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#大爺挑戰天天寫字 Day 72

昨天HBO正好在播《慾望城市》電影版， 沒想到一轉眼已經是12年前的電影！雖然已經看過了，還是忍不住熬夜又看了一遍。該怎麼說呢，是我終於長大了嗎？

我怎麼會這麼討厭凱莉😂😂😂

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我是電視兒童，當然沒有錯過成長時期的美劇。Friends其實不太算我的時代，但最後幾季還是有的；慾望城市、Gossip Girl（中文居然叫花邊教主）、How I Met Your Mother（追愛總動員），大概是我最喜歡的幾部。

我還記得小時候失戀，把慾望城市看了一遍又一遍，療癒了心裡的許多創傷和疑問。回想當時，似乎是用一種奇怪的心態看的：這些年紀大我那麼多的姐姐們的戀愛都談得那麼辛苦，或總是談得那麼轟轟烈烈，我還這麼年輕，還有很多路要走，不怕。

現在想起來也許有些荒謬幽默，但仍舊感謝這個影集的陪伴。

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回到正題。我以前看慾望城市的時候，其實沒有特別喜歡哪個角色，只覺得那是一部很精彩的劇本；在多姿多彩的紐約，四個個性截然不同的獨立女性，有最坎坷的愛情故事，最精彩的職場與日常生活，最令人目不暇給的時尚穿搭，還有最堅實的友情，百看不厭。

但對於主角凱莉的感情生活，我其實沒什麼想法。雖然我從頭到尾都不喜歡Big，但以前從來不覺得凱莉哪裡有問題，這次重新看電影，卻覺得天啊！凱莉超煩。😂😂

以下純屬個人觀感，請凱莉迷不要打我拜託。

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凱莉擁有一個集合了多項「感情缺陷」的人格，她極度沒有安全感，在關係裡欠缺自信；她容易因為寂寞喪失原則，或者應該說，她根本就是一個沒有原則的人；再者，因為沒有原則，所以她時常沒有辦法獨立思考，很容易受他人影響；更可怕的是，她情緒管控大有問題好嗎。（看我有多激動😂😂）

（以下有雷）

凱莉在婚禮上接到Big的電話，他話才說一半，凱莉就把手機丟在地上，歇斯底里說：「他不來了～他不來了～～」

然後馬上在街頭遇見了，Big才要解釋，她也完全不給他講話的機會，瘋狂地把捧花砸爛在他身上，這樣正常嗎？

（好啦畫面是蠻有戲劇張力的🤣）

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（以下也有雷）

在凱莉跟Big的婚前派對，米蘭達因為遭逢婚變，心情不好，便隨口跟Big說：「不懂為什麼有人想結婚？」

結果凱莉事後得知，居然對米蘭達大發雷霆，說：「是妳毀了我的婚禮！！」

Hello？有事嗎？如果你未婚夫只因為別人無心的一句話，就馬上決定悔婚，妳難道不覺得妳未婚夫很有問題嗎？妳居然還跑去責罵妳朋友？

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好啦我承認我太入戲了。但我就是一個看電影很投入的人嘛～

有人跟我一樣，
討厭凱莉嗎？🤣

#大爺荒謬隨筆

【一筆一畫的秘密】THE SECRET IN YOUR NAME
(English writing below)

師父曾說，如果自己運氣不好時，可以多寫自己的名字來補運，但只限吉祥的名字。😁

「李季謙」這名字是我師父取的。我的原名，主頑固，與六親和他人的關係不好。名字裡有帝王之格，很年輕就會做領導性的工作，但帝王帶兵打江山時，必定會有血光之災，會受傷流血，因此原名有開刀住院格，而且到老都是如此。

當時我和師父沒見過面，是我第一次打電話給師父時，他在電話中爲我分析名字。他說的都對。確實在我十二和十三歲時，我的眼睛就已開刀過兩次，還留下疤痕，也因長期腸胃不好曾住院。無論是家裡或外面，人緣都不好。我讀書時，就已被老師認定有領導能力。出來工作時，事業運賺錢能力也扶搖直上。可以說，無論我在哪裡就職，要突顯自己的才幹，得到官位或加薪，從來不是問題。但，一切的好，都必須付出代價。

我原本是單姓單名，父親取的。父親、爺爺、大伯和我妹一樣是單姓單名，很是獨特，令許多人誤以爲我不是新加坡人。因爲名字別緻，又有延續李家傳承的感覺，我告訴師父我不想改名。

師父便笑說是我固執作怪，不要改名的原因不實際。真正要延續家族傳承，讓祖先臉上有光，不是保留個名字就算，而是自己本事做出來的事情。如果自己的名字讓自己一直出事，何來的成就可言，又豈是祖先想看到的？祖先沒讀什麼書，如果懂姓名學，他們怎可能不要我有個好名字助運呢？

我特別喜歡我名字裡的「謙」字。師父說將來我會有大成就（他沒說是哪方面），這字會提醒我不要太驕傲。因爲人紅是非必定多，這「謙」字的甜度，比我原名更討喜，能減少許多別人對我的誤會。

師父取名，甚是用心，有遠見。因為我尚未拜師，根本沒想到自己會做今天這樣的工作。

我的身分證仍然保留原名，算是對祖先的一個交代。但在外和家人之間，都是稱呼我的新名。我覺得就猶如有些人爲自己取洋名一樣，祇是漢字的靈動力遠遠超過英文字母，能夠給予我的加持是非一般的。如果你現在稱呼我的原名，我還會倍感陌生呢！

我改名已13年，確實一年比一年好。

學姓名學，必需先學八字學。因爲名字是後天，八字是先天。名字是用五格來斷吉凶。每個字有自己的五行和音律。讀不懂客人的八字，無法深入知道她他名字的缺憾在哪裡，更沒辦法以一個良名去彌補她他八字的不足。可惜我在姓名學方法沒有天賦。學了許久，能很好的解析一個名字，卻無法爲客人取良名。所以需要改名的客人，我都介紹他們去找師父。

但，人是多疑的，有些祇是空有發財夢，卻並非幹大事的料。

客人中，有些拖了許久，才聯絡師父。如果是爲自己，就算了。但有些是爸爸媽媽級的人物，爲自己的愛情結晶，也依然自私。

事先已告訴某位媽媽，她孩子名字很不吉利，會如何如何，我勸她去找師父改名。她說會來找我看孩子的八字，我笑笑。妳在我面前說的是幾句真話，妳當我真不懂嗎？怕傷了妳的自尊，給面子不說破而已。

後來，幼女真的出事了，她才嘗試聯絡師父，說她認為現在是「好時機」。（不是錢的問題）

母愛，不見得真的是最偉大的。雖然孩子不是她最疼的，如此拿孩子的命運來冒險，也是有過失。

大家要懂，你口中說的「好時機」是你自己的一種感覺，不見得和現實吻合。說不定，因為你的婆媽，你已錯過了最佳的時機了。

另一位男客人，也說他會找師父改名。我一樣笑笑。一個男人，有多少本領，就算沒有照片，在臉書私訊裡講幾句話，我便已知。更何況，我已見過他本人三次。他，最終也沒有找到師父。

改名改命，不是你拿錢給我們，我們就「應該」、「必須」、「肯定」爲你服務。你在一旁偷偷觀察我們時，我們也一樣在觀察你，看你有多少耐力與誠意，看看你會不會去幫助社會。

自古，學風水命理的都知道，客人必須有德，我們才能教他如何改命造命。這是祖師傳下來的戒律。違背了這個戒律，爲了名利，胡亂教導，罪業深重。自己不是見死不救，如果真是這樣的心態，我們何必寫那麽多文章，免費供大家閱讀冥想？祇是有些人，真的不能讓他好命有錢，會累人累己的。

不是錢跟地位，決定你能不能夠有良名。你的八字，你的面相有德，你自然而然就拿得起一個良名。

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Shifu once said that if you find your fortunes dwindling, you can write your name in repetition to boost your luck. Condition is it must be an auspicious name in the first place. 😁

My current Chinese name 李季謙 was given by my Master. My old name dictated my stubbornness and poor relationships with my family. It carried the fate of an emperor, which explained my many leadership positions from a young age. Like an emperor leading his men to fight for his empire, there was bound to be bloodshed. This will cause me to incur more injuries, that call for surgery and hospital stay, all the way to old age.

At the time, I had never met Shifu in person. In my first phone call to Shifu, he analysed my Chinese name over the phone and was accurate on every count. Indeed when I was 12 and 13 years old, I underwent 2 eye surgeries and had scars to prove for it. Due to long-term stomach issues, I was hospitalised before. Be it family or external relations, I did not have good interpersonal relations. During my schooling days, my teachers saw my leadership qualities and groomed me. After I started working, my career luck and money-making abilities were always rising.

You can say that, no matter where I went, being recognised, getting promotions and pay raise were never a problem for me. However, as with all things good, there was always a price to pay.

My original Chinese name only had a single Chinese character, given by my father. His own name, just like those of my grandfather big Uncle and my sister, is also of a single Chinese character. It was different from the norm and because of that, many thought I was not a Singaporean. I felt my name was quite special and formed a continuity of the Lee’s family lineage, so I told Master that I did not want to change my name.

Shifu laughed at my stubbornness and impracticality. He said the true way of continuing the family lineage and bringing glory to our ancestors lies not in a name, but in achievements accomplished with my own abilities. If my name was going to bring me misfortunes, how would I have any sustainable achievement and would my ancestors wish to see me constantly in trouble? Given the little education of my ancestors, would they not want me to have a good name to aid my fortune in life, if they had known better?

I am especially fond of the character 謙 in my current name. Shifu predicted that I would have great accomplishments in the future. Although he did not said in which aspect, this character would remind me not to be proud, as gossip tends to surface when one's popularity surges. The sweetness in this character 謙 is much more likeable than my original name, and it will help minimise misunderstandings others have of me.

Shifu always put in such meticulous effort and foresight in crafting Chinese names.

I was not even a disciple of him at that time. I had no idea I would be doing what I am doing now.

My identity card still retains my old name, as a mark of respect to my ancestors. But in my work and with the family, I use my current name. I think of it as somewhat like coining a Christian name. Most people do not have their Christian names in their ICs either. But my edge is that historically, Chinese Han characters are more powerful in influencing one person's luck, than English alphabets. So the empowerment I get is definitely extraordinary. If you address me now by my old name, I would feel very alien indeed!

Since my name change 13 years ago, I have seen improvements year after year.

When we learn anthroponymy, we must first master the subject of Bazi. Because names are acquired, whereas Bazi are inherent. The auspiciousness of a Chinese name is determined by the five grids. Every Chinese character and its pronunciation has a different unique element. If you are unable to decipher the Bazi of a client thoroughly, you will not be able to find out what is regrettably missing in his/her Chinese name. Nor will you be able to come up with a good name to make up for the lack in the client's Bazi.

Unfortunately, I have no talent in anthroponymy. While I can analyse a name very well, I am unable to coin good Chinese names despite learning for many years. Hence, for clients who have this need, I always refer them to Shifu.

Alas, humans are suspicious by nature. Some only dream of riches but have no real ability to achieve it.

Among clients, some took too long to contact Master. If it is only for one’s own benefits, I could not care less. But some were parents seeking improvement for their own children, yet were too selfish to act swiftly.

I once told a mother that her child's name was very inauspicious and what would happen in the future. I advised her to look for Shifu for the change of name. She said she would seek my help in getting her child's Bazi read.

I smiled to myself. You really think I have no idea how much truth there is in your words? I kept mum because I did not want to hurt your pride.

Later on, her youngest daughter really got into trouble. She attempted contacting Shifu, citing that "it is a good time now". No, she didn't have money issues.

I had seen enough to say this: a mother's love isn't always the most noble.

The daughter was not her favourite child. But to risk your child's destiny this way, it is a sin.

Please understand that your “right moment” is based only on your own feeling, which may be incongruent with the reality. For all you know, you might have let the "best moment" fleet past because of your indecisiveness.

Another male client told me that he would definitely look for Shifu to change his name. I also just smiled. I do not need to meet a man in real life, to know how much real ability he truly has. It is telling enough from a photo or a mere few words exchanged via PM. Moreover, I had seen him thrice. He eventually did not seek Shifu's help.

Just because you are willing to fork out money, it does not mean we MUST, SHOULD, SURELY will serve you.

Changing your name and destiny for a fee is not a given, nor is it our obligation. As you secretly observe us from the sides, we are also doing the same. We see how much sincerity and perseverance you have and whether you will give back to the society.

Any one who learns Chinese Metaphysics should know that since ancient times, a client must have virtues before we can help him/her to transform and establish his/her favoured destiny. This is a precept laid down by the grandmasters. If we flout it for the pursuit of profits and fame, we would be heavy sinners.

Do not think of us as someone who will watch you sink and die. If we are indeed of such character, why would we put up so much free content, videos and articles, for your consumption and thinking? There are indeed people that do not deserve more riches in life, otherwise havoc to oneself and others will ensue.

Wealth and status do not decide if you can have a good name. If you possess virtues in your Bazi and facial features, you will definitely be able to carry a great name.

。刀子嘴與白目好。

去年四月，狀況很差的一天，有份怎樣都無法改期的工作。我哭得像豬頭，人又生理期第一天，雜誌出來時，居然是奇蹟美照，感謝得不得了。

一年多後，再度遇到攝影師，再三言謝，請他把其他照片給我。
攝影師惦在心上，昨晚收到了，仍舊很喜歡。

選了張綠色調的照片放上私人臉書，順便感念青春的尾巴，當時還可以露個肚子拍照，大夥自然討論起來。

有位朋友不經意地聊起了調色、構圖，也不知怎麼言語傳達最後竟也像是懷疑我照片「修很大」起來。

當下真心不快。

照片對我來說是有意義的一天，攝影師的善意跟作品我都很喜歡。
那位朋友他忘記了這是在我的臉書，他忘記了攝影師或他的朋友可能會看到，肆無忌憚的眉批起來。

那位朋友，他也許跟我本來就不是生活太相近的朋友，他不理解我對P圖的感冒，或者是其實他也沒什麼理不理解，他只是覺得他心懷善意在聊天。

但你心懷善意的無辜，不代表聽者就必須愉快。

因為那討論串太長，而且越描越黑，後來我把照片刪了（好啦早上還是放回去了，我喜歡那照片），但我也順便把那位認識很久，但說不上有多熟悉彼此的朋友給刪了。

不是說我喜歡討厭他與否，只是，人生就是到了簡單的年紀。朋友無心批評我一次，正因為他不知道自己哪裡說錯，接下來還有二三四五六，我覺得這一切都很麻煩。刪掉照片的當時也只是想到，等等若他又要繼續公開無辜道歉，那瞬間我為什麼要變成壞人，好麻煩，刪掉好了。

那幾句：「我當然知道你沒修圖，但攝影師⋯⋯」「我不知道你現在身材怎樣啦可是我⋯⋯」不管是怎樣，都只是覺得很可笑。

在這個都盡量修飾的很美麗的世界，我其實滿喜歡我的不完美。否則，我會請攝影師把我腰內肉修瘦一點，或者下圖的手臂胖胖肉。

我雖然老說我不愛漂亮，但我要真的不愛漂亮，怎麼可能人生都快過了一半，還總是在減肥？努力讓自己盡量身材二十年不變。

在這個大家鼻子越來越高，眼睛越來越大，皮膚越來越亮的世界裡，我漸漸接受我無法接受這些醫美的協助，一開始是因為我會過敏，但後來發現這樣也不錯，就在有限度的狀況下維持吧；這樣說有點好笑，但跟接受躁鬱症差不多，因為那就是某部分的我，既然沒辦法有所謂「更好」，那我想要喜歡這樣的我。

當我勇敢的（或愉悅的）把這樣的我放上來時，如果被討論的居然是調整了多少，那世界的意義到底在哪？
所以當這樣的我，被人質疑調整、所有的好與壞都是潤飾時，自然會不快。

說話是種藝術，這藝術不是每個人都懂，但說話藝術背後更讓人火腦的是這些：

「他這人是善意，只是白目了些你要體諒他。」
「他現在因為怎樣怎樣，所以你應該怎樣體諒。」

如果要體諒，我也有很長一串的背景可以請大家體諒我：

我是個單身可能無法生小孩，又不確定要不要有小孩；皮膚容易過敏；情緒容易起伏；工作壓力很大；總是擔心體重；打定主意可能獨身到老，所以六十五歲退休前必須要想盡辦法努力存到一千萬；覺得生活大小事都在延畢的四十歲女人⋯⋯

這樣一長串，你也要體諒我嗎？

上面這段太負面了，不代表我這樣看待自己。
很多時候我是快樂的，有時我也會羨慕你擁有的。
只是我認為，很多事情都不用勉強，許多往來是種藝術。

我知道我小題大作了，但所謂「白目的好人」，你們在委屈時也想一下；牙尖嘴利的人，在吃了你們這一頓時，心裡也是一卡車問號，也會想，那誰體諒我，嘴巴利也會吃悶虧？

白目的好人，我其實不怪你，你也不要再跟我道歉，因為說真正生氣的不在於你的反應，而是我們這樣的刀子嘴，遇上你們這種白目好，就像螃蟹遇到柿子，有毒。

你們可以理解，嘴巴利的人在被你們無辜到時，心有不快說出來時，屢屢都會像惡人嗎（譬如現在）。

圖說：
本圖非被友人討論調色圖，那張因為有露腰有點害羞就沒放上來了。
這系列是當時是在拍我跑步的一天，以前住的地方，總是早上跑完步之後，我就去市場買菜，也算是有趣。

再補說：
一整串寫完我突然理解了《How I met Your Mother》裡，羅蘋對那位總是讓她想抓狂的好人同事的心情了。