關於 life lesson about relationships ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

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for allowing me to connect with myself through this shoot. To remind me to continuously create art 💕
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I started off last week with high energy and passion, wanted to start a weekly theme so I can share more of my creative ideas on this platform.
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But life seems to throw curveballs at me..and last week it hit me real HARD, again. For the last two years, I feel like I haven’t been able to truly pick myself back up. I keep getting knocked down..again and again. And it’s easy to lose hope in this process. To give in to the hurt and pain.
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It’s hard AF but I know deep down inside that I am not the same person that I am two years ago. Through it all, I found pieces of my strength that I never got to know.
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This is unfortunately not a fun TikTok post, but I don’t want to post another travel Insta photo just to share the good side. How can we navigate through life’s gifts of learning about ourselves if we only see perfection.
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I just think it’s so important for me to share the good and the tough. What I learnt this week, is that if I can put in an hour a day (or week) on working out, then I can put in an hour focusing on exercising my mental health. If I can spend two hours on Netflix, then I can spend two hours deepening my relationships (with my peers, family, partner).
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My BIGGEST lesson, I used to ask my myself;
“Why am I putting myself in these horrible situations?”
“Why do I allow people to treat me this way?”
“Why am I so insecure and am not as confident as her?”
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Now I see that these questions are mere reflections of what I’ve avoided to learn about myself..when they’re actually guiding me towards my strength. We’re so used to suppressing the ‘negative’, rather than allowing it to sit with us and to understand it.
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What I need to ask is,
“Which part of myself have I not accepted? Is this why I am hurt by that person?”
“Have I been neglecting myself? Is this why I have certain people in my life?”
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Now I see, that no matter how much you try to suppress the bad, it will always be there. But if we choose to work through it, we’ll already be living on the greener side of life.

Shout-out to my mamas juggling a billion things in their life. Work, everyone’s schedules, school commitments, friend birthdays, Christmas shopping, social calendar, nap times, routines, is everyone fed?, oh no, it’s time to cook again, who am I again? What’s my name?

It’s hard, this constant juggle as a mama. Last weekend, I had to man and host a pop-up store with my husband (we own a gift line called rachealkate - come check us out at Playground Borneo in Publika or the full list is in our newsletter this month - check your emails!!) and we shuffled between watching Ella Grace, hosting visitors, trying to keep all the balls juggled at the same time.

Motherhood feels a lot like this constant juggle between the immense responsibility for our children - their well-being, health, development, and a kazillion other things along with the guilt, the pressure, the balance, our marriages, etc etc.

It’s Monday, the kids are off to school, everyone’s a little hungover from the weekend, if you’re lucky, you finally have just a few minutes to breathe so here are some top tips for staying sane as a mama:

1. BREATHE
It sounds so simple but it’s the heart of motherhood. Breathe. Take a deep breath in and let it out even slower. Repeat a few times until you feel your body physically relaxing. When you take deep long breaths, it tells your body that we aren’t in any threat. That all is good. To uncoil and even as you do that right now, notice how much clearer your mind feels, how much more open your body feels, how much your lungs needed that deep breath. One breath at a time mama, just keep breathing.

2. REST
I’m the guiltiest of this. Forgetting that we need an inhale before an exhale, a pause, a break. Genuine self-care isn’t always massages or baths, genuine self-care is asking yourself what you need and for moms, a lot of times, it’s a break to refuel. A nap. To just go to bed even though there’s a million trillion things that Cinderella still needs to do and if you don’t do this after teeny tiny sleeps, you’ll never be able to get it done.

This weekend, it was just sitting down as I put Ella Grace to nap on the go. It was allowing myself a break instead of multitasking. It was just ten minutes, but that little break fueled me for the next eight hours. Rest mama, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

3. BE REMINDED THAT YOU MATTER
The hardest things we do as mamas is learning to receive instead of give. It’s a lesson I have had to learn over and over again. Who can I call to remind me that I am loved? What safe places can I build in my life to be poured into instead of out? I’m a giver, I love and love and love on others and the privilege is to allow others to love on me too.

My best friend showed up at my pop-up and it meant the world. She came and sat in the boat with me, she didn’t try to make it better or silver line positive thinking it, she just sat with me in the hard heart work. I see you. I hear you. You matter.

Where can you go to be seen, heard, be reminded you matter? What is the hard that you need to conquer to create these relationships?

4. YOUR WORTH IS NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHERS
When we feel our least and most vulnerable, it’s so easy to see all the things we are not, all the things that we are not enough, all the places we don’t belong.

There’s this ugly mama guilt that people never speak about. How it consumes us and speaks to us in the harshest voice. It’s comparison and jealousy, it’s pitting one mama against the other, it isolates and lies and tells you that you don’t belong.

I cannot tell you the amount of times I have sat in the sacred w another mama, who shines and is worthy but feels like she’s failing and not enough. I wish she could turn off the highlight reels of other people’s lives, quiet the judgment that competes, realize her messy chaos crazy motherhood is the heart of what makes her her and that so many would not change what they know and love of her.

We wear so many faces as women. We think we have to be certain people in certain spaces. But what if we just gave ourselves permission to be us? Vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on our sleeves, mamas? What could we build from that space? What would we teach our equally as vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on their sleeves teeny tinies?

5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE
I call myself a mama tribe advocate because it’s something I passionately and absolutely believe in. We can’t and weren’t meant to do this alone. We need our kampung, our littles need their village, we cannot do it alone.

And here’s the part that we all get so wrong sometimes, a tribe isn’t just for the hard and the ugly, a tribe is also for the good and the amazing. For the celebrating and that showing up, on your best and on your worst.

We’ve forgotten how to play, how to just live in the moment and have a million “best days ever!”, how to gather and just do life together.

Ella Grace thought this was the best day ever because our tribe showed up. They loved on her, they loved on us. They helped with the caring and the playing, the seeing and the believing and in the hardest of yards, when my working mama guilt hit me hard because this little big girl was working a nine hour shift w us, another working mama said I get it. I see you. Can I sit in the boat with you and it made all the difference in the world.

So the heart of this is, welcome to our mama tribe. Welcome to our crazy and our chaos and our messy. We do real and hard and love in here. I give you tips and tools and I learn with you. We make mistakes, we try again, we learn to do better.

We are mamas, hear us ROAR.

(and rest)

❤️❤️❤️

Shout-out to my mamas juggling a billion things in their life. Work, everyone’s schedules, school commitments, friend birthdays, Christmas shopping, social calendar, nap times, routines, is everyone fed?, oh no, it’s time to cook again, who am I again? What’s my name?

It’s hard, this constant juggle as a mama. Last weekend, I had to man and host a pop-up store with my husband (we own a gift line called rachealkate - come check us out at Playground Borneo in Publika or the full list is in our newsletter this month - check your emails!!) and we shuffled between watching Ella Grace, hosting visitors, trying to keep all the balls juggled at the same time.

Motherhood feels a lot like this constant juggle between the immense responsibility for our children - their well-being, health, development, and a kazillion other things along with the guilt, the pressure, the balance, our marriages, etc etc.

It’s Monday, the kids are off to school, everyone’s a little hungover from the weekend, if you’re lucky, you finally have just a few minutes to breathe so here are some top tips for staying sane as a mama:

1. BREATHE
It sounds so simple but it’s the heart of motherhood. Breathe. Take a deep breath in and let it out even slower. Repeat a few times until you feel your body physically relaxing. When you take deep long breaths, it tells your body that we aren’t in any threat. That all is good. To uncoil and even as you do that right now, notice how much clearer your mind feels, how much more open your body feels, how much your lungs needed that deep breath. One breath at a time mama, just keep breathing.

2. REST
I’m the guiltiest of this. Forgetting that we need an inhale before an exhale, a pause, a break. Genuine self-care isn’t always massages or baths, genuine self-care is asking yourself what you need and for moms, a lot of times, it’s a break to refuel. A nap. To just go to bed even though there’s a million trillion things that Cinderella still needs to do and if you don’t do this after teeny tiny sleeps, you’ll never be able to get it done.

This weekend, it was just sitting down as I put Ella Grace to nap on the go. It was allowing myself a break instead of multitasking. It was just ten minutes, but that little break fueled me for the next eight hours. Rest mama, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

3. BE REMINDED THAT YOU MATTER
The hardest things we do as mamas is learning to receive instead of give. It’s a lesson I have had to learn over and over again. Who can I call to remind me that I am loved? What safe places can I build in my life to be poured into instead of out? I’m a giver, I love and love and love on others and the privilege is to allow others to love on me too.

My best friend showed up at my pop-up and it meant the world. She came and sat in the boat with me, she didn’t try to make it better or silver line positive thinking it, she just sat with me in the hard heart work. I see you. I hear you. You matter.

Where can you go to be seen, heard, be reminded you matter? What is the hard that you need to conquer to create these relationships?

4. YOUR WORTH IS NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHERS
When we feel our least and most vulnerable, it’s so easy to see all the things we are not, all the things that we are not enough, all the places we don’t belong.

There’s this ugly mama guilt that people never speak about. How it consumes us and speaks to us in the harshest voice. It’s comparison and jealousy, it’s pitting one mama against the other, it isolates and lies and tells you that you don’t belong.

I cannot tell you the amount of times I have sat in the sacred w another mama, who shines and is worthy but feels like she’s failing and not enough. I wish she could turn off the highlight reels of other people’s lives, quiet the judgment that competes, realize her messy chaos crazy motherhood is the heart of what makes her her and that so many would not change what they know and love of her.

We wear so many faces as women. We think we have to be certain people in certain spaces. But what if we just gave ourselves permission to be us? Vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on our sleeves, mamas? What could we build from that space? What would we teach our equally as vulnerable, messy, love out loud, heart on their sleeves teeny tinies?

5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE
I call myself a mama tribe advocate because it’s something I passionately and absolutely believe in. We can’t and weren’t meant to do this alone. We need our kampung, our littles need their village, we cannot do it alone.

And here’s the part that we all get so wrong sometimes, a tribe isn’t just for the hard and the ugly, a tribe is also for the good and the amazing. For the celebrating and that showing up, on your best and on your worst.

We’ve forgotten how to play, how to just live in the moment and have a million “best days ever!”, how to gather and just do life together.

Ella Grace thought this was the best day ever because our tribe showed up. They loved on her, they loved on us. They helped with the caring and the playing, the seeing and the believing and in the hardest of yards, when my working mama guilt hit me hard because this little big girl was working a nine hour shift w us, another working mama said I get it. I see you. Can I sit in the boat with you and it made all the difference in the world.

So the heart of this is, welcome to our mama tribe. Welcome to our crazy and our chaos and our messy. We do real and hard and love in here. I give you tips and tools and I learn with you. We make mistakes, we try again, we learn to do better.

We are mamas, hear us ROAR.

(and rest)

❤️❤️❤️

Hello friends,

I hope you're well. I know I don't appear here very often but as always, I do MISS YOU GUYS very very much. Long time no catch up here. This month, instead of doing the usual Q&A on Instagram, I decided to film it on Youtube instead. Thank you so much for submitting your your questions through Instagram (follow me @itsbubz). You guys asked some really great insightful questions and why this video ended up being much longer than expected so feel free to grab a snack and beverage.

I know the video is a bit blurry. I apologise. I STILL don't know how to focus my camera after over 10 years..... Bad Bubz.

Your questions:
1. What do you miss the most right now?
2. Have you changed since your divorce?
3. The most difficult lesson you’ve learnt in life?
4. How to deal with end of relationship without closure?
5. What would your younger self be most proud of if she knew you now?
6. How do get over being cheated on? My self esteem/self love is even lower.
7. How do you get over shame from your past actions?
8. How do you handle the fear of rejection?
9. How to not fear approaching 30 and single?
10. How do you train Isaac to be so sweet?
11. Favourite Christmas movie?
12. If you had a high paying job but not happy, will you stay in this company?
13. How to not care about people pleasing and being perfect?
14. Are you ready to fall in love again?
15. What are your plans for Christmas this year?
16. Are you dating?
17. What was your recent dream?
18. How do you know of a person’s true intentions?
19. How to break through family expectations?
20. What is your first travel destination after covid lock down?
21. Any big plans and future projects?
22. How do you become your happiest self?


As always, please continue to take care of yourself and your heart.

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