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再談暴力標籤
Translation: @benkongenglish
Photo: @adonisjing2020
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《藍色》書中《暴力標籤》一文是我認為非常重點的幾篇之一。
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接續上一則貼文,
我想強調:讚美也是一種標籤。
而且不一定是我們以為的「好的標籤」。
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舉幾個例子,
雖非讚美的必然結果,但其必然存在。
不小心在考試中拿到好成績,
或因努力而拿到好成績的學生,
被貼上資優生的標籤。
多光榮呀!
然而其中某些資優生的未來,
只敢戰戰兢兢、如履薄冰,
深怕玷汙榮耀,也怕辜負眾人「善意的期望」。
也許他的人生只剩舒適圈內的安全牌;
也許他的人生被壓力掐著,然後沒了氣息。
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因化妝被稱讚的人,不容易再素顏;
因健身被稱讚的人,不敢怠惰訓練;
因熱心被稱讚的人,不能自私一回。
讚美可能會消耗他人表現得不完美的勇氣;
讚美可能會成為他人一求再求的癮。
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認識自己的真實樣貌,讓暴力標籤失去寄生能力;
欣賞他人的純粹獨特,用尊重和中性的感謝取代標籤。
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One of the most prominent articles is called
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As the sequel of my last post, I want to emphasise that Praise is also a tag, and it’s not necessarily as good as we thought.
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Here are some examples.
They are not the certain outcomes of Praise, but they are not any less true.
Students who got good grades, intentionally or unintentionally, are branded starred students.
How proud it should be.
However, some of them are always walking on thin ice for fear that they will fail the “expectations of good intention” and their glories will be dimmed.
Maybe there’s only safe cards in his comfort zone left in his life.
Maybe his life is choked by pressure and become breathless.
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People who are praised for their make up will not go without makeup again.
People who are praised for the body built through working out will not be slack.
People who are praised for their good deeds will not be selfish again.
Getting praised may exhaust the courage of being imperfect.
Getting praised may become an addiction.
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Get to know your true self and deflect the violet tags.
Get to admire others’ uniqueness, switch tags with respect and gratitudes.
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