「我很想照著計畫好好執行,達到我的目標,但不知為什麼有時候就是提不起勁來,然後就擺爛掉了,一擺爛,就回不去了。」
我想這是很多拖延症的人會有的問題,其實我也常常有這個問題,尤其是剛離職、成為全職媽帶小孩、邊在家加減接案工作的初期,我像斷了線的風箏、出了籠的自由鳥,覺得不用上班打卡、沒有主管、沒有考績壓力、沒有人管我,好!自!由!可以自己分配自己所有的時候真的很棒耶!
雖然還要帶孩子也真沒那麼自由啦,不過總覺得可以自己管自己真的很爽啊~然而,這樣的日子開始沒多久,我一天一天越來越消沈,兒子醒的時候我就照顧他,而他睡了我也跟著一起睡,我睡不著就懶在床上用手機追劇,最後一整天下來我除了把兒子吃喝拉撒都搞定之外,我什麼事也沒幹,衣服沒晾、碗沒洗、飯沒煮,更不用說運動了,我甚至還穿著睡衣呢!
過沒多久我就發現這樣真的不行,再這樣下去我就找不到自己的價值變成一攤只會帶小孩的爛泥了,所以有一天開始,我在睡前把明天想做的事寫下來:家務、運動、寫書、拍照,列出一張清單,把這幾件事輕重緩急、先後順序排好,當兒子睡覺的時候,雖然我當下真的有那麼掙扎1分鐘,我好想一起躺著發懶!但是一念之間,我選擇了從床上溜下來,去做我清單裡的第一件事。
通常第一件事我都會放最簡單的,比如說把衣服丟洗衣機、把廚房晚收一收,這種大概10分鐘能完成的小事,然後完成以後就去清單上把那件事劃掉,心中小小的累積了一滴成就感之後,繼續下一件事。
一整天下來,乍看之下我很忙,兒子睡了我卻忙東忙西的都沒有休息還運動,但每到晚上睡前,看著被畫乾淨的清單,我內心的滿足與累積的成就感,推進我繼續為下一天規劃。
這個習慣我已經執行了2年以上了,一開始不容易,但這個習慣,讓我在兩年內生了兩個孩子,身材變腫又瘦回來、出了兩本書、開發了一些小產品、寫了數篇文章,並且也把全家人照顧的好好的。
「自律才能獲得真正的自由。」這句話一點都沒錯,在我規定自己完成清單上的事時,我是在紀律內的,但在我完成他們之後,我的內心是踏實又自由的,我的能力則隨著這些一點一滴累積的執行力不斷提升,我想,這就是雅里斯多德這句話的意義。
懶是人性,但決心改變通常僅在於一念之間。不只是運動健身,生活亦是如此。
Through discipline comes freedom.
through discipline comes freedom 在 Stay Fit with Mi Facebook 的精選貼文
「我很想照著計畫好好執行,達到我的目標,但不知為什麼有時候就是提不起勁來,然後就擺爛掉了,一擺爛,就回不去了。」
我想這是很多拖延症的人會有的問題,其實我也常常有這個問題,尤其是剛離職、成為全職媽帶小孩、邊在家加減接案工作的初期,我像斷了線的風箏、出了籠的自由鳥,覺得不用上班打卡、沒有主管、沒有考績壓力、沒有人管我,好!自!由!可以自己分配自己所有的時候真的很棒耶!
雖然還要帶孩子也真沒那麼自由啦,不過總覺得可以自己管自己真的很爽啊~然而,這樣的日子開始沒多久,我一天一天越來越消沈,兒子醒的時候我就照顧他,而他睡了我也跟著一起睡,我睡不著就懶在床上用手機追劇,最後一整天下來我除了把兒子吃喝拉撒都搞定之外,我什麼事也沒幹,衣服沒晾、碗沒洗、飯沒煮,更不用說運動了,我甚至還穿著睡衣呢!
過沒多久我就發現這樣真的不行,再這樣下去我就找不到自己的價值變成一攤只會帶小孩的爛泥了,所以有一天開始,我在睡前把明天想做的事寫下來:家務、運動、寫書、拍照,列出一張清單,把這幾件事輕重緩急、先後順序排好,當兒子睡覺的時候,雖然我當下真的有那麼掙扎1分鐘,我好想一起躺著發懶!但是一念之間,我選擇了從床上溜下來,去做我清單裡的第一件事。
通常第一件事我都會放最簡單的,比如說把衣服丟洗衣機、把廚房晚收一收,這種大概10分鐘能完成的小事,然後完成以後就去清單上把那件事劃掉,心中小小的累積了一滴成就感之後,繼續下一件事。
一整天下來,乍看之下我很忙,兒子睡了我卻忙東忙西的都沒有休息還運動,但每到晚上睡前,看著被畫乾淨的清單,我內心的滿足與累積的成就感,推進我繼續為下一天規劃。
這個習慣我已經執行了2年以上了,一開始不容易,但這個習慣,讓我在兩年內生了兩個孩子,身材變腫又瘦回來、出了兩本書、開發了一些小產品、寫了數篇文章,並且也把全家人照顧的好好的。
「自律才能獲得真正的自由。」這句話一點都沒錯,在我規定自己完成清單上的事時,我是在紀律內的,但在我完成他們之後,我的內心是踏實又自由的,我的能力則隨著這些一點一滴累積的執行力不斷提升,我想,這就是雅里斯多德這句話的意義。
懶是人性,但決心改變通常僅在於一念之間。不只是運動健身,生活亦是如此。
Through discipline comes freedom.
through discipline comes freedom 在 Roundfinger Facebook 的精選貼文
Gen Y อยากอดทนต้องทำไง
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Question: How can I do to be 'patience' in work, sister Ae?
I am a Gen Y kid. As I have heard that I am a low tolerance kid who is very true. I don't tolerate. I don't fight. I want high freedom. I try to be patient, but I can't take it for myself. Even the previous generation can endure more. So I want to ask for advice on 'patience' for kids. How can I build it sustainably?
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Answer: Personally, I think that the low tolerance habit of Jane is caused by two reasons. One is modern technology. Two is a necessity in
1) Changed technology: Make this generation live with the media that brings the whole world in front of them. Just open a computer, mobile phone or tablet. One day, see as much information as people. The previous generation took months to use and the speed of technology that increases "Instant" to count the days.
I see the world so much. Everything is fast. It's not strange that people are bored easily and patient.
In addition, technology also makes them see a lot of " choices " and don't like to do this job. There are many other jobs to do. So I feel like I don't have to " stop " themselves at any job and ask yourself all the time. - Is this the best job that fits us?
2) Financial necessity: This generation is the children of the generation. Working hard to make money to build a certain amount of life (may not all), so there is a certain status of family status. There is no condition. I have to endure to endure the job that you If you don't like it, quit. No burden to take care of money, so it's not necessary for them because they can still be supported by home.
Both of them are the advantage of Jane Y. Meanwhile it can make us become serious. Drifting without destination and keep running away.
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I found that "patience" is like a muscle. I have to practice, discipline, force myself. Even if I suffer myself in some times. It hurts, so that it will happen so that it will be strong.
If the growth of the body has to go through hard and continuous growth of the inner mind, there is no difference.
Our brain learns from thinking and doing something repeatedly from behavior will slowly change to " habit " if we let ourselves to escape our own problems, that will slowly become our " habit " and we often say " can't help it. I'm human. Like this " but in fact, we can practice our habits as we want. If we practice ourselves to face problems, be patient with what you don't like. Work hard, cross through boredom. These will gradually become " habits " with us.
It's like waking up and working out every morning. Some days are lazy. Some days are hot. Some people run for three days. There are plenty of excuses in life. But the one who build muscle is successful is the one who do what does what. It's hard to do as others give up one by one by one.
If you really want to build a "muscle of patience" we will have to discipline myself. Tell myself that I will be patient. Not easy to quit so that my heart can grow. How many years will we be like this? No one. Let's make us grow. Besides practicing our own heart through experience that we have to spend time with it. Even if we don't like it all, we will get through it and become another stronger.
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We should have "goals" both concrete and abstract
See how I want to complete this job. If this piece is successful, what will it look like if we pass these three months. This year, where will we move to in terms of skill.
Patience is to pass the " present " condition for better condition in the future "
So the picture of "future" must be clear. I have to answer myself what we are patient for. If this goal is not clear, we will not have encouragement and there is no
It's like a muscle player with a picture of a model, a good shape. Put it on the side of the lid.
But sometimes the concrete goal is not clear, we may aim for abstract that no one can see in our heart. Such as I will practice my mind by getting through the unhappy moment to overcome the boredom and settle down with this job. Going for at least a year or two years
You can expect that if we focus like this and work seriously with a positive attitude. Want to develop ourselves. We want to come out the best. We will get two results for ourselves. One is the more work skills. Two are the maturity in terms of mind. If patient enough, you definitely get that
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And in the end, try to choose the most favorite job you can find or figure out at that time. Because whether it's a job we like or not, there are some things to be "patient" with. It will make us endure that longer. There is a reason to Endurable
Plus, we should adjust the attitude of living and work. That we don't live to find happiness or work for happiness only, but we work to learn. We work to practice. We work to grow both the inner and spiritual.
Therefore, Luang Jean Shaolin has to find water instead of sleeping and sitting for day.
We have to go through difficult to grow, to be patient, to be strong, to be strong, to be
I used to read a book about brain work. Research says that if we don't " cross " difficult things, we won't be happy because life without challenges. We need " difficulty " to have " happiness " We need to "overcome" so that the substance of happiness.
Walking away from problems and boredom brings more problems and boredom because we will be bored of " overcome " anything or nothing to " to " overcome "
Humans can't stand that kind of condition. It's harder than having to be patient to overcome.
No matter what Jane, I think patience can practice. It's up to us. Is it enough to play muscles. It's straightforward. I have never seen anyone with exercise. There won't have a strong muscle.
Patience is like a muscle. The more we have it, the more we can endure the weight and the more weight we can lift, the stronger we become and grow.
All that comes must start with the first muscle.
Ready to bodybuilding! Have you grown heart muscle yet?
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