【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
_______________________
3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
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𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱
Mental capital is the finite amount of “energy” to do something (whether it’s trading, exercising, studying, etc.).
And for you, your mental capital is at its peak when you just start trading. That’s because you experience hope, aspirations, and possibilities.
But as the years go by, your mental capital gets depleted.
You have thoughts like:
“This game is rigged and it’s not possible to make money from trading.”
“I’ve been doing it for years but still, no results to show for. I’m a loser.”
“I’ve blown up multiple trading accounts costing me thousands of dollars. This money could be better used elsewhere. Maybe I should stop trading…”
But if you haven’t reached this stage yet, then here’s what you can do…
#1: Manage your expectations
Trading is not a get-rich-quick scheme. It’s impossible to master it over a weekend and expect to be consistently profitable in a few months.
So give yourself time to build a strong foundation.
You’ll likely take 3 years (or more) to know what you’re doing and how this game is played. Plus, there’s no guarantee you’ll even make a single cent.
So, manage your expectations!
#2: Start small
When you start trading, your performance will be at its worst as you have no clue what you’re doing.
To compensate for your lack of experience, you want to start small — so you can reduce your “tuition fees” paid to the market.
This means you want to fund your account with as little money as possible, just to get your feet wet.
And even if you blow up your account, it’s not the end as it’s only a small amount of money which you can afford to lose — and that preserves your mental capital.
#3: Focus on the process, not the results
You’re probably wondering:
“What’s the difference between process and result?”
Well, the result is the outcome you want and it’s not within your control (like to make $10,000 a month from trading).
The process is the steps you’ll take to reach your goal and they are things which you can control.
For example…
- I’ll develop a trading strategy that has been backtested over the last 10 years
- I’ll execute 1,000 trades according to my trading plan without deviation
- I’ll risk not more than 1% of my account on every trade
Does it make sense?
So focus on the process and the results will follow (it’s cliché but true).
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Mental capital is the finite amount of “energy” to do something (whether it’s trading, exercising, studying, etc.).
And for you, your mental capital is at its peak when you just start trading. That’s because you experience hope, aspirations, and possibilities.
But as the years go by, your mental capital gets depleted.
You have thoughts like:
“This game is rigged and it’s not possible to make money from trading.”
“I’ve been doing it for years but still, no results to show for. I’m a loser.”
“I’ve blown up multiple trading accounts costing me thousands of dollars. This money could be better used elsewhere. Maybe I should stop trading…”
But if you haven’t reached this stage yet, then here’s what you can do…
#1: Manage your expectations
Trading is not a get-rich-quick scheme. It’s impossible to master it over a weekend and expect to be consistently profitable in a few months.
So give yourself time to build a strong foundation.
You’ll likely take 3 years (or more) to know what you’re doing and how this game is played. Plus, there’s no guarantee you’ll even make a single cent.
So, manage your expectations!
#2: Start small
When you start trading, your performance will be at its worst as you have no clue what you’re doing.
To compensate for your lack of experience, you want to start small — so you can reduce your “tuition fees” paid to the market.
This means you want to fund your account with as little money as possible, just to get your feet wet.
And even if you blow up your account, it’s not the end as it’s only a small amount of money which you can afford to lose — and that preserves your mental capital.
#3: Focus on the process, not the results
You’re probably wondering:
“What’s the difference between process and result?”
Well, the result is the outcome you want and it’s not within your control (like to make $10,000 a month from trading).
The process is the steps you’ll take to reach your goal and they are things which you can control.
For example…
- I’ll develop a trading strategy that has been backtested over the last 10 years
- I’ll execute 1,000 trades according to my trading plan without deviation
- I’ll risk not more than 1% of my account on every trade
Does it make sense?
So focus on the process and the results will follow (it’s cliché but true).
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我的新歌 “NEVER TOO LATE” 大家都聼了嗎?這個版比較抒情 Acoustic 的感覺。聽完這個馬上再去原版的聼哦!愛你們大家!
原版 MV - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SyCsyl5xP3Y
詞曲 Writers: Sam Lin 林仲軒 / Laurence 羅藝恆 / Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱 / Samuel J Shih 施振傑
製作 Producer | Sam Lin 林仲軒, SHIHKUNIN
編曲 Arranger | SHIHKUNIN
混音 Mixing Engineer | SHIHKUNIN
拍攝 Video Shoot | Eric Lin
【Never Too Late】
演唱:Sam Lin 林仲軒
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
Left my home
Didn’t have much to show
Only you
I went and gave my all
Now you’re gone
Left me here on my own
On my own Not alone, yeah
找回來曾經沒有你的勇氣
不喜歡我的態度 我不在意
不要再糾結 又怎麼能白費
All that I made
-
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
當時天黑 沒人安慰
愛的淚水 深有體會
是是非非 No one to blame
傷痛如灰 Just let it wash away
-
有時候寂寞 有時候脆弱
是我想太多 Out of my control
像以前的我 他會怎麼說
#samlin #nevertoolate #最新單曲
I got to know
Don’t need somebody to complete me
This is where I’m supposed to be, yeah
-
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
當時天黑 沒人安慰
愛的淚水 深有體會
是是非非 No one to blame
傷痛如灰 Just let it wash away
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Sam Lin 自小在加州長大,長期備受古典樂的薰陶。六年前,他大膽放棄原本安逸的金融業高薪,來到台灣這片熟悉又陌生的「家鄉」,展開了音樂人生的新篇章。從一句話都無法好好表達,到現在能流暢寫出激勵人心的中文歌詞,他經歷了一次又一次的人生變動,但他從不後悔,持續堅定向前。
或許正因為長期沐浴在溫暖的加州陽光下, Sam Lin 的詞曲往往散發著強烈的正能量。他希望在這動盪的世界,能夠透過自己的嗓音帶給大家一道驅散所有陰霾的曙光。在「Never too late」中,他跟自己說:「Only you, I went and gave my all.」用告白式的口吻,愛著之前用盡最大努力做出改變的自己,跟過去的自己道謝,並轉身向世界大聲宣告:即使再來一回,他也不會後悔!
卸下百萬觀看人次 YouTuber 的光環, Sam Lin 以歌手身分全新出發。
2021華納音樂最舒心的推薦,Sam Lin
歌名 Song Title: Never Too Late
藝人 Artist: Sam Lin 林仲軒
作詞人 Lyrics: Sam Lin 林仲軒 / Laurence 羅藝恆 / Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱 / Samuel J Shih 施振傑
作曲人 Composition: Sam Lin 林仲軒 / Laurence 羅藝恆 / Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱 / Samuel J Shih 施振傑
製作人 Producer: Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱
編曲人 Arrangement: Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱
配唱師 Vocal Production: 倪子岡 NESE
和聲編寫 Backing Vocal Arrangement: Laurence 羅藝恆
和聲 Background Vocal: Sam Lin 林仲軒 / Laurence 羅藝恆
錄音師 Recording Engineer: 王爺斯禹 Swing Wang
錄音室 Recording Studio: 這家錄音室 Resident Studios
混音師 Mixing Engineer: Sean M. Sinclair 宋星凱
混音工作室 Mixing Studio: 這家錄音室 Resident Studios
母帶後製 Mastering Engineer: Derek Snyder
母帶後製工作室 Mastering Studio: Polygon Mastering
#samlin #samlin林仲軒 #nevertoolate
【Never Too Late】
演唱:Sam Lin 林仲軒
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
Left my home
Didn’t have much to show
Only you
I went and gave my all
Now you’re gone
Left me here on my own
On my own Not alone, yeah
找回來曾經沒有你的勇氣
不喜歡我的態度 我不在意
不要再糾結 又怎麼能白費
All that I made
-
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
當時天黑 沒人安慰
愛的淚水 深有體會
是是非非 No one to blame
傷痛如灰 Just let it wash away
-
有時候寂寞 有時候脆弱
是我想太多 Out of my control
像以前的我 他會怎麼說
I got to know
Don’t need somebody to complete me
This is where I’m supposed to be, yeah
-
不用挽回
I know someday
I’ll be ok
Something ‘bout me
Off the replay
Found my own way
Never too late
再來一回 我從來沒後悔
當時天黑 沒人安慰
愛的淚水 深有體會
是是非非 No one to blame
傷痛如灰 Just let it wash away
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