這次邀請到直播訪問的特別來賓是 Joyce。 Joyce 是加州臨床心理學家、同時也是紐約醫學院線上課程兼任教授,這次的直播聚焦在現代科技人的心理健康、看心理醫生的一些迷思、及如何幫助自我達到好的心理狀態。
Joyce 先在紐約哥倫比亞大學拿到心理諮商碩士, 再到伊利諾大學香檳分校取得教育心理學系心理諮商博士,在台灣與美國的許多醫院及心理諮商中心有豐富的臨床經驗,並曾於國立高雄師範大學諮商心理與復健諮商研究所、及亞洲大學心理系擔任專任助理教授。
矽谷作為全球科技中心,是世界人才嚮往的工作及居住地點,路上名牌名車充斥,大公司裡高薪聘請的名校碩博士一堆,看起來十分光鮮亮麗、令人心生嚮往,但現實是工作競爭激烈、生活壓力非常大。在這次直播中 Joyce 會分享她從心理醫生的角度來觀察,科技人不為人知的 "後巷真實人生" 中,心理可能有面臨什麼樣的通病或現象、可以怎麼自我照顧以達到良好的心理狀態。也會討論 如果真的有需要看心理醫生了, 公司會知道嗎? 員工會不會因此被貼上標籤、被公司差別待遇? 最後,會系統性的介紹一些心理諮詢的種類。 直播前及過程中也歡迎大家提問討論。
為了這次直播, Joyce 做了超級充分的準備, 她還特別準備了投影片來輔助說明!如果你聽完後和我一樣覺得受益良多, 歡迎追蹤 Dr. Joyce Sun - CA Psychologist. 心理學家在矽谷 的頁面, 如果你聽完覺得想利用公司的 EAP 或是醫療保險來找 Joyce 諮詢, 直播中有談到她的執照是可以看加州及佛羅里達州的居民,美國其他州要再確認,台灣可能不行,中國可以,因為最近肺炎,她的諮詢都改為線上對談, 她的個案有人還是想要見面談,所以她有一兩個空缺出來, 機會難得, 如果你有興趣, Joyce 的心理所網頁是: https://www.peacefulsunshine.com/
以下是直播訪問的一些內容大綱、搭配 Joyce 推薦的資源連結
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矽谷灣區人的心理狀態
一般性常見的壓力:
Stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem/ self-image, career confusion, relationships, parenting issues, kids/teens (佼佼者父母的失落與不願面對);
正式的診斷 :
bipolar, OCD, psychosomatic symptoms, and other diagnoses
矽谷的公司文化 v.s. 亞洲教育的特質 (12:50)
Make impact & creative v.s. Being helpful and obedient
跟別人比 & 老是看自己的不足
移動的終點線 (高中要前三志願、大學要國立、研究所要...)
健康的心電圖與不健康的心 (加上內向敏感,在乎別人的看法,不想被看到)
沒有很謙虛 = 自大討人厭
集體主義 v.s. 個人主義 (要聽話/要得到認可,結構跟明確方向才有安全感)
破碎的蛋黃哥 (自我認同與核心價值) (26:30)
我可以! 我不需要”幫助”
對自己
對孩子 (青少年自殺等,錯失早療的介入)
什麼狀態建議諮詢 (36:45)
治療/復原模式、平時自我照顧模式、個人成長探詢模式
防疫期間的自我照顧 (40:26)
與現實接軌 (專家建議、合理的準備、不要過度幻想)
固定的新聞時間
運動
興趣、嗜好
朋友們互相支持
正念練習
身體照護: 泡澡、按摩、伸展、深呼吸
五感練習
意象練習
珍惜、祈禱
看心理醫生的感覺? 公司會知道嗎? 會不會被 fire ? (51:20)
不會,confidentiality,甚至不可能知道你是否有看心理師
唯一的例外: 被送來做工作適任評估,但公司只能拿到 yes or no 的回答
矽谷科技人的特殊性困擾 (58:40)
登山攻頂者
靈肉分離者
加州心理師執照種類 (1:01:00)
博士: Licensed Psychologist
碩士:
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
Licensed Marriage and Firmly Therapist (LMFT)
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)
精神科醫師 Psychiatrist: 開藥、部分的精神科醫生也提供心理諮商與治療
美國的心理服務資源 (1:04:00)
保險 (網絡內外)
EAP
公司的額外補助
disability/ unemployment
自費 (心理師搜尋網站 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us、低價網路諮商、open path)
社區資源 (冥想團體、正念中心、瑜珈 、breath work)
對策 (1:08:50)
平衡報導
肯定自己的每個小成就,內在歸因
不只是認知層面的肯定,還要情緒的回應
定義你專屬的蛋黃哥 (核心價值)
個性、優點、興趣、價值觀、哲學觀、可轉移性的技術、
他人對自己的整體印象等
用行為 (包括肢體語言/眼神) 改變感覺 fake it until you become it
Growth mindset v.s. fixed mindset
怎樣的心理治療才有效 (直播中沒時間講,但 Joyce 有準備的內容)
個案要負的責任
想改變的動機
準備度
願意分享的程度
回家功課的努力度
親朋好友的支持等
心理師的部分
專業認證或學有所長
感覺有安全感或至少不討厭
你的個性/思考模式與心理師採用的理論技術的相容性
你與心理師目標的一致性 (問題解決 v.s. 增加自我了解)
推薦的影片連結
TED Talk-Amy Cuddy: 肢體語言塑造你自己有中文字幕,尤其是 15:52 處的個人故事
https://youtu.be/v_vkoz1_nd8
婚姻及伴侶關係: Making Marriage Work | Dr. John Gottman,推薦 Gottman 的所有影片與書籍
https://youtu.be/AKTyPgwfPgg
推薦伴侶們讓關係更緊密的問題討論集- 201 Relationship Questions: The Couple's Guide to Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy:
Amazon 連結: https://amzn.to/2wHmzmY
博客來連結: http://bit.ly/2v4mlGn
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過2萬的網紅曾鈺成,也在其Youtube影片中提到,上一集說了頑皮、反叛,現在來談談聽話、馴服。不聽話是disobedient,相反詞obedient就是聽話聽教的意思。 一、If all the children were as obedient as she is, the class would be much easier to ....
obedient中文 在 Lydia Tong 唐貝詩 Facebook 的最佳貼文
貝貝自傳之 成長篇
我是Lydia,在香港出生和長大,有一個妹妹。從小,父母就為我提供最好的學習環境,把我送到國際學校讀小學,由於國際學校以英語教學,所以不論在學校學習、和同學聊天或者在家裏跟父母交談,我都只說英語,於是家人為我聘請補習老師惡補中文,可是沒多大作用。當時媽媽覺得中文很重要,因此在國際學校讀了一年後,便決定為我轉校。
六歲時,我轉到瑪利曼小學就讀小學一年級。國際學校和本地學校的差異很大,在國際學校完全沒有功課,小朋友都在歡樂的環境中度過,但本地學校的教學方式,卻是每一科都有不少功課和測驗。
中三後我去了英國 Malvern College 讀書,那邊是讀 GCSE 課程,相等於香港中學會考。英國與香港的教育方式有很大分別,英國的考試難度真的跟香港無法比擬。我從沒有想過自己會考可以考取到五個A,這對我而言,無疑是一個很大的鼓勵,之後在倫敦大學修讀工啇管理。
我覺得自己很幸運,可以避開香港的中學會考。在香港讀書,考試不及格是家常便飯,但當自己長期考試成績差,便會對自己失去信心,而且對讀書產生討厭。雖然成績只是一個數字、一個字母,但它能夠讓你覺得自己不夠優越,打擊自信心。
每個人都有夢想,我當然有。從小到大,我想當模特兒,想跟她們一樣瘦、一樣美;也想跟電影裏的女明星一樣有好演技。
有一天,我終於下定決心跟家人說:「我想當一個演員,當一個全職藝人。」那一刻家人都覺得很意外,但對於我能夠清晰果斷地道出自己的夢想,她們是感動的,亦全力支持我在演藝圈工作。
在父母的祝福下,我對演藝工作更有信心更起勁,母親更主動地分享了她從前在娛樂圈累積的寶貴經驗,從前不愛聽意見的我,由於找到了自己喜愛的工作,不期然會變得勤力和乖巧。
我知道我的成長過程很舒適,一切都算順利,但獨立對我而言,並不是一件容易的事。香港生活環境和樓價實在太貴,賺錢難,又會入不敷支,相信自己要真正獨立還有一段距離。媽媽亦常常教導我,做人要「鍥而不捨,永不放棄」,而這八個字已成為我的座右銘。
I am Lydia. I was born and raised in Hong Kong. I have a younger sister. Since I was young, my parents provided the best learning environment for me. They sent me to an international primary school. As the medium of instruction for international schools is English, I spoke English while learning in school, chatting with friends and at home with my parents. Consequently, my parents hired a Chinese tutor to give me tuition in the respected language. In spite of that, it was not very effective. My mother, at the time, felt that Chinese was very important. Eventually, after a year of studies in the international school, she decided that I had to switch schools.
When I was six years old, I went to Marymount Primary School to attend primary one. The difference between international schools and local schools is immense. There is no homework in international schools. Children can pass the day immersed in fun. But there are lots of homework and examinations in local schools.
After Form 3, I attended Malvern College in the UK. I took GCSE courses. They equate to the public examinations in Hong Kong. The teaching approach in the UK and Hong Kong is very different. The level of difficulty when it comes to examinations in the UK cannot be compared to those of Hong Kong. I never thought I could get 5As for my GCSEs. In my opinion, it is very encouraging. I later graduated from Business Management from the University of London.
I feel I am very fortunate because I do not need to sit the Hong Kong public examinations. It is a dime in a dozen to fail the Hong Kong public examinations. But when your grades are chronically subpar, you will lose confidence in yourself. You will also begin to hate studying. Although grades are just numbers, they can enable you to feel inferior. It will defeat your self-confidence.
Everyone has a dream. I also have one too. Since I was young, I have wanted to become a model. I also wanted to be slim and beautiful like them. I also wanted to be like female movie stars with good acting skills.
One day, I finally made the decision to tell my family: ‘I want to become an actress. A full-time artist.’ At that moment, my family was quite shocked. But the fact that I can tell them my dream clearly touched them greatly. They fully supported my work in the entertainment industry.
With the blessings from my parents, I became more confident and motivated in my work. My mother shared with me her precious experience regarding, her days in the entertainment industry once upon a time. I used to dislike listening to others’ opinion. But because I have found the line of the work that I enjoy, I subconsciously became more hardworking and obedient.
I understand that my days of growing up are very comfortable. It is mostly smooth sails. But independence seems a far stretch away. The living environment and housing prices are too high as well as, costly in Hong Kong. It is hard to make money. The money you make cannot support your living. I believe that I cannot be fully independent soon. My mother often teach me that I should have ‘perseverance and never give up’. These words became my words to live by.
obedient中文 在 曾鈺成 Youtube 的最佳貼文
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