關於 first priority行李 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。

認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。

久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。

我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！

對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)

Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.

Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.

The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.

Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.

I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.

I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!

By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?

2021全新專輯《來者何人{}》
數位收聽：https://LaraLiang.lnk.to/DearYou2

<再也沒有你> 陳勢安 Andrew Tan
數位收聽：https://kkbox.fm/Iss26l

#Lara梁心頤2021全新專輯二部曲 #來者何人{} 全球發行
#再也沒有你 #NoMoreU #SoWhat30

網上又有「藍能否變黃」的第N回討論。其實當然有成功例子啦。

被催淚彈殻射到爆缸仍記掛著翌日能否帶女友和未來外母去旅行。這是個可歌可泣的愛情故事。

Crowdfunding for the project《Wounds of Hong Kong 港傷》https://bit.ly/2WuNqw2
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*for English please scroll down

雄仔（化名） 護士 31歲

2019年11月8日深夜，雄仔與女朋友路過旺角惠豐中心，遇上市民與防暴警對峙。他倆看見警察有異動，正想離開現場，但警方已開始發射催淚彈。彈殻擦過雄仔的頭部，即時血流如注，留下3cm的縫針疤痕。

「講起就激氣（光火），在前線受傷我反而開心。」當時旺角街頭有防暴警察列陣，市民向他們叫罵，「都係『撚狗』（調侃警察）。」然而「撚狗」會令警察暴怒，繼而報復，「現在他們把催淚彈當子彈用啦。」雄仔褂彩，同為護士的女朋友嚇得哭了，但他仍然冷靜，心想：「仆街了（靠）！明天還能飛嗎？」

因為參與抗爭，加上工時長，雄仔自6月以來都沒有好好陪伴女朋友，「她也是黃絲，覺得不應該拿這些事來詐型（發難），藏在心裏，但你會感受到她的不滿。」計劃已久的小旅行算是補償，還要帶著未來外母同遊，「始終是女孩，需要陪伴、關心，要有拍拖活動。」他去醫院縫針後，翌日按計劃出發。

雄仔的女友和家人知道他有上街遊行，卻不知道他是「家長」，助養了9名只有10幾歲的「子女」。8月18日的大型遊行，他到達終點後轉入夏愨道，看看有何事發生，「有人呼召社工，有個小朋友在哭、嚷著要自殺，因為屋企是藍絲。我想，我應該可以幫忙。」雄仔就此成為「家長」。子女又介紹其他子女，漸漸膝下承歡。

除了提供情緒支援，雄仔也為子女提供零用錢，「『文具』 好貴，我常叫他們以安全為先，有事就棄裝，再買過。」「仔女都好生性。要把塞錢偷偷攝入gear(抗爭裝備)，怕他們不肯要。」「文具」就是防毒面具和濾罐，每套大約1000港元，「我有工作，可以撐住，只是花了積蓄，對不起女友啦。」至今他已花了6、7萬元在子女身上，「她知道我花了1000元都肉赤到死（心疼得要死），怎敢跟她說？」

需要接濟的少年很多來自建制家庭，因為政見而被斷糧草、甚至斷六親。 若雄仔晚生十幾年，他很可能是其中之一，「我爸是紅底。自細他就跟我說票投民建聯（親北京政黨），不然就脫離父子關係。」2016年立法會新界東補選，他仍是投民建聯的周浩鼎，2014年雨傘運動當然沒有參與，「之前的抗爭關於政制，可能我未感受到對人生自由有重大威脅。實行雙普選需要時間，香港社會始終未成熟。」直到政府強推《逃犯條例》修訂，他才感到刀刃在脖子上，「明明是一國兩制， 可以引渡逃犯，就會造成破窗。事事都要跟大陸接軌，要引入計分制（社會信用評分制度）嗎？」怕中港區隔蕩然無存。

在2019年11月的區議會選舉，雄仔首次「倒戈」，「大氣候是分顏色（政治立場）投票。我也不相信泛民主派，不信有救世主，但我就是要建制派輸。雖然我仍然覺以地區事務而言，建制派做到的比反對派多。」因為官僚樂於賣人情予建制派。雄仔有個親戚曾購買私煙，遇著海關放蛇，因為數量頗多，有轉售的嫌疑，房屋署以從事非法勾當為理由，想收回他的公屋單位。後來由建制派區議員出面求情，才得以過關，「如果找泛民議員幫手，房署不會給他面子。」

雄仔與家人住在狹小的公屋單位，因為要收藏大量「文具」，近月已搬到朋友家中。他與女友關係穩定，卻未想過同居，「租金貴，如果可以搬出來，就可以結婚啦。」「我女友很依賴、很需要照顧。待這件事（抗爭）完結再談吧，不然應付不了。她去旅行連目的地都不知道，帶行李去機場就是了。我計劃好行程，她便跟著我走。」

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Hung（alias） 31 years old Nurse

In the middle of the night of November 8th, 2019, Hung and his girlfriend passed by Wai Fung Plaza in Mongkok and stumbled upon a confrontation between citizens and the riot police. The police fired tear gas bombs when the two started to leave. Hung was hit by a bullet case on his head, leaving a three-centimeter long scar.

“I get so mad every time I talk about this incident. It would have been worthwhile if I was injured at the frontline in a protest,” said Hung. At the time, there were riot police on the streets of Mong Kok. The public was yelling and having arguments with them. That made the police angry, so they retaliated. “Nowadays, the riot police use tear gas bombs as bullets,” said Hung. Hung’s girlfriend, a nurse, was crying from fear when he was hit. However, Hung was calm, only worrying about if he would need to cancel their trip for the day after.

Because of his participation in protests and long working hours, Hung hadn’t spent much time with his girlfriend since June. “She is also a pro-democracy supporter so she understands and never complains, but I knew she was upset about me not spending enough time with her. The get-away trip we had planned was considered to be ‘compensation’ for her. We were also taking my future mother-in-law with us. As a girl, I understand she wants company, care, and time from her boyfriend,” said Hung. After getting stitches at the hospital for his wound, Hung went on the trip.

Hung’s girlfriend and his family know that he participates in protests, but they don’t know he is also a “parent” who helps “raise” 9 teenagers. On the protest on August 18th, he was at Harcourt Road after the end of the protest. He heard someone calling for a social worker. A kid was crying and saying he wanted to commit suicide because his parents are pro-establishment supporters. Hung thought he could do something to help. That’s how he became a “parent” and ended up helping more kids.

In addition to providing emotional support, Hung also helps them financially by giving them money. “ ‘Stationery’ is expensive. I always remind them that safety is the first priority. They should leave their gear behind if they need to run. They can always repurchase their gear. These are good kids, and they don’t always accept my offers, so I need to secretly hide money into their gear for them,” said Hung. The ‘stationery’ is actually protective gear like gas masks and filter canisters. Each set costs approximately HK$1,000. “I have a job, so I can afford them. I spent my savings, so it made me feel bad for my girlfriend, as I didn’t tell her exactly how much I had spent on the kids,” said Hung. Until now, Hung had already spent over HK$60,000 to HK$70,000.

Most of the kids Hung helps are from pro-establishment families. Having different political views, these kids don’t get support from their families and are left with no money and no place to stay. Hung thinks if he were born ten years later, he could have been one of these kids. “My father is an extreme Beijing-backed establishment supporter. He has told me to vote for Democratic Alliance for the Betterment (DAB), a pro-Beijing party since I was a kid. Otherwise, he would disown me,” said Hung. Up until the 2016 New Territories East by-election in the Legislative Council, he still voted for DAB’s Chow Ho-ding, Holden. Of course, he didn’t participate in the Umbrella Movement in 2014. He said the previous protests were about the political system, so he might not have felt a major threat to his freedom then. “It took time to implement universal suffrage, and Hong Kong wasn’t ready.” It wasn’t until the government forced the revision of the “Fugitive Offenders Ordinance” that he finally realized, “If the one country two systems could extradite the fugitives, this change would become a breaking point, with everything in line with the mainland China.”

In the November 2019 District Council election, it was Hung’s first time he didn’t vote for the DAB, “Voters voted based on their political stance. I don’t believe the pan-democrats but I don’t want the pro-establishment parties to win either. Although I still feel that in terms of local affairs, the pro-establishment parties had done more,” said Hung, since the bureaucrats are willing to give favors to the pro-establishment parties. For example, a relative of Hung was caught buying illegal cigarettes, he was suspected of reselling them. The Housing Department wanted to take back his public housing unit on the grounds of engaging in illegal activities. Later, it was the district councilor of the pro-establishment party that helped resolve the issue.

Hung and his family live in a tiny public housing unit, which doesn’t allow him to keep all the ‘stationery’ there, so he moved in with his friend. But he never thought about moving in with his girlfriend. “Rent is expensive. If we could afford to move out, we would get married. She is very dependent and needs to be taken care of. We will wait and talk about marriage later until the civil rights protests are over,” said Hung.

攝 photo：高仲明 Ko Chung Ming
文 text：蔡慧敏 Choi Wai Man
譯 translate：Joanna Ng

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在737-800內，雖然位置不到全滿（經濟艙3-3座位配置），但日航還是很良心幫我鎖起另外兩個位置，讓胖子我坐得比較舒服😌

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