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今天介紹這個字：akin
akin 的意思是「相似的，類似的」，通常會以 akin to 的方式使用。
比方：
If starting up is akin to running a marathon, a mentor is might well be considered your trainer.
如果說創業像跑一場馬拉松，那麼業師就可以看成是你的教練。
【業力的黑洞】THE BLACK HOLE OF KARMA
（一）
「我不是叫你帶筆記本嗎？」
我看著男客人擺在桌上的那僅僅一張A4紙。
男客人不好意思地說：「我忘了。這是跟櫃台取的。」
「我千里迢迢來到這裡，因為你說你要改命。你就拿這樣一張借來的紙，來改命？一個半小時的看八字，夠你寫嗎？還是你不夠寫時，又要浪費我的時間去借紙？你的認真在哪裡？」
我雙眼直視著男客人的眼睛。
他連忙站起來，去借了多幾張A4紙。
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（二）
「你怎麼帶那麼小的本子？夠寫嗎？」
我不可思議的看著，那如信用卡一般大的記事本。
男客人答：「可以啦！我只寫重點！」
「你這個是懶。我的每一句話都是重點。你的八字在我手上，你是怎樣的人，你不要以為我不知道。你不要跟我瞎掰，更不要有寫沒寫的，然後事後又發私訊重覆性的問回我一樣的問題，因為你沒有用心思寫下來。樓上有書店，要嘛你現在去買，我給你十五分鐘，要嘛我們今天就不看你的八字。你自己選。」
男客人十分鐘內，買了A4本子。
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（三）
我為即將結婚的男客人看新家風水。
他來過我的風水講座數次，閱讀我臉書也有兩年多時間，應該很熟悉我的性格。事前，我提醒過他兩次要帶筆記本，兩次兩次他都跟我說謝謝提醒。
站在客廳看風水時，他抽出那張A4的屋子平面圖，壓在手掌心寫。
「我不是已經叫你帶筆記本嗎？」
他笑笑不語，沒有解釋，沒有道歉。
新家風水那麼重要，關係到你和你家人未來至少五年的興旺，你就在這一張軟綿綿的紙上寫兩個小時的筆記嗎？
以我對客人的要求，我本會叫他到外頭買筆記本，我們才繼續看風水。
但那天，現任屋主還住在那個單位，是特別約好時間讓我們進去看風水，對方也在等著我們完事後就要出門。
想想他過去兩年來常在我臉書貼文按讚，就給他一點面子，讓他在女朋友面前好下台，也算是報答他的支持。
於是，我看在眼裡，記在心裡。依我的經驗，沒把筆記寫好的，必會再來問我。
幾天後，他來訊詢問。當中有幾個問題，我當天已解說過。
我回他：「我雖不介意回答已經回答過的問題，但如果你那一天有帶筆記本，你必會抄下來。」
也就不用再問。
我也寫道：「我對你有點失望。」
他回我：「我明白也注意到你的失望。以後會更留意自己的念頭和舉止。」
「你應該跟我道歉。你忽視我的善意提醒本就不對。」
也猶如騙了我。如果你當初不想帶，直說，不要以假謝謝敷衍。
男客人過後道歉，也大方的同意我把這件事情寫出來，警惕大家。
如果你的未來註定會坎坷，無論是婚姻、事業、家庭或財富，你要比任何人都更注意你的一舉一動。
因為你細小的念頭，細微的決定，會一步一步引你掉入你命中註定的歹運。
你會漏掉寫下我千交代萬交代的事情。
你會寫錯、聽錯、記錯、做錯。
你身邊的人會影響你，告訴你不要聽我或任何能幫你改命的話，你如何如何讓她他不開心不舒服。
你會有錢也不要出錢，只是一直想博取我的同情，得到免費的幫助，然後稱說自己沒有錢。
你會任性，你會執著，你會覺得風水命理沒那麼厲害，你自己說了算，雖然你根本不怎麼樣。
因為你已變成一個弦线上的小木偶，被你那無情的業力操控著。
我的嚴厲，是要及時拉你一把，不要「青青菜菜」的過活，不要拖累你的家人和你一起遭業報。
不是每個人跌倒後，都能夠爬得起來。
誰不想做好人，讓每個人都喜歡自己？但自古，慈母多敗兒。
在現今社會裡，男人女人的自信，都是來自於事業，但每個人的幸福，都是源自於家庭。
所以千萬千萬不要自私。
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（1）
“Didn't I tell you to bring a notebook?"
I looked at the lonely piece of A4 paper the male client placed on the table.
Slightly embarrassed, the male client said, "I forgot. This was obtained from the counter."
"I come all the way here because you tell me you want to change your destiny. You bring this kind of paper to change your life? My consultation is 1.5 hour and you think it's enough for you to write? Or when you run out of space, are you going to waste my time to go and borrow paper? Where is your seriousness?"
I looked at the male client straight in the eyes.
He hurriedly stood up and borrowed a few more pieces of A4 paper.
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（2）
"Why did you bring such a small notebook? How is it enough for you to write?"
I looked at the credit-card-sized notebook incredulously.
The male client replied, "Can! I only write the important points!"
"This is your sloth. Everything I said is important. Your Bazi is in my hands. Don't think that I do not know what kind of person you are. Don't talk nonsense to me. Don't write selectively and then later send me PMs asking me the same questions that I have answered in this consultation, just because you didn't put in effort to jot it down. There is a bookshop upstairs. Either you go and buy now. I will give you 15 minutes. Or we will cancel today's consultation. You decide."
The male client returned with a brand new A4 notebook in ten minutes.
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（3）
I was doing a Feng Shui audit for a male client who was getting married.
He came to my Feng Shui workshops a few times and have read my Facebook for over 2 years. Prior to the audit, I reminded him twice to bring a notebook and twice, he thanked me for my reminders.
While standing in the living room doing the Feng Shui audit, he drew out a A4-sized floorplan and wrote on it, with his palm as the backing.
"Didn't I already tell you to bring a notebook?"
He smiled back at me. No explanation. No apology.
The Feng Shui of a new home is so important because it determines the future of your family luck for at least the next 5 years. And you are going to write on this floppy piece of paper for the next 2 hours?
Given my expectations of clients, I would have told him to go and buy a notebook before I continued my audit.
But that day, the current owner was still living in the unit. It was by appointment that we were let in to get the Feng Shui audit done. The family was also waiting for us to finish things up, as they were going out.
I thought of the many times that he had Liked my FB posts these two years. So I decided to give him some face, and not make things difficult for him in front of his girlfriend. Also a very tiny way of me thanking him for his support all these while.
Hence, I put this incident in my heart. From my experience, I know that anyone who did not write the notes well will definitely come back to ask me again.
A few days later, he sent me messages, some of which were raising the same questions that I had explained on the day of the audit.
I told him, "While I do not mind answering the same questions again, if you had brought a notebook that day, you would have written it down."
You and I would not need to repeat ourselves again.
I also wrote, "I am slightly disappointed in you."
His reply, "Well noted on your disappointment. Will pay attention to own thoughts/actions for better changes."
"You should apologise to me. It is wrong of you to ignore my reminders to bring a notebook."
This is akin to lying to me. If you do not wish to bring, say it outright. Don't brush me off with perfunctory thanks.
He did apologised later and graciously gave me the permission to write about this, to remind my readers.
If your future is destined to be difficult, be it in your marriage, career, family or wealth, you must be extra observant of your every action and deed.
Because every little thought of yours, every seemingly minor decision you made, will lead you step-by-step to fall into the manhole of your pre-destined bad fortune.
You will miss out on what I repeatedly tell you to do.
You will write wrongly, hear wrongly, remember wrongly and do wrongly.
The people around you will influence you. They will tell you not to listen to me, or any well-meaning advice to transform your destiny. They will say that you doing so is making them unhappy and uncomfortable.
You will be unwillingly to fork out money even when you can afford it. You want to live off the compassion of mine and get free help, on the empty claim that you have no money.
You will be wilful. You will be stubborn. You will think that there is no big deal about Chinese Metaphysics and that what you say matters the most in your life. Despite not having any ability or past achievement to support that fat bold claim.
Because you have already become that little string puppet, being dangled around mercilessly by your negative karma.
My sternness is to pull you away from that manhole of mishaps. Do not live your life in a blur. Do not drag your family down with you to suffer at the hands of karma.
Not everyone can stand up right again, after a really bad fall.
Who doesn't wish to be that well-liked person? But since ancient times, an overly loving mother often leads to a useless son.
In modern society, the self confidence of every man and woman tend to come from his/her career. But happiness and bliss will always come from your family.
So never ever choose to be selfish.
《互相尊重的認知》
Understanding Mutual Respect (English version below)
吾有兩位女學生，犯了佛教的「不飲酒」戒。
一位30歲左右的，說是公司聚會，上司一直叫她喝，不好拒絕。吾弟子問她，明明是白領佳人，難不成還得兼職「陪酒小姐」？
這位學生，也因爲飲酒，而多次欺騙老公與公婆，說是在公司加班。
另一位學生是位中年婦女。她受老闆之託，旅行回國時幫老闆買酒。她也說，不懂得如何拒絕老闆。
這位中年婦女與吾皈依同一位根本上師，當代法王蓮生活佛，卻藐視根本上師的教義，忤逆吾的教誨。她從不好好閱讀根本上師的文集與開示，一直祇求吾以風水八字來解決她家人的問題，治標不治本。
因此，她忽略了師佛近期的開示：「拿酒給人喝，犯了不飲酒戒，五百世沒有手。」
（如蚯蚓等動物。）
這兩位學生，同樣的都沒告訴老闆她們的戒律。
妳自己都不尊敬妳的信仰，不會有人尊重妳的信仰。
如果妳不開妳的金口，介紹妳信仰的戒律給他人，他人又怎麼知道妳有這條戒律呢？
如果說出來了，他自然不會叫妳買酒或帶妳去喝酒。
自己要先有守戒的精神。如果妳沒有，妳一定也是爲了不好意思或怕炒魷魚，就這樣犯戒。
這個世界上不是只有一份工作可以做。
如果妳明知故犯，折了這個福，妳認為妳未來還會有好的發展嗎？
我們所要的一切都是建立在德。
天，因爲有德，所以常覆，地有德，所以常載，日月星有德，所以常照。
人要有德，才能夠常順、常旺、常樂。
妳不能說妳怕拒絕，以免什麼會發生在妳身上。東家不打打西家，人要有志氣，要有守戒的精神，才會得善神的擁護。
妳自己都不尊重妳的信仰，試問人家怎麼會尊重妳的信仰呢？他看妳也不過是那種人，可能暗地裡還瞧不起妳，覺得妳外表說妳已皈依，原來妳根本沒有皈依，還是犯戒。
千萬不要這樣做。
做爲一個老闆，一個上司，必須要以德服人。下屬因爲是你的員工，她當然不敢得罪你，冒犯你，因爲她需要這個薪水來養家或過活。就算她爲了順從你，而犯戒，你在她心中的形象一定大打折扣。如果有一天，她有了另外一份工作邀約，她一定不考慮就走，因爲她覺得你是一個敗德的上司，不值得她忠心。
如果她留下來，那必定只有一個原因，因爲她也敗德。敗德的上司 + 敗德的下屬，能做出什麼好成績來？
學佛人，得懂得匡正自己，也匡正別人，所以必須得解釋給妳老闆，或任何不明白的人，妳你爲何會拒絕他做某樣事情，尤其是買賣酒、買賣煙、買賣色情刊物等等。
大家要明白什麼叫戒律，戒律不是有宗教信仰的人，才要守的律法。戒律是一個正人君子的準則，是止惡揚善的基礎，根本沒有分誰應該守。
只要是人，都必須守。走在正道上，沒有過失下，才不會損失我們的福德。
那位中年婦女的老闆，「勸」吾的學生不必執著戒律，佛陀不是說斷執著嗎？
沒有皈依學佛的，千萬不要不懂裝懂，以免斷人慧命，造了殺生業。
佛陀涅槃時，阿難問佛：「佛在世時，我們以佛為師，佛滅度後大眾以何為師呢？」
佛言：「以戒為師。」
喝酒，會亂人本性，生出無量的過失，如酒後駕駛、醉酒打人、儀態盡失、胡言亂語、淫慾熾盛、惡人相近等等。
一位老客人，七旬老翁，生性節儉。一家大小雖是佛教徒，老翁卻酗酒成性。長子乃吾弟子，之前爲了迎合父親要求，常買酒「供養」他。
後來，媳婦（也是吾弟子也）顧及老翁的健康和戒律，阻止先生助紂為虐，也勸其家婆、小姑和弟弟不要買酒，卻惹來老翁辱罵長子：「沒有用！」
事隔數年，老翁喝壞了身體，今年年中入院開刀。吾於心不忍，以玄學來幫助這位老客人能早日康復。
喝酒的人愚癡，送酒的人愚孝。
吾，玳瑚師父，滴酒不沾，任何有酒精的食物，吾也不食。不飲酒者，有何果報？
意念清明，智慧超群，不會精神分裂、不會神智恍惚、不會胡思亂想，更不會被迷惑。
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2 of my female students flouted the Buddhism precept of abstinence from alcohol.
One of them, in her early 30s, told me that it was a company gathering, and her supervisor egged her to drink. She could not refuse. My disciple asked her, isn't it absurd that as a white-collared employee, she has to "part-time" as a drinking hostess?
This student of mine also lied to her husband and parents-in-laws numerous times, that she was working overtime when, in fact, she was out drinking.
Another student of mine is a middle-aged lady, who was requested by her superior to buy duty-free alcohol on her return from travelling. She also told me that she did not know how to say no to her boss.
This lady, like me, took refuge under the same Root Guru, Living Buddha Lian Sheng. However, she blantantly ignored His Teachings and my reminders. She did not diligently read the Dharma books and discourses from our Root Guru Master, yet always sought my help in Feng Shui and Bazi to solve her family woes. This is not solving the root causes at all.
Hence, she missed out on a recent Dharma discourse by our Root Guru: If you give alcohol to others, you are breaking the precept of abstinence from alcohol, and the consequence is 500 rebirths without limbs.
(Eg. like a millipede)
These 2 students did not tell their superiors of their precepts.
If you do not respect your own faith, nobody will give your faith the due respect too.
If you don't break your silence and let others know about the precepts in your religion, how would others know about your precept on abstinence from alcohol?
If you voice it out, naturally your superior will not ask you to buy alcohol nor bring you along for drinking sessions.
You must first have the spirit to uphold the precepts, lacking which you will be easily swayed by situations such as embarrassment or fear of losing your job, and eventually flouting the precepts.
There is more than one job for you in this world.
If you flout the precepts intentionally, and lose your merits, what good future do you think is left for you?
Our merit and virtues are the source of all that we desire.
The Heavens and Earth have virtues , therefore can encompass all. The Sun, moon and the stars have virtues, hence their never ending radiance.
Man must have virtues, in order to enjoy peace, prosperity and bliss.
You cannot give the excuse that you fear the consequence of saying no. There is always another job out there. A person must have higher aspirations, and the willpower to observe the precepts in order to be blessed by the virtuous gods.
If you do not respect your own faith, how would another person respect it? He will not be impressed, and may even secretly despise you for being a hypocrite in taking refuge, as you are not steadfast in upholding your precepts.
Do not ever do this.
As a boss, as a superior, you must command the respect of your subordinates with your merits and virtues. It is natural that your subordinate will not dare to offend you because she needs the job and salary to make a living or feed their families.
Even if she follow your instructions, at the expense of flouting her precepts, deep in her heart, she will think lesser of you. If one day she receives another job offer, she will not hesitate to leave you because she feel that you are lacking in virtues and unworthy of her loyalty.
If she stays on, then it must be for the reason that she too is lacking in virtues. A non-virtuous superior + a non-virtuous employee, what good result can they produce?
A practicing Buddhist must learn to correct oneself, and others. Therefore, you need to explain to you boss, or any other people who do not understand your rationale, why you refuse to help him/her in certain things such as buying alcohol, cigarettes, R-rated publications, etc.
Everyone must understand what exactly precepts are. It is not applicable solely to people with a religious faith. Precepts are the cornerstone of a upright and righteous human being. They are the foundation of spreading goodness and curbing the non-virtuous in us, and applicable to every one of us
As long as you are human, you should observe the precepts. Walking on the right path, and not committing any sin, will ensure that our merits are not taken away.
The boss of my middle-aged student "advised" her not to be too attached to the precepts. Didn't Buddha proclaim non-attachment? So said the boss.
If one has not taken refuge and properly learn the Dharma, please do not behave like a know-it-all and dish out irresponsible "advice" to others. This grave act of recklessness may destroy the life of wisdom in the listener, akin to the act of killing.
When Lord Buddha was about to enter Nirvana, his disciple, Ananda, asked, "When the Buddha is in this world, He is revered as our Teacher. But when the Buddha enters Nirvana, who should we follow as our Teacher?"
Buddha expounded: "I have already given you the precepts. The precepts are your teacher".
Drinking alcohol will create chaos to the human nature, and countless sins arise, such as drunk driving, drunk fighting, loss of etiquette, blabbering of nonsense, sexual indecency, attracting bad company, etc.
An old client of mine, in his 70s, lives frugally. Together with his wife and children, they are Buddhists. However, the elderly man is an alcoholic.
His eldest son is my disciple. Previously, to make his father happy, he would buy him liquor and beer whenever the elderly man asks for it.
Subsequently, his wife (also my disciple) prevented him from buying alcohol, out of consideration for the elderly man's health and their precepts. They also told the mother and younger siblings to refrain from buying.
However, all the eldest son got was a bellow of "Useless son!" from the elderly man.
A few years later, alcoholism took a toil on the old man and he was warded for an operation in the middle of this year.
I pitied him and helped him towards a smoother recovery with my Metaphysics abilities.
Deluded is the man who drinks.
Ignorant is the filial piety of the children who feed his alcoholism.
I have abstained from intoxicants for over a decade, and neither do I consume food with alcohol in it.
What are the merits from such abstinence?
Beside mental clarity and supreme wisdom, one will not be stricken with schizophrenia, mental disarray, mental disturbance and fall prey to temptations.
