Thoughts on adulthood friendship.
Have you ever lost any friendship that you thought would be unbreakable? Well, I have. And what scared me even more is that I'll be losing more friends as I grow older.
But, is that really a bad thing?
When I told my mom about this, she was not surprised at all. "School-day friendships are always the best, but might not last for long because none of you guys will stay the same. Your personalities evolve as you go through new life experiences, new hardships and successes, and are exposed to new things."
Recently, I had a quick conversation with this guy on his birthday. We used to be in a closed group of friends back when we were in college, literally doing everything, everyday, together. We supported each other through thick and thin, for that I always felt grateful having them in my life. However, as soon as we graduated, we barely talk anymore, though we all made promise to keep in touch.
It is, of course, very sad.
But then I come to know what it feels like, talking to an old friend. Since he still keeps in mind the image of my old self and I still keep his, we started to see how differently we've changed, which was very fascinating. At the end, I told him, "this is much better than talking everyday without seeing no change in each other, meaning that we've not grown up at all."
Truth is, losing friends is completely natural and even good in some aspects. While some friends drift away, others stay firmly by your side. As we grow older, our time for socializing will simply shrink and we tend to stay connected with those who really understand us.
Maybe, at some point in this busy life, having a it's-been-a-while talk is already such a blessing.
