【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
experience is the mother of wisdom. 在 謙預 Qianyu.sg Facebook 的最讚貼文
【情債的因果】The Karma Behind Love Debts
偶爾夜深人靜時,我會想到以前見過的客人,不知他們看了命之後如何,有照做還是依然沒改本來的習性,現在在世界的各個角落不知過得好不好。
這位女子是我2020年6月通過Zoom視訊的海外客人。
兩個月前,她在我的Youtube影片下方留言,大方的說出了她的情傷經歷。
我在這影片中有提到,為何有些人這一生的姻緣總是不順:https://fb.watch/5-a7WGXdzu/
幾年前,有位曾經風靡一時的男歌手因老年患癌而逝世。
本來,他將會投胎成為一位美麗的女人。
一聽,是不是覺得當個美麗的女人是件很幸福的事?
在因果上,當女人業障是比較重的。美麗的背後,更有著環環相扣的因果業報。
給他投胎當個美麗的女人,是要他去還當男人時所欠的風流債。
「她」將會有很多的男朋友。每一個男朋友,「她」都得去償還前世所欠的情債。
這位男歌手生平也造了許多賭業,但他有一個優點,他非常相信草屯慈惠堂的瑤池金母。
而瑤池金母亦是我師尊相應的本尊,因此產生了這個很奇妙的因緣。
那一年,男歌手死沒多久,我師尊,蓮生活佛,在草屯雷藏寺主壇「不空羂索觀世音」的護摩(火供)超度大法會。
慈惠堂的瑤池金母帶著這位男歌手來到師尊的法座前。
男歌手灰色的魂魄伏拜在地,向師尊求超度。
於是,他的魂魄被帶到烈火之中,黑色的業氣被三昧真火燒得乾乾淨淨,清淨的往生佛國淨土了。
這故事收錄在我師尊文集第241冊《遇見本尊》一書當中,章名為「焚燒中的火中蓮」。
所以說,大家多讀些因果故事的書,智慧增長了,能幫助我們避開很多災害,省卻很多煩惱。
如果您已知道您這一世的情路特別坎坷,我建議您勤修法迴向給您的冤親債主纏身靈,也可以以冤親債主纏身靈的名義,報名超度法會及做功德。
填表格時,可寫 XXX(您的姓名)之冤親債主纏身靈。
前世欠今世還,本來就是天經地義。
有的人還情債,是必須得人財兩空,有的則是賠上整個青春和家庭。
我們通過修持佛法的方式,用懺悔的心和功德去還,也能化解這一切的因果牽纏,大事化小,小事化無。
但一切要趁早!
高凌風先生在中陰身時能離苦得樂,因為他對瑤池金母有信心。
我的客人雖被斂財,但保住了自己的清白,因為她相信佛陀所定下的戒律。這是何其有幸!
一個人只要願意守住一條戒,就會有戒神來守護著她他。五戒皆能守,就會得五尊護法守護著行者,冥冥當中,自然能避開很多禍事。
佛法大海,唯信能入。你的信力,可以成就無量功德,是你改命的關鍵!
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Sometimes in the still of the night, I will think of my past clients. I wonder how they are doing after our consultations. Did they follow my advice or are they still adamant in their ways? Are they leading a happier life, being in all parts of the world?
I did a Zoom consultation with this lady living in a foreign land, back in June 2020.
Two months ago, she left a comment under my YouTube video, generously sharing her heartbreak experience.
I spoke about why some people do not have a smooth love path in this video: https://fb.watch/5-a7WGXdzu/
Few years ago, a once-famous male singer died due to cancer at old age.
He was supposed to be reincarnated as a beautiful woman in his next rebirth.
Sounds like a very fortunate thing to be reborn as a beautiful woman, isn’t it?
Fact is, it means the person has more negative karma to be reborn as a woman. There are very intricate karmic retribution links behind that face of beauty.
He was to take the form of a beautiful woman because he had to repay the debts of romance he incurred when he was a man.
“She” would have many boyfriends. And to each and every man, “she” would repay what “she” once owed.
This male singer also committed many gambling sins when he was alive. However, he has one virtue. He has strong faith in the Jade Pond Golden Mother, at Cao Tun Tsu Huei Temple.
And Golden Mother happens to be the principle deity that my Grandmaster has attained yogic union with. An incredible affinity thus unfolded.
That year, not long after the death of the male singer, my Grandmaster, Living Buddha Lian-Sheng, presided over the Amoghapasha Lokeshvara Fire Offering bardo deliverance ceremony, held at Taiwan Lei Tsang Temple in Cao Tun.
Jade Pond Golden Mother of Tsu Huei Temple lead the deceased male singer to the throne, where my Grandmaster sat.
The grey spirit of the male singer bowed on the ground, seeking deliverance from my Grandmaster.
Thus, his soul was brought into the raging flames. The black cloud of his negative karma was thoroughly burnt by the Samadhi fire. He was reborn in the Pureland, cleansed and purified.
This chapter was in my Grandmaster’s book 241 Sacred Encounters with Deities, named The Burning Lotus in The Fire
This is why I think it’s important that we read more books on karma stories. It will increase our wisdom and help us avoid many misfortunes and afflictions. You will think twice before giving in to temptations.
If you already know that your love life this lifetime is rather rocky, I suggest that you cultivate and dedicate merits to your karmic creditors. You can also register for bardo deliverance and do good deeds in their names.
When you fill up the form, you can write their name as the karmic creditors of XXX (your full name).
To repay in this life what we owe from last life is the unalterable principle of this world.
In repaying love debts, some people lose both their wealth and bodies, while others pay for it with their youth and families.
Through Dharma practices, we can resolve these karmic entanglements with repentance and merits.
But all must be done in time!
Kao Ling-feng was able to be liberated from Samsara, when he was in a bardo form, because of his strong faith in Jade Pond Golden Mother.
My client may have been scammed of her money, but she did not lose herself to the cheater, because she believes in the precepts laid down by Buddha. How fortunate is that!
When a person is willing to abide by one precept, there will be one God of Precepts to watch over him/her. When all five precepts are observed, the cultivator will have 5 Dharma Protectors protecting him/her. This will help avoid many possible disasters.
One must have faith to enter the great ocean of Dharma. The power of your faith can achieve countless merits and is the key to transforming your Destiny!
experience is the mother of wisdom. 在 Facebook 的最讚貼文
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