在另一半的家長面前,做自己就好啦:D
恬恬在這一年多跟Fabian的媽媽見面次數不算頻繁,但是漸漸的發現我可以不用像在台灣一樣畢恭畢敬的很怕做錯事,在聖誕節期間有幾次要跟媽媽單獨相處,一開始還有點緊張問Fabian我到底要跟媽媽做什麼,怕跟媽媽單獨有點尷尬......
那我想說乾脆跟媽媽一起佈置家裡的聖誕樹或是幫她打掃家裡,結果媽媽竟然覺得她的家沒有整理好,而且聖誕樹早該在我來之前佈置好,所以婉拒了恬恬的幫忙,說可以讓她靜一靜自己完成所有事情～那我就自己回到房間裡頭用電腦,但是在台灣時我都會想說我要不要幫忙,就算她說不用了我是不是不該自己待在房間內,但事實證明媽媽真的不介意恬恬有自己的活動或事情要做,不用因為拜訪她後就要這裡幫那裡幫的～
尤其我餐後想幫她收碗盤或洗碗時,媽媽都會說不用做事去等著吃甜點或是去洗澡～有時我們在聊天時媽媽還會把我想意見該怎麼治Fabian,像是他不練習中文的話,就把中文書擺在我們床中間XDDD
現在媽媽寄得卡片或是email在信末都會提及到我,有種甜甜的幸福感♥ 跟另一半的家長相處,就是儘量做自己也不用太刻意取悅對方,基本該做的做到就好～當然以上經驗不代表全體適用喔！
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When you meet your bf/gf's parents, just try to be yourself:)
This past one year I haven't met my bf's mom too often. But I realize something when I get along with his mom. I don't need to be afraid that I might do something wrong and she won't like me. During Xmas time, I had chances to stay with his mom alone. At first I was a little nervous what I should do with his mom.
I thought then maybe I could decorate the Xmas tree with her or help her clean up her apartment. However, his mom declined me becuz she thought that both things should be done before I arrived. Then I went to our own bedroom and played my computer. In Taiwan I always felt that it's not too nice or good to stay in bedrooms instead of hanging out with bf's parents. But his mom didn't mind that I stayed in bedroom doing my own things. I don't need to feel uneasy not helping her doing anything.
Sometimes after meals I wanted to wash or cleaned up the dishes. She always told me just leave them to her and I sit down to enjoy desserts. Sometimes we joked together how to deal with Fabian if he doesn't do something that he should. For example, if he doesn't study Chinese, then I should put the Chinese book between our bed hehehhehe
Now when his mom sends emails or postcards, she always mentioned me at the end. I feel very touched and happy about it:) When we get along with your bf/gf's parents, just try to be yourself and you don't need to try to please them intentionally. Just do what you normally do.
