What is the stigma with the word VAGINA?
The answer is fear and centuries of misogyny and misunderstanding.
A study found that 65% of women are uncomfortable with using words like vagina and vulva, instead referring to it as “down there”. 45% of women don’t talk about their vaginal health with friends or family (I am the 65% stats), let alone their doctor. 50% of young women can’t correctly label a vagina on a medical diagram.
I teach my children the scientific words to describe their genitals after attending a talk on Sexual Harassment. The reason why most parents fail to see that their child was being sexually abused is due to this stigma as well as the improper usage of the word to describe their privates.
“Karipap” “Berbird” were words taught to these children as tots and so when an “Uncle” touched their genitals, they tried telling their parents but it didn’t really register.
“Ibu..haritu ada orang pegang Karipap adik”
Let’s try it differently.
“Ibu … Uncle tu pegang kemaluan/ faraj / vulva/ zakar/ vagina / penis saya!”
I am pretty sure there would be an immediate reaction, right?
A healthy vagina is paramount to a women’s physical, mental and emotional health. It is INCREDIBLY important that we talk about them and normalise the language. How are we to know what’s normal and what’s not if everyone is so vague about it? Some of the teens I speak to don’t even know that they could pregnant in their first sexual encounter!
Thank you to the naysayers who ‘tsk tsk tsk-ed” sanitary producers @libresse_my which resulted in them withdrawing their ad. This naturally riled up netizens!
Well, good news is Libresse has gained more advertorial exposure and more people are talking about Vaginal health - which was the main objective of their campaign. 😏
Am I offended by the artwork?
No.
People see and interpret things accordingly.
I’ve learnt, that our backgrounds, education and the circle of people that surrounds us makes up our beliefs, our values in life and the personality we breed.
We can’t please everyone can we?
Iklan jap. Use @bobble.it with my code: DAPHNE. They take vaginal health seriously. Stalk them to know more.
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【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
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Fight Only your Battles
“After these things, God tested Abraham, and said to him, “Abraham!” He said, “Here I am.” He said, “Now take your son, your only son, whom you love, even Isaac, and go into the land of Moriah. Offer him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains which I will tell you of.” Abraham rose early in the morning, and saddled his donkey, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son. He split the wood for the burnt offering, and rose up, and went to the place of which God had told him.” (Genesis 22:1-3 WEB)
God told Abraham to sacrifice his beloved son of promise.
There is a reason why God did not ask Sarah do it. He knew that she would not be able to.
After being ridiculed for decades for being barren, she finally had her only son after much patience, perseverance, and probably tears.
Asking Sarah to sacrifice her son as an offering is akin to driving her insane and probably suicide. There is no mention of Abraham telling Sarah about God’s instruction.
Abraham probably left home with a heavy heart, just kissing Sarah goodbye and telling her that he was going out with Isaac to spend some time together. We don’t know exactly what he told her, but it is probably not, “Dear, I am bringing our son now to be offered as a burnt offering because God said so.”
God saw Abraham’s heart and knew that he would be able to pass the test.
“No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB)
When God tests a person, it is not because He does not know the outcome. He wants to teach us something through the test, enabling us to grow closer to Him and know Him better.
In the case of Abraham’s test, we are taught that someone restrained Abraham from sacrificing his son, but at the cross, no one restrained God from sacrifice Jesus, His only begotten Son. There was no substitute. Jesus had to bleed and die so that we would be saved.
If you are married, your marriage is also a partnership. Your spouse has a unique set of gifts, anointings, and a calling that is different from yours. God will use you for what you are good at (what He designed you for), and He will use your spouse for what he/she is good at. This way, your family unit will benefit from both sets of graces.
As a married person, your role is not to do everything, as God will delegate tasks to you and your spouse. Trust that He knows what He is doing.
Abraham’s test was designed by God for Abraham, not Sarah. Fight only your battles.
If you have an urge to do everything yourself, it is time to release that control into God’s hands. He wants you to enjoy a level of restfulness that comes from each person doing what he/she has the grace and capacity to do. The Holy Spirit will lead you!
Learn how to flow with God’s appointed time and ways, to do the right thing at the right time. In “God’s Appointed Time”, you will discover how to experience restful increase and unceasing fruitfulness through tapping on the Grace that this available to you in every time and season of life: https://bit.ly/god-appointed-time
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GAIZZZZ SOB! Macam MCO 3.0 nak kejadian ni!!!
With kes COVID-19 on a rise, the prospect of making the ????? ??????? journey to celebrate the coming Hari Raya with loved ones seem so GRIM. So again, it’s going to be a cosy but SAFE celebration here at the #IkingAzmi abode. But unlike last year, where I was in my confinement and we ordered our Raya meals - I’m starting my own family tradition by cooking the WHOLE Raya “feast” with the kids! This is a HUGE for Noob Cook like @gramforthecook hokays?!
I prefer to shop for my groceries online - partially cause I want to delegate chores like shopping for more productive stuff. Also, I’m trying to stay safe at home. Just don’t want to take the risk of going out unnecessarily.
Bonus point? When paying with my @myboostapp, I get Boost coins, cash back and promo deals - depending on the merchants I purchase from.
Today, I shared my ????? ????? in prepping for the upcoming Raya in my LIVESTREAM which includes:
1. Buying groceries online (sooo many merchants are with Boost’s ecosystem like @shiffa_enterprise , @fishforitmy , @wadoodmart , @happyfresh_my and so much more!)
2. Use ready-to-eat meals like Ketupat (Brand Nona is sold in most grocers. They seem ok), powder / pastes
3. If you’re baking game is not so Onz, orders cakes and biscuits from local bakers #SapotLokal
4. Get a THERMOMIX! I tell you... it will save you so much time and hassle. I will teach you how to make Raya cuisine and more with the press press of the button! (Saja plug in DM tepi ye? ?)
With the Boost app, you can also pay your ?-????? and share your ?-???? ???? safely (follow them to get updates when it’s launched)
Here’s a recap of our grocers Boost Promos:
@shiffa_enterprise Pakej Ramadan RM60 instead of RM73!
@fishforitmy RM10 OFF for every RM130 spent (promo code: CELEBRATEFFI)
Check out @wadoodmart Hari Raya Bundles. They do same day delivery too!
Thanks Boost Team for initiating this platform and thank you to all my wonderful guests! Congratulations to all winners of the 1000 Boost coins and RM50 cash in your e-wallet. I ? you guys!
10 more days till Aidilfitri ? Wheeeee!
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