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Kau ingat senang jadi mak bapak?

0-12 bulan : Kalau kau rasa jaga baby tu susah kau silap. Jaga baby paling senang (kot?), cukup makan cukup susu tidurlah dia cuma susah part kembong, manja (melekap macam anak panda) atau waktu main dia ikut zone US. 😎

1-2 tahun : saat paling mencabar bila dia dah pandai berjalan, memunggah, menyepah dah 1 hal nak kene selesaikan semua benda dari pagi sampai malam. Ini part yang kau sentiasa kene monitor dia 24/7 ! Kalau tak ade je benda pelik dia buat termasuk tabur bedak 1 rumah atau gunting rambut kau masa kau tertidur. 😏

2-3 tahun : saat paling menduga sebab inilah saat keemasan tantrum dia! Berguling depan kedai, meraung tak nak jalan, melalak dalam mall. Menjerit-jerit tak dapat naik kereta mainan.. eh macam-macam hal lah time-time ni 😂

4-5 tahun : saat buat perangai! Buat perangai tak nak mandi tak nak makan tak nak pakai baju tak nak jalan tak nak segala benda semata tak nak pegi skool (taska). Ulang setiap pagi selama setahun sambil ulang no.1 untuk adik dia.

5-6 tahun : saat kecemerlangan. Okey tahap ni boleh tarik nafas lega sikit sebab dia dah ade kawan boleh nyanyi-nyanyi balik sekolah (tadika) tapi kau jangan lupa ulangan dari atas untuk part adik dia pulak..kah..kah..kah.. 😜

7 tahun : ini nasib..dapat yang pergi sekolah balik sekolah okey alhamdulillah tapi dapat yang pergi wangi balik belacan padahal baru hari isnin kau urut je lah dada kau laki bini. Ha..ha..ha.. 😂😂

8-12 tahun : tak banyak masalah di sekolah kecuali part susah nya nak suruh buat kerja sekolah! Rasa macam menyanyi hari-hari duk ulang suara 😭 kalau yang no.1 perangai cemerlang dari darjah 1 tapi yang no.2 kau kene sabar tahap langit ke-7 dengan perangai #ikutsukaakulahnakbuatketak 😭😅 Tu belum masuk part hari-hari hilang pensil, hari-hari hilang pemadam, hari-hari hilang buku! 💆

Ohye sambil "menyanyi" sambil ulang dari part baby sampai ke bawah untuk adik-adik dia. Kah..kah..kah..

13-17 tahun : cabaran remaja kita sambung lain kali okey ✌

Sebenarnya jadi mak ayah ni best tau, so korang yang belum jadi mak ayah tu aku doakan 1 hari nanti jika diizinkan Allah SWT korang akan dapat rasa macam ni juga, cepat & lambat hanya Allah je yang tahu. Pada yang tak tahu erti kekuasaan Allah SWT tu baik kau diam jangan tanya-tanya orang bila nak ade anak.

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Do you think it's easy to be parents?

0-12 months: If you feel like taking care of your baby, it's hard to be wrong Taking care of the most easy baby (maybe? ), enough to eat enough milk, sleep, it's just difficult to have bloated part, spoiled (sticking like a panda child) or playing time he follows the zone US. 😎

1-2 years: the most challenging moment when he's good at walking, unloading, squeezing 1 things to solve everything from morning to night. This is the part that you always monitor him 24/7! If there's nothing strange, he'll do it including sprinkle powder for 1 houses or cut your hair while you're asleep. 😏

2-3 years old: the most suspected time is the golden tantrum of her! Rolling in front of the shop, roared no way, melak in the mall. Screaming can't ride the toy train.. eh it's all the time 😂

4-5 years: when behaving! If you don't want to take a bath, you don't want to wear clothes, you don't want to go to school (nursery). Repeat every morning for a year while repeating no. 1 for her sister.

5-6 years: a moment of brilliance. Okay this level can take a breath of relief because he already has a friend who can sing back to school (kindergarten) but don't forget to repeat from the top for his sister's part.. kah.. kah.. kah.. kah.. 😜

7 years: this is the fate.. got the one who went to school back from school okay alhamdulillah but got the one who went to smell good back belacan even though it's only Monday you'll massage your Ha.. ha.. ha.. 😂😂

8-12 years: there aren't many problems in school except for the hard part to ask to do school work! Feels like singing every day on repeat the voice 😭 if no. 1 brilliant behaviour from 1th grade but no. 2 you have to be patient with the 7th sky level with the attitude #followsukaakulahnakbuatketak 😭😅 That hasn't entered the part of the days of losing the pencil, the days of losing the eraser, losing the book 💆

Ohye while ′′ singing ′′ repeating the baby part to the bottom for his younger siblings. Kah.. kah.. kah..

13-17 years: our teenage challenge continue next time okay ✌

Actually being parents is the best, so those who haven't become parents, I pray for you 1 days if Allah SWT allowed you will feel like this too, sooner & later only Allah knows. To those who don't know the meaning of the power of Allah SWT is better to keep silent don't ask people when you want

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Seorang Suami Menemui Sebuah Diari Arwah Isterinya Dan Hampir Pitam Selepas Membaca Kandungan Diari Tersebut Kerana Rupanya Arwah Isterinya Itu Sudah Banyak Kali...
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Apa yang nak aku tuliskan ini, jadikan lah sebagai pengajaran buat semua lelaki di luar sana yang bergelar suami. Kisah ini mungkin menyayat hati bagi yang masih ada ‘hati’.

Hari ni genap 67 hari arwah isteri aku meninggl. Dan selama 67 hari ini juga aku tak henti henti menangis di atas pemergian isteri yang paling aku sayang. Bukan aku tak redha, cuma aku rasa seperti tak lepas.

Seperti ada sesuatu yg belum selesai antara kami. Dan malam ini, aku terjaga bukan kerana tangisan baby yg minta disusukan, tapi kerana seakan terdengar dengar tangisan arwah. Allahu..aku tak kuat.

Aku dah berkahwin selama lebih kurg 3 tahun setengah dengan isteri. Kami kahwin muda. Seawal usia aku 20, dan isteri 19. Di awal perkahwinan, semuanya indah belaka. Aku sgt mencintai isteri sehingga langsung tak boleh berjauhan dengan nya.

Sampai kadang kadang bila kena oustation, aku menangis rindukan dia pada waktu malam (aku bekerja di company milik family, dan dia belajar di ipts dekat dgn rumah) . Pergi ke mana saja, aku akan bawa dia bersama. Hatta keluar isi minyak atau beli top up pun dia akan merengek nak ikut. Isteri aku mmg manja org nya dan type of overly attached wife. Tapi aku tak rimas, malah aku suka.

Kami memang sangat rapat. Tambahan pula kami bercinta lepas nikah. We explore everything together. Bila dia cuti sem, aku akan bawa dia berjalan mana dia nak pergi. Isteri aku cantik orgnya. Bukan aku puji sebab dia isteri aku, tetapi sebab semua orang pun cakap perkara sama.

Bila keluar, kalau isteri aku melaram mesti ada je mata yang duk pandang pandang. Memang aku sakit hati, tapi aku pujuk diri dengan cakap takpelah, dia milik aku skrg. Lagipun aku tahu isteri aku mmg jenis sangat tidak melayan.

Bercakap dengan lelaki pun kurang. Dulu masa nak pikat hati dia pun ambil masa berbulan baru dapat kenal. Dia seorang yang sopan, dan menutup aurat dengan sempurna.

Dari awal kahwin, sehingga hampir setahun, aku rasa sangat senang dengan arwah. Kalau boleh, aku nak ada dekat dengan dia je 24jam. Bila ada kerja luar, aku akan settlekan cepat dan berkejar nak balik rumah.

Namun bila masa berlalu, tanpa aku sedar aku makin banyak berubah. Tanpa aku sedar, arwah makan hati dalam diam. Aku makin jauh dengan dia. Aku sibuk dengan kerja luar, sehingga aku rasa seronok berada di luar berbanding di rumah bersama isteri. Kadang kadang, aku cari je apa yang boleh aku settlekan di luar rumah sebab aku bosan stay dekat rumah.

Sepanjang perkahwinan, mmg aku langsung tak pernah keluar kalau bukan bersama arwah. Apa lagi nak lepak malam malam dengan kawan lama. Sampai laa suatu masa aku join macam macam club kereta dan motor.

Makin banyak alasan aku nak jumpa kawan itu dan kawan ini. Mula mula arwah diam , lama lama dia mula merungut yang dia bosan di rumah kesorangan. Tapi aku tak peduli pun. Kadang kadang dia menangis sebab kecil hati dengan aku. Tapi setiap kali dia menangis bila bergaduh atau berkecil hati, aku tak pernah pedulikan dia. Sedar sedar dia dah tertidur dengan air mata kat pipi.

Ye, aku tahu aku suami yg jahat. Aku biasakan dia dengan layanan seperti seorang puteri, kemudian aku ragut semuanya . Dari seorang suami yang cukup lembut, aku berubah menjadi seperti seekor singa bila bergaduh.

Aku akan ignore dia. Aku akan cakap kasar kasar dengan dia. Tangan aku mula pandai sentuh badan dia (itu kalau dia yg mulakan dulu). Sampai kadang kadang aku rasa mcm jodoh aku dengan dia dah takde.

Kami kerap bertengkar. Dan kebanyakannya berpunca dari sikap dia yang terlalu kuat cemburu. Tapi itu dulu, masa dia hidup. Bila dia dah pergi, baru aku sedar. Dia bukannya cemburu buta tetapi dia mahu aku jadi suami yg soleh. Dia mahukan yg terbaik untuk dunia dan akhirat aku. Allah, berdosanya aku.

Aku mengaku, aku memang susah nak jaga mata. Bila keluar berdua, dan ada perempuan cantik yg melintas depan kami mesti mata aku akan terpesona tgk kecantikan perempuan tu. Padahal isteri aku ada kat sebelah. Dan isteri aku pun sangat cantik.

Tapi aku tak pernah sedar semua tu. Bagi aku biasa lah tu lelaki mmg suka tgk perempuan cantik. Aku tak tahu yang isteri aku sedih dengan sikap aku tu. Arwah selalu tegur. Tapi aku buat tak tahu je. Sampai satu masa arwah dah tak tegur lagi, mungkin dia dah penat dengan perkara sama. Aku memang tak tahu bersyukur. Aku tak pernah rasa cukup dgn apa yg aku adaa. Sedangkan arwah dah cukup segalanya

To be honest, aku juga sukar jaga mata dari pandang perkara haram. Kadang kadang aku terlajak layan video prno. Tapi arwah tak pernah tahu. Sampai la satu hari masa dia mengandung 3 bulan, aku kantoi. Masa tu dia sedih sgt, sampai dapat migrain dan kena admit ward sebab pre eclampsia .

Aku risau sgt pasal baby masa tu. Dan it was the last time aku tgk mende keji tu. Aku dah bersumpah pada diri sendiri yg aku takkan tonton lagi umpan syaitan tu. Aku tak tahu kenapa, isteri aku halal untuk aku datangi bila bila masa tetapi pelacur di website itu juga yg aku nak tengok. Sedangkan t
Sedangkan tbuh isteri lebih cantik dari semua tu. Aku hina. Aku memang pendosa

Mulai hari tu, aku tengok isteri rajin bangun solat malam. Aku tahu, dia mengadu kepada Allah perihal aku. Aku tahu, dia bangun untuk doakan kebaikan bagi aku. Itupun semua aku tahu lepas dia dah pergi. Lepas dia dah meninggl. Lepas dah terlewat semua nya.

Seminggu lepas dia meninggl, aku kemas luggage pakaian dia. Dan aku terjumpa satu buku tebal. Aku ingatkan buku nota study dia. Rupanya dalam tu penuh catatan diari dia dari mula kahwin dengan aku sampai la hari terakhir sebelum di admit ward untuk give birth.

Aku baca semua. Air mata aku tumpas. Akurasa masa tu aku nak pergi gali semulaa kubur arwah aku nak peluk dia, aku nak cium dia, aku nak minta maaf aku nak minta ampun. Aku banyak dosa dengan dia.

“Abang, kenapa abg tengok semua tu. Sayang kan ada kalau abg berhajat? Mungkin sayang tak mengiurkan macam pelakon pelakon dlm video lcah tu. Syg minta maaf kalau syg tak pandai layan abg, sampai abg cari kepuasan melalui cara tu.

Ya allah, kau berilah hidayah pada suami aku. Abang, semoga Allah pelihara abang dari pandangan haram ye. Moga hati dan iman abg kuat ye. Takpe, syg tolong doakan abang setiap malam dan di setiap sujud syg. ”

” Cemburunya tengok abg duk pandang pandang perempuan tu tadi. Mmg la cantik. Tapi syg dah usaha habis baik nk bagi cantik jugakk bila keluar dgn abg

Sehelai demi sehelai lembaran tu aku belek. Dari sekecil kecil hingga ke sebesar besar hal dia ceritakan semua dalam buku tu. Baru skrg aku sedar , aku kurang beri perhatian pada dia selama ni. Dan ada satu luahan dalam buku tu ingatkan aku pada satu detik masa awal kehamilan arwah.

“Abang abang! Rasaa ni baby gerakk la! Aku emmm emm je. Mata asyik duk hadap hp. Bosan dgr dia merengek, aku alih tangan letak atas perut dia. Tapi mata masih lekat di skrin telefon. Dan segala kesedihan tu dia luahkan dalam buku tu. Memang aku dengar dia menangis malam tu tapi aku tak peduli pun. Mmg aku tak pernah nak pujuk kalau dia menangis. Apatah lagi nak tanya kenapa. Allahu.. kejam nya aku. Aku tak pernah peduli apa dia rasa.

Banyak yg aku baca dalam diari arwah. Patut laa dia dapat pre eclampsia (high blood prssure during pregnancy) . Padahal umur baru setahun jagung dan ini first baby. Rupanya banyak yg dia stress dan fikir pasal aku. Selama ni tanpa aku sedar, dia byk hide semua post di fb yg nengandungi unsur tak baik atau gmbr perempuan seksi. Betapa dia nak jaga dan nak bantu aku jadi baik.

Jahatnya aku. Memang aku tak pernah ada perempuan lain. Tapi aku seksa perasaan dan emosi dia. Dari apa yg aku baca, dia seolah menjadi sgt paranoid, memikirkan apa yg aku lihat di hp berkait dengan perempuan sksi, perempuan lain, atau tidak. Aku tak salahkan dia. Ini semua salah aku. Aku tak pernah fikir perasaan dia. Aku anggap semua remeh, semua kecil. Sedangkan dia menanggung derita yg besar.

Aku ingat lagi beberapa hari sebelum dia admit ward utk bersalin. Sewaktu dia nak turun beli makanan, dia sempat bergurau. Abang, rindu laa nak dengar abang ckp “awak jalan elok2 tau. Kalau ada org kacau, jerit nama abg kuat2”. Mmg dulu aku sangat lembut dan romantik dgn dia. Tapi aku xtahu mana semua tu pergi. Bukan arwah tak pernah cakap yg dia rindu aku yang dulu. Tapi aku tak pernah peduli.

Sekarang, semua dah takde. Yang tinggal hanya kenangan. Kenangan yang tak boleh mengembalikan apa apa. Dan arwah tinggalkan aku bersama zuriat kami. Nur amsya imani. Wajah iras sangat dengan arwah. Setiap kali aku pandang wajah anak syurga ini, setiap kali tu wajah arwah terbayang di mata. Allah..macam mana aku nak lalui hari hari mendatang.

Sungguh, aku sunyi. Dan sekarang baru aku faham erti sunyi yg isteri aku cakapkan selama ni bila stay dekat rumah sorang diri. Patut laa selama ni dia tak pernah tidur, dan tunggu aku balik walaupun tengah malam. Rupanya dia tak dapat tidur bila aku takde kat sblh

Aku dah hilang segalanya. Aku dah hilang isteri solehah yg sentiasa doakan kebaikan aku. aku dah hilang isteri yg selama ni jadi penguat aku. Abang rinduu nak naik motor dengan awak, sayang.. mcm awal kahwin dulu.

Pukul 1 pagi awak ajak round taman. Abang rinduu nak gurau dengan awak. Balik laa sayangg.. abg janji abg tak keluar dengan kawan dah. Abang janji abang tak hadap hp 24jam dah. Abang janji abg xpandang perempuan lain dah. Abang janji :(.

Menangis lah air mata darah pun. Arwah takkan kembali. Aku takde apa nak pesan banyak banyak. Tapi ambil laa kisah aku sebagai pengajaran. Tolong laa ambil sebagai pengajaran. Jangan sampai semua terlambat, baru kau nak menyesal. Aku menyesal. Menyesal. Menyesal.
A husband found a diary of his late wife and almost swoon after reading his diary content because apparently his late wife has many times...
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What I want to write about, make it a lesson for all the men out there who are called husbands. This story may be heartbreaking for those who still have 'heart'.

Today is only 67 days my late wife left. And for the past 67 days I haven't stopped crying over the passing of the wife that I love most. It's not that I don't accept it, it's just that I

It seems like there is something unfinished between us. And tonight, I'm awake not because of the baby's cry that asked to be breastfeed, but because it's like hearing the cry of the late Allahu.. I'm not strong.

I've been married for more than 3 years and a half to my wife. We married young. As early as I was 20, and wife 19. At the beginning of marriage, everything was beautiful. I love my wife so much that she can't be far from her.

Until sometimes when I get oustation, I cry missing him at night (I work in the family's company, and he's studying in IPTS near home). Go anywhere, I'll take her along. Hatta comes out of oil or even buy top up he will cry to follow. My wife is really spoiled by her person and type of overly attached wife. But I'm not crazy, but I like it.

We are very close. Plus we love after marriage. We explore everything together. When he's a semester holiday, I'll take him to walk where he wants to go. My wife is beautiful. I don't praise because she's my wife, but because everyone says the same.

When it comes out, if my wife dresses up there must be eyes that are looking at. I'm really hurt, but I persuade myself by saying it's okay, he's mine now. After all, I know that my wife is very kind of not entertaining.

Talking to a man is also lacking. In the past, when he was about to catch his heart, he took months to get to know him. He's a polite person, and cover his body perfectly.

From the beginning of marriage, until almost a year, I feel so happy with the late. If possible, I would like to be close to him for 24 hours. When there's an outdoor job, I'll settle fast and chase to go home.

But when time passes by, without me realizing I change more. Without me realizing, the spirit eats the heart in silence. I'm getting far away from him. I'm busy with outdoor work, until I feel good to be out there rather than home with my wife. Sometimes, I'm just looking for something that I can settle outside the house because I'm bored staying at home.

Throughout the marriage, I will never go out if not with the deceased. What else to hang out at night with old friends. Until one time I joined like a car and motor club.

More excuses for me to meet that friend and friend. At first the late was quiet, long time ago he started complaining that he was bored at home alone. But I don't care. Sometimes she cries because she's small with me. But everytime she cries when she fights or gets discouraged, I never cared about her. Realized that he fell asleep with tears on the cheek.

Yes, I know I'm a bad husband. I used to do her with service like a princess, then I snatched all of them. From a gentle husband, I turned into a lion when fighting.

I will ignore him. I'd be rude to him. My hands are starting to touch his body (that's if he started it first). Until sometimes I feel like my partner with him is gone.

We fight a lot. And most of them are caused by his attitude that is too jealous. But that was the time he lived. When he's gone, then I'll realize. He's not jealous but he wants me to be a good husband. He wants the best for my world and my afterlife. Allah, I am sinning.

I confess, I am hard to keep my eyes open. When both of you come out, and there's a beautiful woman who passes in front of us, my eyes will be amazed by the beauty of the Even though my wife is beside me. And my wife is very beautiful too.

But I never realized all that. For me it's normal that men like to look at beautiful women. I didn't know that my wife was saddened by my attitude. The late always greets. But I just don't know. Until one time the deceased hasn't told me anymore, maybe he's tired of the same thing. I don't know how to be grateful. I have never felt enough with what I have. While the deceased is enough

To be honest, I'm also hard to keep my eyes from looking at illegal things. Sometimes I watch the video too much. But the spirit never knew. Until one day when she was pregnant for 3 months, I was caught. At that time he was so sad, until he got migraine and got admitted to the ward because of pre eclampsia.

I was so worried about the baby at that time. And it was the last time I saw that cruel thing. I swear to myself that I won't watch the devil's bait anymore. I don't know why, my wife is halal for me to come to me anytime but the prostitute on the website is also what I want to see. Whereas t
While the wife is prettier than all that. I am despicable. I am indeed a sinner

From the other day, I saw the wife awake at night prayer. I know, he complains to Allah about me. I know, he woke up to pray for me for the goodness. That's all I knew after he was gone. After he left. After all it's too late.

A week ago she left, I cleaned her clothes luggage. And I found a thick book. I thought it was his study notebook. Apparently the diary is full of notes from starting to marry me until the last day before admitted to the ward to give birth.

I read all. My tears are broken. I feel that time I want to dig back the grave of my late I want to hug him, I want to kiss him, I want to apologize. I have sinned with him.

′′ Brother, why do you look at all that. Love is there if you wish? Maybe it's a pity that you don't like the actress in the video of the crazy video I'm sorry if I don't know how to treat me, until I find satisfaction through that way.

Ya Allah, please give guidance to my husband. Brother, may Allah protect you from illegal opinion. May my heart and faith be strong okay. It's okay, dear, please pray for me every night and every kneel dear. ′′ ′′

′′ It's jealous looking at brother looking at that woman just now. It's really beautiful. But unfortunately I've tried it and it's better to make it beautiful when I'm out with

One piece by one piece I turn into the sheet. From as small to small as big as he says everything in the book. Now I'm aware, I haven't paid attention to him all this time. And there's one expression in the book that reminds me of the early moment of the late pregnancy.

′′ Brother brother! I think this is a baby! Me emmm emm je. Eyes keep on facing hp. Tired of hearing him whining, I put my hand on his stomach. But the eyes are still stuck on the phone screen. And all the sadness he expressed in the book. I heard him crying that night but I don't care. I never wanted to persuade him if he cried. What else to ask why. Allahu.. I'm so cruel. I never cared what she felt.

I read a lot in the late diary. No wonder he got pre eclampsia (high blood pressure during pregnancy). Even though it's only a year of corn and this is the first baby. Apparently he's stressed out and thought about me. All this while without me realizing it, he hid all the posts on Facebook that contain bad elements or sexy women's pictures. How much he wants to take care of and help me be good.

I am evil. I never had another woman. But I torture her feelings and emotions. From what I read, she seems to be very paranoid, thinking of what I saw on her phone related to women, other women, or not. I don't blame her. This is all my fault. I never thought about her feelings. I take everything trivial, all small. While he suffered a big suffering.

I still remember a few days before he admitted to the ward to give birth. When he wanted to go down to buy food, he had time to joke around. Brother, I miss listening to my brother say ′′ you walk well. If someone disturbs me, shout out my name loudly ". I was so soft and romantic with him. But I don't know where all that went. It's not the spirit that he misses the old me. But I never cared.

Now, everything is gone. All that is left is memories. Memories that can't bring back anything. And the spirit left me with our children. Nur Amsya Imani. The face is very similar to the spirit. Every time I look at the face of this heavenly child, every time the face of the deceased is imagined in the eyes Allah.. how am I going through the coming days.

Really, I'm quiet. And now I only understand the meaning of silence that my wife has been talking about all this while staying at home alone. No wonder he hasn't slept yet, and wait for me to come back even though it's midnight. Apparently he can't sleep when I'm not beside me

I lost everything. I have lost my solehah wife who always pray for my goodness. I've lost my wife who has been my booster all this time. I miss riding a motorbike with you, dear.. like I got married early.

At 1 am you invite me to round the park. I miss joking with you. Come back dear.. I promise I won't be with my friends anymore. I promise I won't face my phone for 24 hours. I promise that I don't look at other women anymore. I promise :(.

Crying tears of blood. The spirit will never return. I don't want to order a lot. But take my story as a teaching. Please take it as a teaching. Don't let it be late, then you regret it. I'm sorry. I am sorry. I am sorry.Translated

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‘ฮาวทูทิ้ง’ เป็นหนังที่มีคนถกเถียงกันมากจริงๆ ในโลกออนไลน์ หลายคนชอบ หลายคนไม่ชอบ ส่วนตัวสำหรับหมอ ต้องบอกว่าหนังเรื่องนี้ทำให้เก็บไปคิดต่อหลายวันเลย หมอชอบทีเดียว

(โดยเฉพาะเพลง ปลูกกุหลาบแดง 9,999 ดอก คือ มันสะท้อนในหัว inception มาก55)

หลายคนไม่ชอบจีน ด่าเลยด้วยซ้ำ ในทวิตเตอร์ความเห็นแรงมาก ทำให้หมอได้แรงบันดาลใจในการเขียนบทความนี้

(กำลังจะสปอยล์เต็มที่แล้วนะ)

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หมอรู้สึกเข้าใจจีน เพราะจีนคล้ายๆ คนที่มีปัญหาสุขภาพจิตหลายคนที่เคยคุยด้วย คือ จีนมี Defense mechanism แบบ Immature (หมายถึงกลไกป้องกันทางจิตใจที่ไม่ค่อยดีนัก)

ตรงนี้เป็นเพราะประสบการณ์ตอนเด็กๆด้วย

อันหนึ่ง คือ Identification with the aggressor

จีนทำกับพี่เอ็ม แบบพ่อตัวเองทำเลย ที่ทิ้งจีนกับครอบครัวไปตอนเด็กๆ แบบไร้ความรับผิดชอบ ทิ้งให้ครอบครัวต้องทนทุกข์ทรมานต่อเนื่อง แม่ก็ดูไม่โอเคอย่างแรง ร้องเพลงซ้ำไปซ้ำมา ไม่ยอมไปนอนเตียง ทิ้งเปียโนของพ่อไม่ได้

เธอทำเป็นไม่แคร์ไม่สนใจพ่อ แต่มันไม่ใช่หรอก เธอแคร์พ่อมาก เจ็บปวดไม่ต่างจากแม่ แต่เธอใช้กลไกป้องกันทางจิต ปฏิเสธ ไม่ยอมรับความรู้สึกที่เกิด เพราะมันอาจจะเจ็บเกินทน และโดยไม่รู้ตัวเธอส่งผ่านความเจ็บปวดที่มีให้กับแฟนอย่างพี่เอ็ม ทิ้งเขาไปแบบทิ้งขยะ ไม่สนใจ ไม่ติดต่อ ไม่บอกด้วยว่าทำไมถึงทำแบบนั้น

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หลายคนบอกว่าจีนเห็นแก่ตัวจัง ไม่แคร์ใคร จริงๆแล้วเธอก็แคร์อยู่ อย่างฉากที่ตามคืนของเพื่อนๆ หรือตอนที่หารูปในฮาร์ดดิสก์ให้ หรือตอนที่พูดขอโทษเพื่อนสนิท

แม้ว่าไม่ถนัดนัก จริงๆเธอก็แคร์อยู่นะ แต่หลายครั้งชอบปฏิเสธความรู้สึกตัวเอง โดยเฉพาะเรื่องพ่อนี่แหละ

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จีนเริ่มรู้สึกเจ็บปวดจริงๆ ร้องไห้ เข้าใจความรู้สึกตัวเอง หลังจากที่เธอโทรศัพท์หาพ่อ ถามพ่อเรื่องเปียโนเก่า ว่าจะทิ้งไปได้มั้ย (ซึ่งหมอชอบฉากนี้มาก ไม่ได้ยินเสียงพ่อ แต่รู้ว่าที่พ่อพูดแต่ละอย่าง คงไม่แคร์อะไรใดๆ ทำให้คนดูรู้สึกเจ็บไปกับจีนด้วย)

จริงๆ แล้วเธอก็รู้สึกแย่กับการที่พ่อทิ้งไป แต่ที่ผ่านมาเธอปฏิเสธความรู้สึก ไม่ยอมรับมาตลอด

อย่างน้อยๆ จีนก็คงโล่งไปมาก หลังคุยกับพ่อ เพราะเธอน่าจะเริ่มเข้าใจตัวเอง และคนอื่น ยอมรับความเจ็บปวดได้มากขึ้น

น้ำตาของจีนตอนจบ คงอยากจะบอกคนดูว่า จีนรู้แล้วว่า ตัวจีนรู้สึกอย่างไร และรู้แล้วว่าพี่เอ็มเจ็บปวดแค่ไหน

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ถ้ายอมรับ เข้าใจมันได้ ก็จะก้าวต่อ Move on ต่อไปได้

จะทิ้งก็ทิ้งได้ แต่ต้องทิ้งอย่างมีสติ อย่าทิ้งแบบไม่รับผิดชอบ และต้องทิ้งแบบ Healthy ด้วย อย่าทิ้งด้วย Immature Defense และการใช้กลไกทางจิตที่ไม่เหมาะสมบ่อยๆ ส่งผลให้เกิดปัญหาสุขภาพจิตได้

#หมอมินบานเย็น
#เข้าใจจีนผ่านประสบการณ์วัยเด็กของจีน

' How to throw away ' is a really controversial movie in the online world. Many people like many people don't like personal people. For doctors, I have to tell that this movie makes me keep thinking for days. Doctors love it.

(Especially the song to plant 9,999 red roses. It reflects in the head inception. 55)

Many people don't even like Chinese scolding on Twitter. The comments are so powerful. Doctors inspired to write this article.

(I'm about to be spoiled to the fullest)

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Doctors feel that they understand China because China is similar to people with mental health problems. Many people talked about, Chinese has an Immature Defense mechanism (meaning mental defense mechanism that is not quite good).

This is because of the childhood experience too.

One is Identification with the aggressor

Jean did it to M as his own father did it. She left China with the family as a kid. She left her family to suffer continuously. Mother doesn't look very okay. Singing over and over again. She didn't have to go to bed. She couldn't

You act like you don't care about your dad. But it's not. You care about your dad. Hurt no different than your mom. But you use mental defense mechanism. Refuse to not accept feelings because it may be hurt beyond patience and without knowing. You pass the pain you have for your boyfriend. Brother M left him like a garbage disposal. No contact. No contact. Tell me why he did that.

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Many people say Jean is selfish. She doesn't care about anyone. She actually cares. She doesn't care about her friend's night scene or when she finds a photo in a hard disk or when she says sorry to her best friend.

Even though I'm not good at it, you care about it. Many times, I reject your feelings. Especially with my father.

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Jean started to feel really hurt. Crying to understand her feelings after she called her dad asking dad about the old piano if she could leave it. (The doctor likes this scene. She didn't hear the father's voice but knew that the father said each other. She did n' Any one hurts the audience for China too)

In fact, she feels bad about her dad leaving, but she has been denied her feeling.

At least Jean will be relieved after talking to her dad because she should start to understand herself and others more pain.

Chinese tears. At the end, I would like to tell people that China knows how China feels and knows how Brother M is hurt.

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If you can accept it, you can move on to Move on.

You can leave it. But you have to leave it consciously. Don't leave it irresponsible and Healthy. Don't leave it with Immature Defense and often use of mental mechanisms. It can result in mental health problems.

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