致我在新加坡的客人們 ❤️
To My Clients in Singapore
一、🧧
這一年來感謝大家對我的愛戴,及有時候送的小禮物,但紅包錢我從不收多。
我批八字收費是新幣$488,時不時會有客人塞多些錢,放個滿數$500在紅包內,說是一點點心意。
我怎麼就值多個$12而已啊??*震驚🤯😂
也曾有位看風水的客戶塞了一百多塊新幣在裡頭。每個紅包我都會點算,多的我會抽出來還給您,因為無功不受祿。少一毛,我也必定會追。😂
二、🍵
我沒有辦公室,平日在外見客人。
新加坡目前法律規定,大家出外都得戴口罩。在餐館咖啡廳,得有餐飲在桌上才能脫下口罩進食。
我批八字一向包含看客人面相,再加以指點,因此需要客人脫下口罩給我看。
但我們必須遵守法律,所以請每位客人就座後,自行點個飲料或什麼的,好方便我能看您的面相。
您在等待我完成前面客人的諮詢時,就可以先看菜單並點您要的飲料。有時叫個侍應生會花些時間,您先點就能省卻我們等待的時間,好讓我多些時間為您批命。
有的客人平日節儉慣了,只喝餐館提供的免費白開水,或說已經吃飽了或什麼的。
您想想看,我們使用人家的設施一兩個小時,消費一點點是應該的,要不然我們這樣佔別人的便宜,也是在犯偷盜罪。
生意難做,您如果開門做生意,捫心自問,會喜歡別人來您的咖啡廳坐數小時,吹冷氣,而一點小錢都不花嗎?
我做人很簡單,也不喜浪費唇舌。我是來教您如何積福積德的,您不點我們就不看,因為我不能助紂為虐。🙃
三、💵
許多客人很熱情,會想幫我買單,也曾有一些客人為了感謝我,(也可能希望我不要早死😅)便以我的名義做捐款功德。
謝謝您們,您們的愛我深深感受到。🥰
我還夠錢用,可以自己買單,我每天也在勤修功德,積極的累積福報。😁
百善孝為先,捐款人的名字,請放您們父母的名字,他們比我更需要。
但請記得為自己買單。經常有客人,不知是否是看了命後太興奮,沒結帳就衝出餐廳了。我得把他們叫回來,或因為我不知他們未結帳,他們隔天得自己到餐廳「自首」。
您是來找我幫忙的,別因為大意而佔了我的便宜。
四、🏃🏻♀💨️🏃🏻♂️💨
我批八字,一天往往會見幾位客人。
在等待的客人,您認我比我認您來得容易,因此請在我看得到您的三四米內等待。
我不是費玉清,您在千里之外或隔著幾道牆等待,我看不到您呀~
以前下課時,我收拾書包特別快。我看不到人,以為您沒來,可以早收工,笑嘻嘻一溜煙我就跑人了。
遲到的客人,就算只有一分鐘,我也不會見。
改命貴在動作快,人生貴在還青春。
如讀者Danny Sew留言:要招貴人就要在給貴人看得到你的地方。
我見的客人一離開,您就趕緊對號入座,別還等我發出十二道金牌,您才慢條斯理的走千里貓步過來。我若要費時間找神出鬼沒的您,您動作又莫名奇妙的慢,會吃進我們諮詢的時間,這樣驢年馬月您才改得到命呀!
(十二生肖中沒有驢,也就是說永遠改不了命了~)
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To My Clients in Singapore ❤️
1) 🧧
In this one year, I have received much love and care from all of you and sometimes even little presents. But when it comes to my fees in the red packet, I never take more than what I should.
My Bazi consultation fee is S$488. From time to time, some clients will stuff a bit more and round it up to $500, saying that it’s a token of their appreciation.
How can I be only worth $12 more??? *Shocked 🤯😂
Once there was also a Feng Shui client who gave me a separate red packet of S$100+. I count the monies in every red packet and will return the extra to you, because I only take what I should. Similarly, if you give me one cent less, you bet I will chase you for it. 😂
2) 🍵
I do not have an office so I usually meet my clients outside.
Singapore law currently stipulates that we must all wear masks once we are out of our homes. At F&B establishments, we can only remove our masks when we are eating/drinking ie. there are food/drinks on our table.
All along, I do face-reading for clients, as part of my Bazi consultation. Hence, I would need you to remove your mask so that I can read more accurately.
However we must abide by the law, thus please place a food/drink order once you are seated.
If you are waiting for me to finish my consultation with another client, it will be more efficient if you look through the menu beforehand and order first. Calling for a waiter sometimes take time. Placing your order early will save us waiting time and I can proceed with your consultation earlier.
Some clients are thrifty by nature and only consumes the free water provided by the restaurant, or say that they have just eaten.
Think over this: if we use the facilities of a place for 1-2 hours, it is very fair enough to spend a bit of money. Otherwise, we are just taking advantage of other people, and that is equivalent to committing the sin of stealing.
It’s hard to do business. Put yourself in the shoes of the business owner: would you like it if there are freeloaders taking up space in your restaurant for a few hours, enjoying the free air-con and not spending a single cent?
I’m a simple person and don’t like waste too much time explaining. If you are adamant about not placing any order, then I will not proceed with the consultation because I cannot be aiding a sin. 🙃
3) 💵
I often meet friendly clients who wish to pay for my bill. There are also clients who made donations under my name, as a way to thank me for my help. Either that or they are hoping that I won’t die early with more merits under my karma belt. 😂
Thank you so much. I really do feel the love and care you have for me. 🥰
I still have enough money to spend so I can pay for myself. I make it a point to do meritorious acts every day and am diligently gathering good fortune too. 😁
Filial piety is the most important of all virtues. So please donate under your parents’ names instead. They will need it more than me.
Just remember to pay for your bill. There are many instances where the Bazi client gets too excited after our consultation ends and takes flight without paying. Don’t end up taking advantage of my kindness when you are here to seek my help.
4) 🏃🏻♀💨️🏃🏻♂️💨
I see a few clients in a day when I do Bazi consultations.
For my clients who are next in line, it’s easier for you to recognise me than the other way round. So please wait 3-4 meters from where I am seated.
I’m not Fei Yu Ching. If you stand Faaaaaaraway, or behind a few walls and pillars, my eyes just can’t see you.
Back in my schooling days, I’m especially quick to pack my bag when the class dismissal bell rings. If I can’t see anyone, I will assume you pull a no-show, and run off gleefully before you can say Abracadabra, thinking that I can knock off early.
Clients who come late, even if it is just one minute, I will opt to cancel the consultation.
The crux of destiny transformation is in your speed and action. The essence of life is in your youth.
Like what my reader Danny Sew commented: if you wish to beckon more benefactors, then stand at the place where your benefactors can see you.
Once the client I’m meeting leaves, please storm in to take your seat. Don’t wait for me to send out an entourage to invite you, and watch you slowly sashay a thousand miles to my table.
If I have to spend time hunting for you hiding in the shadows, and you aren’t any faster than my pet tortoise, this will eat into your consultation time. Alas! Your Destiny can then only be changed in the year of the Donkey.
(There isn’t any Hee Haw in the 12 Chinese zodiac signs, and that means never are you going to be able to change your destiny.)
「if a person consumes an extra 500」的推薦目錄:
if a person consumes an extra 500 在 謙預 Qianyu.sg Facebook 的最佳貼文
【孩子的心理平安】
You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.
I laughed as I read this quote by Franklin Jones.
Without fail, almost every lesson, this 7-year-old boy would gamely walk up to me and bellow, "老師,我好喜歡你啊!" (Teacher, I like you so much!)
He was rather tall and big for his age. Last week, he gave me a bear hug out of the blue, nearly knocking me over like a bowling pin.
To encourage him to speak more Mandarin, I engaged him in a conversation and asked, "你爲什麼那麽喜歡李老師?" (Why do you like me so much?)
He chirped excitedly with his toothy grin, "因爲你很漂亮!" (Because you are very pretty!)
I don't know whether to cry or to laugh.
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This Facebook comment from Madam Teo struck a chord with me:
"我們用很長很長很長的時間把自己或孩子「弄壞」,然後期待以非常簡潔廉價的方式拿回那已經長茧的健康心理。"
We used a very very very long period of time to damage ourselves or our children. Then we look forward to reclaim that once healthy mindset, which is now infested with worms, with very cheap, easy and clean methods.
It is extremely hard to be a parent, much less a capable one.
Sometimes, there is nothing more ego tripping than trying to be a good parent.
Recently, I got hold of this book and the foreword written by a magazine editor, who is a working mum of two, was particularly insightful, and somewhat poignant.
She wrote:
從孩子一出生開始,我們爲人父母者的腦子裡就會出現兩個字:教育。我們希望通過「教育」讓孩子知書達理、令行禁止、敏而好學、從善如流。我們希望通過「教育」來塑造我們和孩子之間良好的關係⋯⋯祇是,「教育」二字帶來的強大使命感和緊迫感讓我們忽略了這樣的事實:我們與孩子之間先有關係,後有教育,我們首先是一個生命與另一個生命的親密組合,其次才是一個生命幫助另一個生命成爲更好的自己(且不論究竟是誰幫誰)。
From the beginning of a child's birth, the word that appears in the brains of us parents would be "education".
We hope that through "education", our children will be highly cultured and steeped in propriety, obey orders, smart and fond of studying, and follow good advice readily.
We wish that through "education", we build good relations with our children.
Thing is, the strong sense of mission and urgency, drummed by the word "education", often causes us to neglect this fact: We first have a relationship with our children, before education comes in.
We and our children, are essentially an intimate combination of one life with another life.
Secondly, it is then about one life helping another life to become a better version of himself/herself. (Let's not talk about who is actually helping who.)
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These got me thinking about my work and my clients.
How some of them would move homes to be near the desired schools for their offspring.
How they send their kids to many many enrichment classes.
How they work very hard (some become SAHMs) to have better abilities to groom and nurture their children for their future.
They share the same aspiration as the magazine editor. It is no secret that most Singaporean parents take education very seriously. Instead of the phrase Tiger Mum, in Singapore, we call ourselves Lion Mums. #MajulahSingapura *mane flick*
When a male client came back seeking my Feng Shui service, I asked him why. I asked every client why by the way. It is my method of understanding my appeal to my market.
He told me he got favourable results since our Bazi consultation. His little girl getting into the school of their first choice was one reason.
It was a casual mention then when he told me about the school application. Through him, I learnt about the stress parents go through to get their children enrolled in the right schools. Out of empathy, I asked for his daughter's birth details and did a quick calculation to see if their preferred school was a good choice for her Bazi. Just because the parents like a particular school, does not mean the child will really benefit and be happy studying there.
Jackpot, it was great for the little girl. I gave my client some tips to secure the coveted spot in that school. It was a little extra bonus I gave him beyond the usual Bazi consultation. He had been mildly supportive of my work and remained polite, when I pointed out his areas to improve in our interactions.
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More than once, clients have asked me if they can move homes to be near a particular school, for the sake of their children.
My answer is:
Always consider your marriage and livelihood first.
The energies in our living environment can either nurture us or break us. Not all houses are made equal.
If you are in a bad luck cycle, pretty sure you would know it without a fortune teller telling you, chances are you would be attracted to a house of poor Feng Shui. For without the intervention of a Feng Shui practitioner, the state of our Bazi determines the kind of Feng Shui we will naturally get.
The husband is considered the master of the house. While grooming our children is essential, you shouldn't compromise on the husband's career by moving into a house of lousy Feng Shui, just so that the child can register into your dream school.
Money woes, stagnant growth and loss of direction/drive in life can nail a stake into an otherwise happy family.
Last I know, broken families and highly strung parents are never recommended ingredients for happy and emotionally secure children.
The more family members there are, the more delicate my job is. To ensure every family member gets to benefit from great Feng Shui, within the constraints of a house, is always the most challenging part of my job.
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Parents are the first and most intimate teachers of a child.
If a child does not have good role models to look up to at home, sending them to good schools will not have the desired impact as you crave.
Why?
Your DNA runs in the blood cells of your child. Say if you are a lazy person, who has a strong sense of entitlement, it is very likely your child's character will mirror yours. No matter what school he or she is in.
Because a child spends more time at home, with the family, than with his or her teachers.
Parenting is made even more challenging, if the father or mother lacks certain mental nourishment in his or her growing up years and is unable to repair and replenish himself or herself during the adulthood.
The deficient parent would not know how to give those nutrients to his or her child. And a vicious cycle ensues.
At different ages, a child will need different mental nutrition from the parents. These critical nutrients will form the backbone of the child's attitude in life, towards his or her education, marriage, career, lifestyle, family relations, friendships, money management, virtues and morals, ability to endure hardships, solve problems and pick up knowledge.
These mental nutrients are to be adequately given to the child before the age of 7.
One example of a mental nutrient the author raised in her book is the child's sense of importance.
Every child desires to feel valued by the parents. Especially between 0-3 years old. If the parents are emotionally unavailable and does not show to the child that he or she is very important to them, the child will instinctively seek this nutrient from another replacement adult.
Could be the grandparents or school teachers.
If he or she never manage to find this sense of being highly valued, he or she will spend his whole life looking for it.
They may fall in love with someone while still in secondary school, hoping that their partner will see them as the most important person in their lives.
As they get older, they will pester their partner with questions like:
• Am I the most important person in your life?
• How important am I?
• If I am a very terrible person, have a very bad character, will you still love me?
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A quest like this consumes a lot of life energies for both persons in such a relationship. The child may over compromise on himself or herself in a relationship, just to be (the illusion of being) wanted and loved.
Over the past 11 years, I've worked with enough children and adults to see the truth in this author's comprehensive analysis.
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When I do story telling to children, I tend to omit violence. For e.g. if the bad guy is caught and killed, I may modify the plot by saying that he is caught and thrown into prison.
I don't want the children to think that killing another person solves everything. There are already young boys, who go around the class shooting finger guns at their classmates and teachers, and calling it "fun".
While a good school makes a lot of difference, I also think attending religious classes is valuable for young children.
A child who only attends classes for self development will not learn enough to have the motivation to help others. Because those classes focus on his personal success, how to win the race, and not how he can help and love beyond his family and friends. Much less about how to break free from the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Some parents will tell me, they don't want to force their children into a religion at such a young age.
The dramatic irony when they "force" their child to go for tutition after tuition.
Sending your child to Buddhism lessons or Sunday school does not equate to coercing the child into a religion.
Religious classes build deep mental strength at a very different dimension from secular classes.
It teaches gratitude, altruism, compassion, karma, humility, filial piety, repentance (being able to admit you're wrong), precepts (do the right thing) and internal peace.
It shows the child the beauty of forgiveness and forbearance.
Religion also nourishes the child's soul by letting him or her know how important he or she is in the eyes of God, Buddha etc.
The child learns to make sense of the world he is living in and the purpose of his existence.
Jesus was betrayed, tortured and died on the cross. He spreaded the Gospel for only 12 short years. Buddha's blood-related disciple, Devadatta, plotted to kill Him with a drunk elephant but failed. He spoke poison of Buddha and eventually left Buddha, taking away with him 500 monks.
These are all extraordinary men who endured incredible hardships for Their cause. They, as with many great prophets, are the superheroes of Their time.
Thousands of years later, They withstood the test of time and are still highly revered all over the world.
Are Their stories not worth reading to our children? Is there nothing our children can learn from Them, to cope with the stress they will face?
Children don't tell us parents everything. By establishing this spiritual channel of communication, we cross our fingers (and toes) that our precious ones will not go leaping off from their room's window when things are rocky for them and they feel invalidated.
You should still allow the child to choose his or her own faith when they grow up. At least by then, you have built a (hopefully) good foundation of love, strength and empathy in your child when you had the chance to.
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Proactive parents come to me to get their children's Bazi analysed, because they want to understand their children better and propel them in the right direction of growth.
They wish that their children can live a life more fulfilling than theirs, without having to fall too much.
If religion and Chinese Metaphysics aren't your cup of Teh Tarik, then I highly recommend this book that I am reading.
It is an equally good book for a "malnourished" adult to understand himself or herself.
I couldn't find it in Singapore bookstores, so the Husband bought my copy from an online Malaysia bookstore.
There are many Q&As in this book for parents with real-life problems in managing their children. The author gave very sensible and feasible recommendations. These were complied from the author's monthly column in the magazine and her 10,000+ strong real-life case studies.
Most people don't get to unleash their life potential this lifetime, because they lack the mentors and the mental nourishment to realise the powers of their Bazi.
Some of them blame their parents. But there is only so long you can blame them. How long more do you want to put your happiness in the hands of your parents? For the next 60 years? Perhaps like you, they didn't have parents who are adept at giving them the mental nourishment.
I don't think it matters whether you repair yourself when you are an adult or you, as a parent, only realise now what you have been doing wrong.
As long as we are willing to change and improve, we can always make up for lost time.
Better late than never.
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《心理营养》
林文采 / 伍娜 / Shanghai Academy of Social Science Press / 288页 / Hardcover / 2016-3-1
心理营养的内容简介:
正如身体的健康需要物质营养,孩子心灵的成长与心理力量的强大必须获取足够的心理营养。
在成长的不同阶段,给足孩子恰当的心理营养,也就给了他一生幸福的底层代码。
本书中,作者阐述了“心理营养”的理念,同时介绍了气质理论在亲子教育中的应用。结合“心理营养”的理念和气质理论,作者从12个方面全方位回答了父母育儿中的常见问题。
五大心理营养:无条件的接纳;此时此刻,我生命中你最重要;安全感;肯定、赞美、认同;学习、认知、模范。
生命中的“五朵金花”:爱的能力;独立自主;联结;价值感;安全感。
12个方面的问题:
安全感 •情绪管理 •性格难题 •行为偏差 •社交与社会化 •夫妻关系 •妈妈的自我成长和支持 •父亲养育 •隔代养育 •性教育 •疑难表现 •其他生活琐事