所、是警方抓到他。社會上對於WTO架構下的農民處境，更是幾乎漠不關心。

When I started studying sociology and Marxism, I learned about concepts such as class struggle and the proletariat, and I began to have doubts about the world. When I took Professor Zujun Yang’s Cultural Studies course, she taught us about the Rice Bomber, Ru-Men Yang. Before, I felt that the line between good and evil was clear. Those captured by the police were all ”bad.” However, when I attended Ru-Men Yang ’s trial, he did not seem like a bad person. Parts of his testimony were inadmissible and ignored. For example, even though his bomb “exploded,” it only emitted smoke. Also, he said that he turned himself in outside the police station. However, the prosecution felt that since he did not enter the station, the police were the ones who caught him. Moreover, at the time, most people were apathetic to the plight of farmers under the WTO framework.

9. sociology 社會學
10. Marxism 馬克思主義
11. class struggle/class warfare 階級鬥爭
12. the bourgeoisie （馬克思主義理論中的）資産階級，資本家階級
13. the proletariat 工人階級；無產階級
14. the distinction between good and evil 善與惡之間的區別
15. testimony（尤指法庭上的）證詞，證言
16. inadmissible （在法庭上）不可接受的，不能採信的
17. emit smoke 散發煙霧
18. prosecution （被）起訴；（被）檢舉；訴訟
19. turn sb in 將（某人）送交警方
20. apathetic（尤指對重要事情）不關心的，無動於衷的
21. the plight of... ...的困境，窘境
22. framework（建築物等的）架構，框架

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後來就到處抗爭。楊儒門的事告一段落，我又回去念書，因為對新聞產業有一定認識，覺得當記者也就那樣，所以跑去念世新社發所。黃德北老師鼓勵我們去社運團體看看，我選擇來台灣國際勞工協會（TIWA）當志工，就從2007年待到現在。

I later protested (Ru-Men Yang’s treatment) everywhere. Ru-Men Yang’s case eventually came to an end, so I returned to my studies. After I got to know the news industry a little better, I felt that I had pretty much learned what being a news reporter was like. So, I wanted to learn something new and began studying at the Graduate Institute for Social Transformation Studies at Shih Hsin University. There, Professor Te-Pei Huang encouraged us to experience social organizations, so I became a volunteer at the Taiwan International Workers' Association. I've been here since 2007.

23. protest (v.) 抗議
24. come to an end 完結，結束
25. return to 回到
26. encourage us to... 鼓勵我們去作某事
27. social organization 社會組織

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從事移工相關工作，才讓我真正看到人的樣貌。剛到TIWA時，我協助一位看護工轉換雇主，她照顧的阿嬤覺得子女不要她了才找外勞照顧，又覺得自己生病，老公一定跟年輕看護工有染，所以阿嬤對她很壞，一直罵她、還把吃剩的骨頭丟進她的碗裡。

Being in this line of work has really opened my eyes to what people are truly like. When I began work at TIWA, I assisted a foreign care worker in transferring to another employer. The grandmother she took care of felt that she was abandoned by her children, so she contracted the worker to care for her. She then thought that her husband cheated on her with the worker, and became quite nasty. She would yell at the worker and once threw leftover bones in her bowl.

28. line of work 行業*
29. open sb’s eyes 使（某人）認清，使（某人）了解
30. foreign care worker 外籍看護
31. transfer to（使）調動；（使）跳槽
32. be abandoned by 被…遺棄

*https://bit.ly/2X0TUmu

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我記得有次在新北市政府開完協調會出來，剛好是耶誕節，耶誕城有尖尖的、像竹筍一樣的耶誕樹，她跟我說「姊姊，可以在這裡跟妳合照嗎？」然後眼淚擦一擦，拍照時又露出開心的笑容。原來，她是要拍給越南的家人看看，她在台灣有台灣人朋友。他們無論在台灣被怎麼糟蹋，在家人面前總會設法表現出混得很好的樣子，逢年過節就寄一箱禮物回家、買玩具給小孩。

I still remember this mediation session in New Taipei City. It was Christmas at the time, and the “Christmasland” in New Taipei City had these Christmas trees shaped like bamboo shoots. The foreign care worker said to me, “Sister, could I take a photo with you here?” She wiped away her tears and did her best to put on a smile for the photo. She wanted to show her family in Vietnam that she was doing well in Taiwan, even though she was mistreated. Every New Year, she would do her best to send back a box of gifts with toys for the children.

33. a mediation (session) 協調會，調解會
34. bamboo shoots 竹筍
35. put on a smile 露出笑容
36. do well 過得好 ; 做得好
37. be mistreated 虐待

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另一個我不太能接受的事情是，好像移工沒有被虐待，就不值得被關心。台灣人傾向從溫情或人權的角度，而不是從勞動者的角度去看移工。

Another thing I cannot accept is that no one cares about foreign workers unless there is news of their maltreatment. The Taiwanese people need to consider them as legitimate workers and not only care about them when there is a human rights violation.

38. cannot accept 無法接受
39. maltreatment 被虐待
40. legitimate 合法的，正當的，法律允許的
41. human rights violation 人權侵害

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六年多前我爸過世，我哥接手後力求創新轉型，改走精緻路線，例如設計防小人金、寵物金紙，算是重新撐起家裡的事業。最近七月半是旺季，我還是得回家幫忙手工包裝還有折蓮花。人跟好兄弟都能共存了，活人的世界有些標籤和界線，想想實在滿荒謬就是了。

Six years ago, my father passed away. My brother took over and tried to reinvigorate and transform the family business. He designed specialized joss paper to ward off backstabbers and even joss paper for dead pets. July is the peak season for the business, so I went back home to help out. I hand packed the products and folded paper lotus flowers for the dead. It's funny that we can get along with the dead, but we still attach labels to the living and draw lines between us. It’s quite ridiculous when you think about it.

42. pass away 過世
43. ward sb/sth off 避開；阻止；擋住
44. a backstabber 背後插刀者；背後講壞話的人
45. peak season 旺季
46. fold paper lotus flower 折紙蓮花
47. attach a label to someone 對(人)貼標籤
48. draw a line (between something) 畫界線*

*https://bit.ly/2Z8f5G6

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[翻轉視界 3] 媽媽是世界上最辛苦工作

To all the mothers out there, thank you for your sacrifices and happy Mother’s Day!

辛苦了， 媽媽們!

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結婚前，我在日商公司的工廠工作，當到管理幹部，本來也存了一筆錢準備婚後買房，沒想到婚後，根本來想的完全不一樣。

Before I got married, I worked in a factory ran by a Japanese company. I worked my way up to management and saved some money to purchase a house after marriage. Little did I expect how different life would be after I got married.

1. work your way up/to the top 逐步達成: https://bit.ly/2La73Eu

2. little did somebody know/realize/think 用來說某人不知道或認為某事會發生或是真的: https://bit.ly/2SJ7s4Z

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我和前夫是朋友介紹認識的。一直以來，我在感情裡面都沒什麼自信、處於弱勢，總是被拋棄的那一方。之前也有個男友曾經論及婚嫁，但他媽媽嫌我內向不會講話，沒辦法幫忙做生意，所以後來還是分手了。我跟前夫交往沒有幾個月就結婚，那時候覺得他在公司工作五、六年，應該很有定性，感覺也是個顧家、愛小孩的人。雖然不致於大富大貴，但夫妻倆應該可以過個穩定的幸福生活。

My ex-husband and I were introduced by friends. I have never had much confidence in my relationships. I was always the weaker half, the one who was always left behind. Before my ex-husband, I had a boyfriend who proposed marriage, but his mother felt that I was too much of an introvert and could not help him manage his business. We parted ways in the end. My ex-husband and I got married a few months after we began dating. He had been working in his company for five to six years at the time, so I felt he had a stable life. He also felt like a family man and one who loves children. While he was not rich, I felt we could live a stable and happy life.

3. have confidence in… 對…有信心
4. propose marriage 提出結婚、論及婚嫁
5. introvert 性格內向者
6. part ways 分開
7. see each other 交往，談戀愛
8. a family man 關心家庭的人
9. stable life 穩定的生活

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婚後，陸續生下大女兒和小兒子，兩個差三歲，但都是我在養。老公婚後都是半夜才回家，而且他除了房租以外，其餘生活開銷都不肯出。我盡量維持他在外的形象，都沒有跟別人說。因為實在沒錢，我還曾經打去他的公司，問老闆什麼時候發薪水？老闆很驚訝地跟我說，他的薪水比廠長還高，我們應該生活無虞才對。

After marriage, we had our eldest daughter and a son three years later, but I had to raise them myself. My husband would always return home after midnight, and he never paid for any living expenses other than rent. I tried to help maintain his image so I kept silent. However, I just did not have enough money, so I called his company one day and asked his boss when he would be paid. His boss was surprised. He told me that my husband’s salary was higher than that of the factory director and we should not have to worry about basic necessities.

10. raise 撫養
11. pay living expense 支付生活開銷
12. maintain one’s image 維持形象
13. factory director 廠長
14. basic necessities 基本生活必需物品與花用

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我實在不知道他半夜都去哪，把錢花到哪去。總之，我一直苦撐，我總覺得小孩要有爸爸、要有完整的家庭；撐越久，又覺得「我都已經撐這麼久了」，如果現在放棄的話，那不就前功盡棄了嗎？本來要用來買房子的存款，為了養小孩，全部花完，後來我幾乎一天只吃一餐，最慘的時候，還曾經母子三人吃一個便當。

I really didn’t know where he went in the middle of the night, and where he spent all his money. I hung on because I felt that the children must have a father and a complete family. I thought that I had already hung on for so long—if I had given up, then everything would have been for nothing. The money I had saved to purchase a house was completely spent on my children. I could only eat one meal a day, and at times the three of us would only share a single lunchbox.

15. hang on 堅持*
16. at times 有時
17. lunchbox 便當

*hang on (5): https://bit.ly/3frV9Uf

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你能想像嗎？我家沒有電視也沒有電腦，冷氣壞了沒辦法修，洗衣機壞了，我只能手洗衣服。社工問我，為什麼小孩身上臭臭的？我也不知道該怎麼說，因為他們的衣服本來就是二手的，而且我只能手洗，他們一流汗就臭了。還好，我去工作之後，偶爾可以把衣服拿去投幣式洗衣機啦。

Could you imagine what we went through? There wasn’t a TV or a computer in our house. Even when the air conditioner or the washing machine was broken, we could not fix it. I had to wash the clothes by hand! The social worker would ask me why the kids’ clothes stank, and I did not know what to tell them. Thankfully, after I began working, we could occasionally take our clothes to a coin-operated laundromat.

18. go through 遭受，經歷，經受（苦難等）
19. stink (v.) 散發異味，發出難聞的氣味
20. thankfully 通常用於句首，表示高興或感激）幸好，幸虧
21. coin-operated laundromat 投幣式洗衣店*

*launderette: https://bit.ly/2Wb8FUz

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我苦撐了十年才離婚，後來徹底心寒，是因為債務問題。我前夫不拿錢回家，我只能用信用卡去大賣場採買日常用品，前夫要買什麼，也會要我刷卡，甚至還要幫他付電話費，一個月就兩萬元。我說我不幫你繳，他說好阿，那被停話你跟小孩就找不到我了。就這樣債務累積越來越多，到最後，我只好跟銀行談妥還債計畫，跟娘家借錢還債。這也讓我決定離婚。

I hung on for a decade before filing for divorce. I found out later that my ex-husband had debt problems. He did not bring any money home, so I could only use credit cards to purchase groceries. Whatever he wanted to buy, he would ask me to use my card. I even had to pay his phone bills. Sometimes the bills amounted to 20,000 a month, so I told my husband I would not pay. "That's fine, but then you and the kids wouldn't be able to reach me anymore, " he said. The debts piled up until finally, I negotiated a debt settlement with the bank and asked my in-laws for money to pay the bank. I decided to file for divorce afterward.

22. get a divorce 離婚
23. debt problem 債務問題
24. purchase groceries 購買食品雜貨
25. pile up（使）（不好的事物）增加，（使）累積
26. debt settlement 還債計畫*
27. in-laws 姻親
28. file for divorce 在法庭提起離婚訴訟

*debt settlement https://bit.ly/3djBofy

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目前，我們還跟前夫住在一起，因為要搬出去，就得準備兩個月的押金和第一個月的租金，我得要努力存錢才有能力處理。阿山他們介紹我去超市工作，我希望超市趕快開幕，我才有辦法趕快賺錢搬出去。

At present, my children and I are still living with my ex-husband, because you need to have a two-month deposit and payment for the first month to rent a place. I have to work harder and save. Ah Shan and them (social workers) found me a job at a supermarket. I wished it would open soon so I could save and move out.

29. deposit 押金
30. social worker 社工

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其實，哪個女生不希望嫁個好老公？但是老公再有錢，沒有真心愛妳都沒用；即使老公賺不多，但只要願意顧家，那就是好老公。

All girls want a good husband. However, if your husband doesn't really love you, it doesn't matter how rich he is. Even if your husband does not make much, if he cares for his family, then he is a good husband.

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Lost Stars cover 終於來啦!! 曼哈頓戀習曲最紅的一首歌，相信很多人都看了不止一次T.T 這次邀請到當兵時候認識的小雞來幫我打木箱鼓
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Lost Stars 歌詞出處:http://ladyserenevitale.blogspot.tw/2014/08/adam-levine-keira-knightley-lost-stars.html

Please don't see
請不要把我當成
just a boy caught up in dreams and fantasies
只不是一個沉浸在甜美幻想的男孩
Please see me
請把我看成是
reaching out for someone I can't see
伸出雙手想去擁抱，苦苦等著那些不存在的人
Take my hand let's see where we wake up tomorrow
牽著我的手吧，看看我們明早會在哪醒來
Best laid plans sometimes are just a one night stand
為什麼一夜情反而常常成為了眼下最好的選擇呢
I'd be damned Cupid's demanding back his arrow
該責怪丘比特把愛情都給破壞殆盡了嗎
So let's get drunk on our tears and
或著不如讓我們在淚水中醉生夢死吧。

God, tell us the reason
上帝呀，告訴我們原因吧
youth is wasted on the young
青春都在年少輕狂時被揮霍了
It's hunting season and the lambs are on the run
這是個現實的世界，迷途的羔羊都在逃亡吧
Searching for meaning
我們找尋著生存的意義
But are we all lost stars
只是是否我們都是失落的星星
trying to light up the dark?
卻依舊試著照亮夜空?

Who are we?
我們到底是誰呢?
Just a speck of dust within the galaxy?
只是浩大銀河中的一粒塵埃
Woe is me, if we're not careful turns into reality
如果不小心就向現實妥協了，我是不是很悲哀呢?
Don't you dare let our best memories bring you sorrow
千萬別讓那些曾經美好的回憶帶給你傷痛
Yesterday I saw a lion kiss a deer
昨天我看見一頭獅子輕吻一隻鹿
Turn the page maybe we'll find a brand new ending
翻過這頁也許我們會有個嶄新的結局
Where we're dancing in our tears and
在哪兒我們將會含著淚翩翩起舞吧。

God, tell us the reason
上帝呀，告訴我們原因吧
youth is wasted on the young
青春都在年少輕狂時被揮霍了
It's hunting season and the lambs are on the run
這是個現實的世界，迷途的羔羊都在逃亡吧
Searching for meaning
我們找尋著生存的意義
But are we all lost stars
只是是否我們都是失落的星星
trying to light up the dark?
卻依舊試著照亮夜空?

I thought I saw you out there crying
我以為我看到你在那兒哭泣
I thought I heard you call my name
我以為我聽到的是你在呼喊我的名字
I thought I heard you out there crying
我以為我看到你在那兒哭泣
Just the same
只是這些都沒發生吧。

God, give us the reason
上帝呀，告訴我們原因吧
youth is wasted on the young
青春都在年少輕狂時被揮霍了
It's hunting season and the lambs are on the run
這是個現實的世界，迷途的羔羊都在逃亡吧
Searching for meaning
我們找尋著生存的意義
But are we all lost stars
只是是否我們都是失落的星星
trying to light up the dark?
卻依舊試著照亮夜空?

I thought I saw you out there crying
我以為我看到你在那兒哭泣
I thought I heard you call my name
我以為我聽到的是你在呼喊我的名字
I thought I heard you out there crying
我以為我看到你在那兒哭泣

But are we all lost stars
只是是否我們都是失落的星星
trying to light up the dark?
卻依舊試著照亮夜空?
But are we all lost stars
只是是否我們都是失落的星星
trying to light up the dark?
卻依舊試著照亮夜空?